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[Raji Ram]

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In India I have noticed that in many households a son or a daughter will remain married and look after the parents. ......

I am sure, you meant 'unmarried'!

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

I am sure, you meant 'unmarried'!

Yes I did mean Unmarried!

After getting married she can't make her own major decisions - at least in the olden days!

Also in some cases married son/daughter was ENCOURAGED to come away with or wither getting divorced :bolt:

to take care of the rest of the family as a bread winner or by doing the unending household chores! :roll:

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

Now the scenerio is completely changed. The very first Q the mother of the girl asks

is whether the boy is willing to relocate to their house/ street/ city/ state/ country!

Things will start rolling ONLY if the A to Q is in affirmative! - not otherwise!

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

I have always admired the likeness of these two terms

The Hindi "Jeejaaji" and the Tamil "Koojaaji".

They both mean the same...A brother in law!

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

Emojis are ones! :thumb:

Do 'Geminis' use them effectively?? :typing:

By the Law of Averages ( I hope there is ONE such law! )

1 out of every 12 members here must be a Gemini.

So 1 out every 12 writers of the forum must be a Gemini too.

But we hardly find anybody else using the emojis.

In fact some people find fault with us for using them liberally.

I guess the ability to use abhinayam aka as Expression

is essential in addition to Emotion and Imagination!

 

[krish44]

Yes I did mean Unmarried!

After getting married she can't make her own major decisions - at least in the olden days!

Also in some cases married son/daughter was ENCOURAGED to come away with or wither getting divorced :bolt:

to take care of the rest of the family as a bread winner or by doing the unending household chores! :roll:

VRji

What you say about some remaining unmarried to look after parents/siblings appears to be correct.

Normally eldest male or female sacrifices in the interest of the family if one parent dies.

I have come across many like that of both sexes in large families.

But these are a disappearing lot.

 

[krish44]

By the Law of Averages ( I hope there is on such law! )

1 out of every 12 members here must be a Gemini.

So 1 out every 12 writers of the forum must be a Gemini too.

But we hardly find anybody else using the emojis.

In fact some people find fault with us for using them liberally.

I guess the ability to use abhinayam aka as Expression

is essential in addition to Emotion and Imagination!

I would love to use these emoji.
Only I am too lazy to attach these to posts

 

[krish44]

I was moved to tears on seeing the types of people who visited that BIG hospital

and the types of disabilities they had to manage all by themselves to come there! :crutch:

LIFE is really cruel.. when one becomes very old and is forced to live alone! :tsk:

So that proves the sterling truth in these two statements.

ILamaiyil vaRumai Kodumai! :whoo:

Muthumaiyil thanimai Kodumai!!! :ballchain:

Mudumayil ellame kodumai.

Seniors should bond online if not physically meet each other.

Ultimately it is a lonely journey for all.

Those who reach out to others even strangers will find reciprocity.
But most withdraw due to irrational fears.

Actually there is nothing to lose .Everything to gain.

why not post in all threads?

There are lots of interesting people in many social sites.

to mention a few quora,facebook, googleplus, wayne .

Of course you are active on word press.

You have no shortage of followers.

Buck up.
Life has so much to offer

 

[Raji Ram]

....... I guess the ability to use abhinayam aka as Expression

is essential in addition to Emotion and Imagination!

:thumb:

 

[Raji Ram]

........ There are lots of interesting people in many social sites. ......

OMG! This dear forum gobbles up lot of time! :clock:

For me NO MORE!! eace:

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

VRji

What you say about some remaining unmarried to look after parents/siblings appears to be correct.

Normally eldest male or female sacrifices in the interest of the family if one parent dies.

I have come across many like that of both sexes in large families.

But these are a disappearing lot.

dear Mr. Krish,

Many of the eldest children become the Sumai thaangi when their parent/parents are no more!

God destines different lives for different people.

For some people life is a bed or roses.

For some others it is just a path filled with thorns.

But for most people it is a bed of roses with a few thorns thrown in-between!

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

I would love to use these emoji.
Only I am too lazy to attach these to posts

Dear Mr. Krish,

A picture/image is worth 1000 words! :decision:

We can save typing many words with one appropriate emoji. :laser:

I wish you would start using the emojis and make your posts more interesting.

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

Mudumayil ellame kodumai.

Seniors should bond online if not physically meet each other.

Ultimately it is a lonely journey for all.

Those who reach out to others even strangers will find reciprocity.
But most withdraw due to irrational fears.

Actually there is nothing to lose .Everything to gain.

why not post in all threads?

There are lots of interesting people in many social sites.

to mention a few quora,facebook, googleplus, wayne .

Of course you are active on word press.

You have no shortage of followers.

Buck up.
Life has so much to offer

dear Mr. Krish,

I was posting in many threads until I got vexed/ annoyed.

We can have different opinions without becoming enemies!

But for some people the opinion and the people who have them are one and the same

So an opposing opinion means an opposing person = an enemy!

I have neither interest nor inclination not time to indulge in petty quarrels with imaginary enemies.

So I stick to my threads and entertain / educate people who care to drop in visibly or stealthily!

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

OMG! This dear forum gobbles up lot of time! :clock:

For me NO MORE!! eace:

All forums act like sponges... sucking away all our free time / energy / imagination!!!

Of late every wicked thing seems to be streamlined in the Social media..

be it a murder, rape of one's 2 year old daughter, harassing physically challenged friends,

hanging a 11 months old child, committing suicide in many fancy ways ...to name just a few.

We enter a forum to keep the mind well engaged in a useful manner.

All these wicked inputs will take away what little peace of mine we may find in a social media.

I will never ever think of entering any of those scary sites! :hand:

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

The time spent in blogging in WordPress is well worth it. :typing:

More and more people are using them and learning new things. :flock:

I am sure the viewerships will increase more in the future. :thumb:

I am happy I will be leaving behind me something more than just my faded photos!

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

Human Life is so uncertain.

So is the health condition as we grow older and older.

Sometimes the head reels due to increased sugar values. :dizzy:

Bring it down by sacrificing almost everything tasty/ sweet! :hand:

Then the B.P soars up competing with the sugar readings. :dizzy:

If one has to sacrifice both sugar and salt.. what is left behind?

ONLY the bitter things - since we can't eat sour things without balancing the test with salt and spices!

muthumaiyil ithuvum oru kodumai thaan! :doh:

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

Marry in haste...

It was her greatest blunder
To marry the less known bruiser !

She knew that he was a brewer;
She knew not he was a boozer!

Life has become a roller coaster;
She wished her life were cooler.

Sooner she finds another suitor
The better for her life future.

She did not mind even a tutor;
So long as he was not a loser!

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

பழிக்குப் பழி?


முதுமையில் பெற்றோரைத் துறந்துவிடும்,
மக்களை எண்ணி நான் வியந்தது உண்டு!
எப்படி முடிகின்றது ஈவு இரக்கமின்றி,
இப்படி எல்லாம் செய்வதற்கு என்று!

ஒரு நாள் மனத்தில் பொறி தட்டியது;
ஒரு வகைப் பழி வாங்குதலோ இதுவும்,
சிறு வயதில் தன்னைத் தனியே விட்டுப்
பொருள் ஈட்டச் சென்ற பெற்றோர்களை?

“சிறியோர் காப்பகத்தில் விட்டுச் சென்றோரை,
முதியோர் காப்பகத்தில் விட்டால் என்ன தவறு?
பொருள் கருதியே அவர்கள் அதைச் செய்தனர்,
பொருள் கருதியே நாமும் அதைச் செய்வோமே!”

இளமையில் வறுமையும், வளமற்ற வாழ்வும்,
முதுமையில் தனிமையும், ஜனமற்ற வாழ்வும்,
இரண்டுமே மிகப் பெரிய தண்டனைகளே,
இவ்வுலகில் வாழும் மனிதர்களுக்கு.

பொருள் இல்லார்க்கு இவ்வுலகம் இல்லை;
அருள் இல்லார்க்கு எவ்வுலகமும் இல்லை!
பொருளும் வேண்டும், அருளும் வேண்டும்;
பொருளும் வேண்டும், குடும்பமும் வேண்டும்!

குடும்பத்துக்கு என்றும், மற்றும் தன் இனிய
குழந்தைகளுக்கு என்றும், தன் நேரத்தை
இனிமையாகப் பகிர்ந்து அளித்து வந்தால்,
இனிமை ஆகிவிடும் நமது வாழ்க்கையே.

ஒரு கண் போலக் குடும்பத்தையும் மற்றும்,
ஒரு கண் போலப் பணிகளையும் பாவித்தால்
இளமையில் வறுமையும் வரவே வராது;
முதுமையில் தனிமையும் வரவே வராது.

வாழ்க வளமுடன்,
விசாலாக்ஷி ரமணி.
https://visalramani.wordpress.com/about/உலகமும்-நாமும்/89-பழிக்குப்-பழி/

 

[krish44]

My theory on this.

Never worry what your children do to you when you become a senior citizen.

Find any youngster who can bond with you and incorporate him/her in your family.

When someone fulfills your essential needs, he/she is your family.

Many from dysfunctional families are looking for father/mother figure.

Give them love and they will reciprocate

 

[krish44]

dear Mr. Krish,

I was posting in many threads until I got vexed/ annoyed.

We can have different opinions without becoming enemies!

But for some people the opinion and the people who have them are one and the same

So an opposing opinion means an opposing person = an enemy!

I have neither interest nor inclination not time to indulge in petty quarrels with imaginary enemies.

So I stick to my threads and entertain / educate people who care to drop in visibly or stealthily!

I like to post in many threads simply because that gives me more exposure to different thinking of people.

These influence my thought process and aid me to become more liberal in thinking and actions.

I interract witth most conventional ,orthodox to most liberal and free freaked out types cutting across age groups, castes,religion,race.

All these leave a mark on me.

All these make me strong enough to take anything which most would consider atrocious.

But then there are some core beliefs that do not change....

 

[krish44]

Human Life is so uncertain.

So is the health condition as we grow older and older.

Sometimes the head reels due to increased sugar values. :dizzy:

Bring it down by sacrificing almost everything tasty/ sweet! :hand:

Then the B.P soars up competing with the sugar readings. :dizzy:

If one has to sacrifice both sugar and salt.. what is left behind?

ONLY the bitter things - since we can't eat sour things without balancing the test with salt and spices!

muthumaiyil ithuvum oru kodumai thaan! :doh:

I too am diabetic.

But I check once in three months or so.

This is one thing I shrug off and carry on.

But if one has regular diet and walk every day some distance then it helps.

If one looks around and see miseries others are undergoing because of economic deprivation, we should consider ourself lucky..

 

[krish44]

I like your postings.

I am not the religeous kind.

Yet I care for what you write.

You have a way with words..

Then this belief in Almighty and going to temples and singing in glory of Ambal .

Your isolation amazes me.

You get watched over by someone in this forum who will pull my ears if I say something inappropriate.

Yes you are lucky.

 

[Raji Ram]

There is a new fundA that it is better to avoid 'white'-s in the diet - refined sugar; salt; milk; refined flour etc.

My son met one of his friends after 15 years and that guy looked as he appeared when he left college! The reason for his youthful

look is because he has avoided sugar and salt completely from his diet, after leaving I I T hostel! He claims that we can taste the

'real' salt in vegetables and 'real' sugar in fruits ONLY when we stop adding salt and sugar.

P.S: I have to tell Sravna Sir to try this, in addition to his S E!!

Foot notes for V R ji: Sravna Sir is trying to get a youthful look by using his spiritual energy! :baby:

 

[Raji Ram]

.......... You get watched over by someone in this forum who will pull my ears if I say something inappropriate.

Yes you are lucky.

YYYYYYYYYeah! :spy:

 

[Raji Ram]

Avoiding sugar and salt in diet is not at all a kodumai, when we see some elders lying in bed for years together, with or without

being surrounded by loved ones! We should be happy as long as we are able to move around and able to do what WE like! :dance: