Rama goes to the forest and Sita accompanies him. Lakshmana also accompanies but his wife Urmila does not. (I am not going into the details because those are unnecessary here imo.) Hence when Sita is kidnapped, Lakshmana has already spent close to 13 years in the forest tending to the comforts of Rama and Sita but he has been alone. Rama and Lakshmana are of the same age, both are young men. Our culture requires that the elder brother regard the younger brother as though the latter were his son. It was based on this same cultural values that Sumitraa said,
रामम् दशरथम् विद्धि माम् विद्धि जनक आत्मजाम् |
अयोध्याम् अटवीम् विद्धि गच्छ तात यथा सुखम् || २-४०-९
(Look upon Rama to be Dasaratha. Look upon Seetha the daughter of Janaka as myself. Consider the forest as Ayodhya and depart happily, my son! when bidding adieu to her son.)
And so Rama's wailing over the loss of Sita, within hearing distance of Lakshmana, will be akin to a father describing his deceased wife's beauty within hearing distance of his son. If such a conduct on the part of an ordinary, run-of-the mill father is okay for the those who deify Rama here, then I have nothing more to say. Mine is indeed a different mindset. I did not seek to make fun or rubbish Rama's unacceptable conduct; I condemned it.
Dear Sangom Sir,
Sorry, I took a break. I am back again.
Sri Rama's words:
"Without you, I do not want ascendency to heaven ,nor do I desire immortality, nor do I wish for sovereignity over the globes."
"I was indeed permitted by you earlier. How is it that you are prohibiting me now?"
"Oh Lakshmana! If you proceed to the forest along with me now, who will support Kausalya or the illustrious Sumitra?"
"Oh, Lakshmana the knower of righteousness! Thus, your devotion towards me will have been fully demonstrated by you. By honouring the elders, a great unqualled religious merit will accrue to you."
Sri Lakshmana's Reply:
"Oh, Rama the valiant! Bharata being inspired by your splendour of morality will respect Kausalya and Sumitra. There is no doubt in this matter."
"Kausalya obtained (by grant) thousand villages , which are dependent on her. Hence, that venerable Kausalya can maintain even thousand people like me."
"Taking my bow and arrows and carrying a spade and a basket, I will walk in front of you showing the path."
These words of Lakshmana, convinced Rama to allow Lakshmana accompany Him.
Physical relation is only for the mortals like us, becos we are driven by vAsana. For Rama, Sita, and the brothers, the rishis/sages, the purpose of the Lord is more worthy.
It is very much possible, that the first creations (sanat kumaras, sages) was not supporting the Lord on pro-creation (multiplying the universe, for the salvation of the jivas).
So, Brahma had to instill the bewilderment (maya, beauty of woen/nature) and dopamine receptors, to multiply, else every jivas' inherent nature is more at being inward-Self than to mingle. Now, with too much dopamine, we moved far-away from self.
Your perception has gone awry. In your same logic, why didn't Lakshmana leave the couple alone? Then, why didn't they have their progeny in the forest (those 14 years?).
Goddess Lakshmi's parattatva must be beautiful, so there is no wrong in each other's admiration. We should be eulogisizng the divine couple every second.
Lord Vishnu's leela, is to involve and experience every one of His devotees' love/emotions/service to Him. So, are the reasons for those sorrow, whinning, expression of fear, defeat, inability, separation etc. throughout Ramayana.