Anbu said:
Dear Silverfox,
I hear your views and no one is forcing you to accept this. I don't think Acharyal could be forced to accept a new rule for his traditional acts. When you say " Next thing I will hear is that we should practice 'sati' because that was also an 'acharam'" you have gone a bit too far in your assumptions, I am sorry to say.
Acharyal or anybody else in the world is NOT forcing any young or old widow to shave her head. I thought I made that clear. Pl. be fair in making such statements.
Dear Mr. Anbu:
Thank you for your response. However, I am afraid you are taking things out of context. The whole purpose of my posting was NOT for my own sake but for the community; more so for our women. The Acharyal is our guru and if he himself shuns our ladies because they wouldn't (or didn't) shave their heads, then how can he claim himself to be a 'Jagadguru'?
Also, shall I infer that you agree with the tradition of shaving a woman's head if she becomes a widow? You keep saying that 'noone is forcing anybody'; but the argument is not 'forcing someone' but the Acharyal not seeing a widow whose head is not shaved.
Please, I apologize if any of my questions offended you but I was sincere when I asked the question - if shaving a woman's head is 'acharam' so also the practice of 'sati', which was abandoned, thanks to the British.
Nevertheless, the central theme of my posting is that Acharyal implicitly forces widowed women to shave their heads; otherwise, he will not see them and bless them.
I thought this forum has been started for uplifting, advancing and reforming our Brahmin society. Until all of us do our soul-search and own up to our shortcomings, nothing good will come out of this forum. We can write about our glorious past, the Vedas, and all that good stuff until the cows come home. But it wouldn't amount to a hill of beans if it is not going to help put our women on par.
Mr. KRS:
[The Maha Periaval did observe traditions and there was a reason for that. We have a raging debate going on about 'Varna and Dharma - an interpretation for today's life' under the Miscellaneous section of the Kanchi Forum about the same topic. You will learn there that the context makes the difference. Please do not be so quick to condemn the teachings of a Great Sage.]
Based on your posting, you certainly don't fit the bill of 'secularist'; otherwise, you would agree with me!!! (even though I hate secularism). I hope Mr. Anbu doesn't label anybody who wouldn't agree with his views. It is like the US Republicans labeling anybody who criticized the Bush Administration going to war on Iraq as 'unpatriotic'!!
I plead ignorance; I did not get a good understanding of what you were trying to convey. Certainly by any extent, I am not 'condemning' any teachings of the Acharyal; I am a disciple and I am too stupid to 'condemn' the Maha Periyaval. At the same time, if he is to decree (or teaching) that in order to see a widow and to bless her, she must shave her head, then I have a problem with that. God did not issue these rules.
Why are you, gentlemen, not answering me when I ask you -- 1. how come we treat a widower different than a widow? 2. Will you do it if it comes to your own daughter who becomes a widow, since you all believe in tradition and 'acharams' (only in this context)?
Thanks