Where is our culture, our elder generations strightly follow that culture and hand over to US. leave that gauvaram and all. it the basic sense that we need to follow our culture. U Know maximum of the Muslims are following their culture they are doing 5 days in ramzon and strightly follow the viradam not taking even single drop of water before 6 PM.
Western is good place to stay worst place to live, why 40 year's old couple are moving to India and living here with their kids. u know why there kids should not adopt western culture or grown up in western culture. I know one of my Iyengar friend married Mexican American ,are you think there parents provde about their saying that my son married one American girl and settled in us, both happned in my family itself Marriage and moved to India with their kids
One of my friend married tamil Iyer girl and promissed before marriage that i never take Non-Veg,Drinks,Cigreet. But he is taking it when he is with the friend. do you never feel that our bramin girl cheated by the promisses. i know our bramin guyes are doing the same taking non veg currently, ciggret, drinks and even going for Girls too This they should have to think about our values and stop it. There are more Non Bramins stopped all these things because they want to fine tune them self between animal and human being
Leave all these things. What will happen to our culture, Christians, muslims and others are practising their culture strightly, but why we need to lose our culture. currently we lost 50% of our culture by saying open minded.
Western is good place to stay worst place to live, why 40 year's old couple are moving to India and living here with their kids. u know why there kids should not adopt western culture or grown up in western culture. I know one of my Iyengar friend married Mexican American ,are you think there parents provde about their saying that my son married one American girl and settled in us, both happned in my family itself Marriage and moved to India with their kids
One of my friend married tamil Iyer girl and promissed before marriage that i never take Non-Veg,Drinks,Cigreet. But he is taking it when he is with the friend. do you never feel that our bramin girl cheated by the promisses. i know our bramin guyes are doing the same taking non veg currently, ciggret, drinks and even going for Girls too This they should have to think about our values and stop it. There are more Non Bramins stopped all these things because they want to fine tune them self between animal and human being
Leave all these things. What will happen to our culture, Christians, muslims and others are practising their culture strightly, but why we need to lose our culture. currently we lost 50% of our culture by saying open minded.
srini,
as i understand your post, i think, what you mean is a society mindset.
i agree with your baseline assumption - intercaste weddings in india may run into rough weather, based mostly on society gauravam and rigidity of social/religious practices.
in that context, i have always advocated that inter caste married couples move to the west, if possible.
the same goes for inter religion, though inter religion may not have so much conflicts, as one partner, under indian conditions, totally renounces his/her hitherto background. this is from what i have seen.
back to the mindset issue re gauravam and society reputation.
personally, i think these are phantoms that we build on ourselves.
young couples who took the plunge, somewhere along the line, are unable to withstand the onslaught of parental or society pressures, and succumb to the inevitable sorrow or split.
i think it is the fault of parents, who all along, perhaps even unknowingly, work to sabotage the marriage. i think, many a times the couple is not given a fair chance to succeed.
what is a fair chance? just leave them alone, to adjust and build a household. constant interference and advice are like needles pricking an open wound. nobody needs that.
even in same caste marriages, such advice is unwelcome. except, in this case, the parental pride is swallowed and withers into bitterness over time. only because, most same caste marriages are arranged by the parents, and they cannot admit a mistake.
personally, if i were in india, i would tell my children that should they chose their spouses out of caste, to go and seek a livelihood in the west, where living for such couples is easier.
if they have to remain in india, i would tell them to atleast move far away from where the parents stay and build a quiter life in a new city.
thank you.