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Think or sink!

renuka said:
I am starting to dislike any festivity.

I see year in and year out my mother is getting older yet she refuses help for cooking and cleaning.

Then doing all the extra work for any festivity the next day she ends up sick and weak. I have to keep a close watch on her and yet she does not take my advise to allow others to help her cook and clean.

That is why I told everyone this year that festivities should not be a day where mother remains stubborn and wants to cook and clean..so better not come to the house so that she gets enough rest.

I really made sure she did not cook or clean as much cos year in a year out she falls sick after Diwali.

I told my dad that we are old enough to know the festivities are just another day like any other day and nothing to get too excited about.

I am started the dread any festival..thank god Diwali is done with.
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Dear renu,
I share your views.
With the children and grandchildren half away across the globe,
I still have to stand on my two hurting feet and prepare all the goodies.
I was down and out on Diwali day and managed to keep the migraine at bay!
Today morning I could hardly get out of the bed since the right shoulder and both feet still hurt.
Thanks to the hours of standing and non stop kilarufying of the sweets!
Really festivities are becoming nightmares!
For me it is always a thankless job in whatever I do!
 
Dear Renu,

You mom seems to be very special! Yesterday, I posted a write-up in Tamil, in forum, captioned 'andha nALum vandhidAdhO!'

remembering Diwali in my childhood days that I enjoyed so well, with my grandfather, parents and siblings! :grouphug:

Ever since my son left for the U S of A, the cheer in the celebrations started dwindling! :( But Ram and I used to visit all the

relatives, with packets of sweets prepared at home and as years passed by, all have become senior citizens! So, this Diwali ended up

with ONLY one sweet (oats-milk cake) and Omapodi! No visits too due to heavy rains that lashed and still lashing Sing. Chennai! :cool:
 
Raji Ram said:
Dear Sis,

Probably you missed to view the two threads created especially to greet each other for Diwali!

BTW, all my forum friends reciprocated my wishes by e-mail!! :thumb:
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You are R.R and will get greeted on phone/e mail and also in person.
As for me even the family members avoid calling me on the phone!
Am I becoming popular and loved more and more as time moves on???
 
Finding something interesting/humorous/ educative/ enlightening/ entertaining
EVERYDAY OF THE YEAR and sharing it with 'F' s and 'F' s is not an easy task.

Those who doubt this statement MAY try to do it and find out for themselves.

Thanks for enlightening me on a Diwali Day and making me decide once for all
to save my precious time in future which can be used up for enriching my blogs!
 
OMG! I did NOT mean the forum activities at all, dear Sis!

I meant making the sweets and savories for the festivals! :)

Even now, I remember you distribution of Avakkai pickles when we lived in Vizag.
I never used to do that kind of job! :peace:
 
VR
Happy diwali.
Our north indian diwali is only today 11th evening.
So greetings at 8.30pm on 11th.
I am unable to decide which is better your blogs or your avakai pickles which RR remembers to this day...
I know untimely rains might have ruined diwali of many in tamilnadu.
We are a bit more lucky.
It is a less noisy diwali in delhi his year. {Am I becoming deaf?}
 
Another real life krish rising to the occasion???

Dear Mr. Krsih,

Thank you for your greetings and good wishes right on the dot of Diwali in North India. :)

If I do anything at all I try to do it to my best ... be it a blog or aavakkai pickle or a dance or music.

I used to be Mandu-enough to prepare and carry a dozen bottle of the Andhra Aavakkai pickles while

coming down to the south for all my uncles/ aunts and siblings.

Plastic containers were not so neat and attractive 4 decades ago. So the weight will be increased by

the glass bottles used to pack the pickles. And I didn't dare to it give to the coolie who might break the

bottles carelessly. So it was a special personal courier service from point to point.

It seems to have been my life all along... "Nekhi Karo... Juthe Khavo" :boxing:
 
Visalakshi Ramani said:


You are R.R and will get greeted on phone/e mail and also in person.
As for me even the family members avoid calling me on the phone!
Am I becoming popular and loved more and more as time moves on???
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Dear VR ji,

Do you really still care who wishes you or not?

I do not bother to wish anyone these days and neither I expect anyone to wish me..I feel as we age we sort of prefer not to be "bothered" by others.

I might be 45 years old but I think I have a mind of a 90 year old!LOL
 
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krish44 said:
VR
Happy diwali.
Our north indian diwali is only today 11th evening.
So greetings at 8.30pm on 11th.
I am unable to decide which is better your blogs or your avakai pickles which RR remembers to this day...
I know untimely rains might have ruined diwali of many in tamilnadu.
We are a bit more lucky.
It is a less noisy diwali in delhi his year. {Am I becoming deaf?}
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Why the difference between North and South Diwali days since the past 2 years?

Before that it used to be the same day.
 
renuka said:
Dear VR ji,

Do you really still care who wishes you or not?

I do not bother to wish anyone these days and neither I expect anyone to wish me..I feel as we age we sort of prefer not to be "bothered" by others.

I might be 45 years old but I think I have a mind of a 90 year old!LOL
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Renukaji
We all care and wish others show some feelings or concern for us.

Specially when some senior persons have sacrificed lot for youngsters/siblings in terms of physical effort and money.

Just because one is older , the expectations do not reduce. They might only increase on the other hand.

Mind has no age. One only physically ages....

One does not remember the physical age of ladies. All are to be treated as young ladies by men if they are gentlemen and chivalrous.
 
renuka said:
Why the difference between North and South Diwali days since the past 2 years?

Before that it used to be the same day.
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Diwali is celebrated in south on Chaturdasi day in the lunar month of aswina. It is supposed to be the day when demon Narakasura was killed by Krishna or sakthi[depending on belief]

In north , It is calebrated on Amavasya day at Pradosha, 1h 30 minutes after sunset. It is called Lakshmi puja and marks return of Lord Ram to Ayodhya.

Sometimes , chaturdasi spills over to the next calendar day when we have both north and south diwali on same day.
 
renuka said:
Dear VR ji,

Do you really still care who wishes you or not?

I do not bother to wish anyone these days and neither I expect anyone to wish me..I feel as we age we sort of prefer not to be "bothered" by others.

I might be 45 years old but I think I have a mind of a 90 year old!LOL
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Dear Renu,
My case is opposite. :rolleyes:
I look like I am ninety. :(
I am nearing seventy! :bowl:
I feel like I am twenty! :dance:
 
krish44 said:
Renukaji
We all care and wish others show some feelings or concern for us.

Specially when some senior persons have sacrificed lot for youngsters/siblings in terms of physical effort and money.

Just because one is older , the expectations do not reduce. They might only increase on the other hand.

Mind has no age. One only physically ages....

One does not remember the physical age of ladies. All are to be treated as young ladies by men if they are gentlemen and chivalrous.
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There is more than what meets the eyes here dear mr. krish :gossip:

Ladies are made to forget their age by men of all ages primarily because :rolleyes:

otherwise they may stop working like robots as long as they are destined to live! :roll:
 
Men settle down on their arm chairs/ easy chairs and spend the whole day reading the news papers from first page (first line) to the last page (last line).
Has any one seen a retired woman spending the rest of her life in this manner??? :couch2:
 
Visalakshi Ramani said:
Men settle down on their arm chairs/ easy chairs and spend the whole day reading the news papers from first page (first line) to the last page (last line).
Has any one seen a retired woman spending the rest of her life in this manner??? :couch2:
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VRji
Your exposure is very little.

Days when men settled in arm/easy chairs and lazed around is gone.

These days most men begin to play second innings at 65 years and bat upto ninety living an active life , working ,holidaying and enjoying what life has to offer with

their spouses.

Women not to lag behind act retired even at younger age and make men dance to their whims and fancies and live it up fulfilling their desires outdoing the menfolk.

Life these days is more equal for women. One needs to just look around to see such women who set terms to their men and get them fulfilled
 
krish44 said:
Renukaji
We all care and wish others show some feelings or concern for us.

Specially when some senior persons have sacrificed lot for youngsters/siblings in terms of physical effort and money.

Just because one is older , the expectations do not reduce. They might only increase on the other hand.

Mind has no age. One only physically ages....

One does not remember the physical age of ladies. All are to be treated as young ladies by men if they are gentlemen and chivalrous.
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dear Krish ji,


I agree but the more expectations we have the more the disappointments we have if the expectations are not met...so why get entangled in hoping for something?

So the best is to be mechanical and just react to any input got.

If someone wishes you wish them back but on my own I have stopped wishing people cos then there would be too many emails to reply..too many sms to reply and believe me even too many missed calls to reply!

BTW what is wrong with physical age? Who wants to be forever young?

Change is inevitable and part of existence..given a choice I never would want to be 20 something again cos that phase is over..why be stuck in a time capsule that goes no where..then life would be like a broken record playing the same song over and over again.

As we age..we gain new insights...something "new" always has a kiccku!
 
renuka said:
dear Krish ji,


I agree but the more expectations we have the more the disappointments we have if the expectations are not met...so why get entangled in hoping for something?

So the best is to be mechanical and just react to any input got.

If someone wishes you wish them back but on my own I have stopped wishing people cos then there would be too many emails to reply..too many sms to reply and believe me even too many missed calls to reply!

BTW what is wrong with physical age? Who wants to be forever young?

Change is inevitable and part of existence..given a choice I never would want to be 20 something again cos that phase is over..why be stuck in a time capsule that goes no where..then life would be like a broken record playing the same song over and over again.

As we age..we gain new insights...something "new" always has a kiccku!
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Expectations are there to be met. No sense in detachments . Prefer getting involved more hoping next time it would be better than earlier experience. ever an optimist.

Unless one has zest for living , it will be earlier death.One has to be pro active and reach out to many one cares for . if some if not all reciprocate , then we will

become happier for which we crave.One can relate to anyone not necessariy blood relations.

As one physically ages , we may not appreciate the same things , but one can replace them with what one enjoys.The company one keeps also changes , some remain

though evergreen. Of course we get kick out of somethings and also get kicked many times . Thats what makes life worth living......
 
Visalakshi Ramani said:


There is more than what meets the eyes here dear mr. krish :gossip:

Ladies are made to forget their age by men of all ages primarily because :rolleyes:

otherwise they may stop working like robots as long as they are destined to live! :roll:
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As long as one is made to feel young, it gives extra energy to live life.

But that does not mean one should cater to the person who makes you feel young.


He is only an agent who can also be knocked down when one is energised
 
Visalakshi Ramani said:
Men settle down on their arm chairs/ easy chairs and spend the whole day reading the news papers from first page (first line) to the last page (last line).
Has any one seen a retired woman spending the rest of her life in this manner??? :couch2:
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They DO exist! :couch2:

You have to visit some sweet homes where a loving d i l / daughter takes care of the senior lady of that house!

I know three such ladies whom you too know, dear Sis! Guess who! :spy:
 
All the retired ladies (even from the age of 55) enjoy life to the fullest, without doing any household chores!! :dance:

One has to visit the senior resorts to meet them. Oh, yeah! VR and I have a friend mAmi in VAnaprasthA, Coimbatore!! :)

The three seniors I mentioned earlier live in their OWN sweet homes! :cool:
 

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