Ref. post #98 of XLR8R
Dear XLR8R ji
!. I am almost like you.I have spent nearly 60 years from birth in north alone. Since I was in a metro , I hardly felt any restriction on me . perhaps in smaller towns or
countryside it could be a lot worse.Of course right to education we took for granted And as brahmins ,we were expected to learn by going thru formal methods and it was
expected of us. But I do not think I relished school or the discipline it involved. I still think they were wasted years. Of course late in college days there was a measure
of freedom to study and do much else that youngsters desired to d
f course I collected three decent degrees professional and upto post graduate. But whether I
learnt anything is doubtful.Most of what I learnt I did not use in my professional career. Also these degrees did get me a decent job though.
2. Your thinking of harmony in marriage is an idealistic concept. All would like harmonius relationship. In a marriage it requires two to tango.. What starts as a great
start to partnership slowly changes over a period at best to mutual tolerance and giving space to each other to do their own things.It is not an issue of preferring
anyone else to wife. One does not reject one half of mankind[the other sex] if one is married.One comes across many and sharing at work space or at intellectual or
friendship level with persons of other gender is hardly ruled out.
3.The pressure on parents after retirement due to children of late marriages can limit choices for children in education and finding the right matches. most like to get
the children fully educated and married before retirement if possible. The pressure on children is also more also on account of parents retirement.
4As for finding a match oneself, it is a challenging task . It calls for initiative , capacity to make oneself presentable,interesting and also bond with an unknown person
It requires proficiency in facebook,sms,whatsapp, besides having the self confidence and courage to approach and seek the company of a girl . most fail in this simple
thing.It is like swimming. One has to simply jump into water and learn to get by.lol
4. Once you are in a forum like this , you might understand the mindset of the conservative kind . It might be an experience by itself . But it will incerease your resolve
to keep your distance from the older generation perhaps.lol
5. It is wise to keep a distance from older generation and retain what is absolutely necessary of rituals they practise and thinking on religion and concentrate to meet the challenges
of work and day to day living largely as the majority do around you.
Dear XLR8R ji
!. I am almost like you.I have spent nearly 60 years from birth in north alone. Since I was in a metro , I hardly felt any restriction on me . perhaps in smaller towns or
countryside it could be a lot worse.Of course right to education we took for granted And as brahmins ,we were expected to learn by going thru formal methods and it was
expected of us. But I do not think I relished school or the discipline it involved. I still think they were wasted years. Of course late in college days there was a measure
of freedom to study and do much else that youngsters desired to d
f course I collected three decent degrees professional and upto post graduate. But whether I learnt anything is doubtful.Most of what I learnt I did not use in my professional career. Also these degrees did get me a decent job though.
2. Your thinking of harmony in marriage is an idealistic concept. All would like harmonius relationship. In a marriage it requires two to tango.. What starts as a great
start to partnership slowly changes over a period at best to mutual tolerance and giving space to each other to do their own things.It is not an issue of preferring
anyone else to wife. One does not reject one half of mankind[the other sex] if one is married.One comes across many and sharing at work space or at intellectual or
friendship level with persons of other gender is hardly ruled out.
3.The pressure on parents after retirement due to children of late marriages can limit choices for children in education and finding the right matches. most like to get
the children fully educated and married before retirement if possible. The pressure on children is also more also on account of parents retirement.
4As for finding a match oneself, it is a challenging task . It calls for initiative , capacity to make oneself presentable,interesting and also bond with an unknown person
It requires proficiency in facebook,sms,whatsapp, besides having the self confidence and courage to approach and seek the company of a girl . most fail in this simple
thing.It is like swimming. One has to simply jump into water and learn to get by.lol
4. Once you are in a forum like this , you might understand the mindset of the conservative kind . It might be an experience by itself . But it will incerease your resolve
to keep your distance from the older generation perhaps.lol
5. It is wise to keep a distance from older generation and retain what is absolutely necessary of rituals they practise and thinking on religion and concentrate to meet the challenges
of work and day to day living largely as the majority do around you.
