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[renuka]

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Dear VR ji,

2 days ago over the weekend I was shopping for groceries at a mall and I saw a small cute boy aged around 5 alone in the store shouting above his voice in Hindi asking "Mummy where are you?" He was shouting for almost 5 times.

Then I saw a North Indian woman(she looked like an Indian citizen) and she came from the aisle behind and came towards the boy.

She was the mother of the boy and the boy then started yelling at his mum in Hindi using the word Tu instead of Aap and yelled saying "Where were you? How can you leave me alone?What if anyone had grabbed me?"

The woman just kept quiet.

I was thinking that the little boy had more sense than his mother.

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

Dear VR ji,

Yes..you are right.

I once had a patient from Nepal who was the son of a temple priest a Brahmin by birth.

He came here to work as a security guard and he presented himself with acute gout within 2 months of working here.

I was surprised to note how this happened and asked him if he was still vegetarian or has started eating Non veg here.

He said he was pure veg back in Nepal but after landing here he was tempted to try non veg and he said he loved the taste of mutton and has been eating it daily!

I told him no wonder he got acute gout cos his body could not handle the sudden surge in uric acid cos previously he was pure veg. Even non vegetarians take years to get gout and this guy got it in 2months!

I told him to stop non veg and go back to Veg diet and he refused..he said he cant live without mutton now.

I told him at least stop eating daily and he still said he cant stop.

He was totally out of control..gained so much weight too.

Dear Renu,
I have many cases where once the barrier is broken

the people can't be contained any more!

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

Dear VR ji,

2 days ago over the weekend I was shopping for groceries at a mall and I saw a small cute boy aged around 5 alone in the store shouting above his voice in Hindi asking "Mummy where are you?" He was shouting for almost 5 times.

Then I saw a North Indian woman(she looked like an Indian citizen) and she came from the aisle behind and came towards the boy.

She was the mother of the boy and the boy then started yelling at his mum in Hindi using the word Tu instead of Aap and yelled saying "Where were you? How can you leave me alone?What if anyone had grabbed me?"

The woman just kept quiet.

I was thinking that the little boy had more sense than his mother.

Dear Renu,

I think it is the Nature that prepares the future generation to survive by making them smart and alert.

In olden days mothers and grand mothers used to take pride in stating that their children/ grand children would sit like dolls in one place for any length of time.

I had secretly coined a word to represent such dull, dumb children.

It is 'ChaaNaak koodai' ( a basket of cow dung) which will stay put for any length of time - since no one would even steal it!

We in our generation were smarter than those to dumbos. Our children are certainly smarter than us . My grand children often surprise me with mature behavior.

I bet the little boy has more sense than his careless mother.

 

[renuka]

Dear Renu,

I think it is the Nature that prepares the future generation to survive by making them smart and alert.

In olden days mothers and grand mothers used to take pride in stating that their children/ grand children would sit like dolls in one place for any length of time.

I had secretly coined a word to represent such dull, dumb children.

It is 'ChaaNaak koodai' ( a basket of cow dung) which will stay put for any length of time - since no one would even steal it!

We in our generation were smarter than those to dumbos. Our children are certainly smarter than us . My grand children often surprise me with mature behavior.

I bet the little boy has more sense than his careless mother.

Dear VR ji,

I feel children are never dumb..its just that in the past parents were very strict and free with hitting kids and this induced fear in children to behave.

So children sat quietly and "behaved" at least externally but this to a great extent did not permit these kids to express themselves.What was in their mind no one knew.

A child is capable of anything if giving an opportunity to bloom...a child is like a flower bud..when the surroundings are conducive..they bloom.

Just like in the past women were thought to be dumb.
Even religious text too echoed similar sentiments that women are dumb witted,less intelligent,less trustworthy etc.

But is it true?

Nope..its not..but it was a perception back then becos females were not allowed to express themselves.

Likewise all those children who seemed dim witted could have missed out being anyone in life..we just never knew their potential.

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

Dear Renu,
You are right. But back in those days children were produced in fractions or multiples of dozens :bump2:
Unless a military ruler was present in the house there will be nothing but chaos. But those days parents were able to command the respect of their children.
Now they don't get respect even if the demand for it.
Women have never been dim witted though many of them may be short sighted, selfish, possessive and jealous to the core!

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

Professional-skills very similar to Professional-hazards!

"seal irukka cylinder thirppaan!" very similar to "thol irukkap pazham vizhungi."

When we connect the new cylinder, we have to struggle to pull off the blue plastic seal, open the stopper by simultaneously pulling the string horizontally and lifting the cap up vertically.

But when asked to check the valve the gas delivery boy slides open the seal without damaging it , check the valve and replace the seal without a trace of having been tampered by him!

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

When a student complained of lack of concentration, her maths teacher advised

her to chant Hanuman Chaalis everyday for improving her concentration. She

assured that it never fails to help the students.

You are sure to wonder, "What is so great about this revelation anyway?"

Nothing but this revelation: The teacher is a staunch Christian!

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

I am told that the teachings of Bhagavat Gita are often quoted
in the religious sermons of the other popular religions.
WE just keep saying "Let noble thoughts come from every direction" :blah:
THEY don't say it but let noble thoughts come from every direction. :thumb:

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

Everyday during my early morning visit to the temple she crosses my path... dressed in wrinkled nightie, with hair unmade, face unwashed and teeth not brushed carrying a garbage bucket.

She would turn her face away AS IF I am a sight not to be seen be her. I could not but chuckle inside thinking how the reactions are reversed.

I should be the one turning my face away after visiting the temple to see this awesome beauty early in the morning! :scared:

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

Morning is the right time for many things ... yoga, meditation, exercises,

walking, reading, singing and practicing for any kind of sadhana.

Yet most people waste it in sleeping till late!

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

ஓர் அரவு

ஓர் ஆண்

ஓர் இரவு

ஓர் இறகு

ஓர் உறவு

ஓர் ஊமை

ஓர் எருது

ஓர் ஏற்றம்

ஓர் ஐயம்

ஓர் ஒட்டகம்

ஓர் ஓணான்

ஓர் ஔஷதம்

இது என்ன ஒரு இலக்கண வகுப்பா?

இது இன்றியமையாத இலக்கணம் தான்.

புலவர்களை அடையாளம் கண்டு கொள்ளும் புரவலர்களுக்கும்;

அந்தப் புரவலர்கள் தரும் புலவர் பட்டத்தைப் பெறுபவர்களுக்கும்!

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

"ஒருத்தி மகனாய்ப் பிறந்து ஓரிரவில் ........"

எத்தனை முறை படித்திருப்பார்கள்

எத்தனை முறை கேட்டிருப்பார்கள்

அடியார்களும், அடியேன்களும் இந்த வரியை!!!

புலவர்களும், புரவலர்களும் இந்த வரியை !!!

 

[renuka]

Morning is the right time for many things ... yoga, meditation, exercises,

walking, reading, singing and practicing for any kind of sadhana.

Yet most people waste it in sleeping till late!

Dear VR ji,

I agree..In fact I do not have the habit of waking up late even on Sundays.

I get up at the same time so that I do not miss my daily schedule.

One of the reasons why I wake up the same time on Sundays is becos I have severe Monday Morning Blues on Mondays.

So if I wake up late on Sunday it would feel that the morning is gone and Monday is already near and my mood will take a real dive and I would feel moody like hell.

So I wake up the usual 5.30am so that Sunday feels very very long since its an off day for me and I go about my day feeling that Monday is still far away and it helps improve my Monday Morning Blues a little.

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

Dear VR ji,

I agree..In fact I do not have the habit of waking up late even on Sundays.

I get up at the same time so that I do not miss my daily schedule.

One of the reasons why I wake up the same time on Sundays is becos I have severe Monday Morning Blues on Mondays.

So if I wake up late on Sunday it would feel that the morning is gone and Monday is already near and my mood will take a real dive and I would feel moody like hell.

So I wake up the usual 5.30am so that Sunday feels very very long since its an off day for me and I go about my day feeling that Monday is still far away and it helps improve my Monday Morning Blues a little.

Dear Renu,
You have the same philosophy as my younger son. He too insists that holidays must be the longest jolly days!
Now that he is grown up and has tons of weekend tasks I bet the weekend holidays are the longest days.
Whether or not they are jolly days as well, is debatable!

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

My days start one hour earlier since Mid July.

I have stopped doing the Yoga which was in the wrong dosage /duration for my over weight and worn out knees and made my knees ache more.

Now the pain has subsided and I am able to walk long distances after many long years.

Nothing like an early morning long walk to feel closer to Nature, listen to the songs of the birds, smell the fragrance of the flowers and feel happy and relaxed.

The deep breathing and silent chanting of naamaas done during the walk generates energy needed for the rest of the day.

 

[krish44]

Dear Renu,
You have the same philosophy as my younger son. He too insists that holidays must be the longest jolly days!
Now that he is grown up and has tons of weekend tasks I bet the weekend holidays are the longest days.
Whether or not they are jolly days as well, is debatable!

most married boys realise the value of mother only after marriage.

when wife keeps loads of work to be done by husband in weekend, they think of old achhe din with mother

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

most married boys realise the value of mother only after marriage.

when wife keeps loads of work to be done by husband in weekend, they think of old achhe din with mother

Dear Mr. krish,
I myself never gave any work to my sons when they were young. Now seeing the things happening, I feel that may be it will be better if the mothers themselves trained their sons for the 'Bure Dins' ahead!
Then the mother won't feel so bad seeing their dear sons work so hard.
And the sons would readily accept this inevitability of the 'Bure dins'! hwell:

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

most married boys realise the value of mother only after marriage.

when wife keeps loads of work to be done by husband in weekend, they think of old achhe din with mother

Some clever sons want the best of Both the Worlds!

They want the freedom given by the mothers in the West

and the services rendered by the mothers in the East. :roll:

And they may lose both after tying the knot of bondage!

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

The realization of the value most of the good things in life

almost always dawns after they are gone for ever!

 

[krish44]

In good old days married women used to go back to their mothers home periodically when going used to get tough at in laws place.

These days boys go back to their mothers place to get pampered when they get ill treated by wives and made to do menial work by their wives.

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

"mein mai ke chale jovoongaa thoo dekthe raho!!!" :bolt:

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

In good old days the son in law used to treated like Royalty

in his mother in law's place.

Maamiyaar veedu/ vEttgam/ vEttaam / used to be an Utopia.

But not any more! :nono:

In good old days even a blade of grass dropped on the ground

after being addressed as "maappillai!" would jump up from the floor.

But not any more. :nono:

Every dad wants a compact maappillai (kaikku adakkamma irukkanam)

Yaar kaikku? Ellaar kaikkumaa?? :wacko:

 

[renuka]

most married boys realise the value of mother only after marriage.

when wife keeps loads of work to be done by husband in weekend, they think of old achhe din with mother

This means I am a good wife!LOL

Cos I never make husband do extra load..I would be totally ashamed of myself if my husband ended up doing more work than me.Doing little by little on daily basis keeps the weekends free.
One should not keep loads for the weekend.

For example on a weekday just before having a bath..wash the bathroom.It would be a good before bed time work out too.So weekend is free.

The heavier work like climbing up ladder and wiping the ceiling fans that I let my husband do cos I am afraid of heights.Husband can do work like changing curtains/cushion covers etc.

Wife can concentrate on less heavy work.

 

[krish44]

This means I am a good wife!LOL

Cos I never make husband do extra load..I would be totally ashamed of myself if my husband ended up doing more work than me.Doing little by little on daily basis keeps the weekends free.
One should not keep loads for the weekend.

For example on a weekday just before having a bath..wash the bathroom.It would be a good before bed time work out too.So weekend is free.

The heavier work like climbing up ladder and wiping the ceiling fans that I let my husband do cos I am afraid of heights.Husband can do work like changing curtains/cushion covers etc.

Wife can concentrate on less heavy work.

Most wives think that men should hang curtains, A few ambitious make them clean ceiling fans.

I like the way wives transfer work to their husbands.

They act careless and leave some homework unattended. If husband does it once,it stands transferred to husband. so the same work he has to do repeatedly if

need arises in future. Over a period of time , the husband becomes useful home without his realising it.

but most wives oversee pretty well and never hand over control to husband.

they will be washing utensils not cooking. similarly men can keep accounts if it suits them and they have finance background but not decide what items the

home requires or how money should be spent on household requirements .

most women know how to govern lovingly without pressurising beyond the point.

it is gentle Halal not jhatka

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

Yes it requires a lot tact, love, coaxing and goading

to extract work from an unwilling husband!

The secret lies in making him unaware of

how much he work he actually does!

This in turn depends on how much sleep he is deprived of.

When running deficit on sleep man becomes a robot

just obeying orders without actually thinking about it.

But if you think I have formulated all these steps, you are mistaken.

This is what I have learned by observing the American husbands

whose plight is worse than that of Indian wives.