sir
i have one doubt, Will obc,Bc,MBC,Christians and muslims guyes are not like to marry SC/ST girls ? why tell me. why they are targeting towards Bramin girls, Because We bramin people are soft they wont do any thing what ever we do for that community. Is that the Reason ??? these NB people are stonger enough to beat the bramins because bramins are vegiterians and they are not strength to beat against them.
U can see lot of examples Ramadoss (Previous health minister) vs gopal dean of aims. Now onwards we Bramin girls should have common sense and think weather we can marry that guy or not.
Sir, i do not know why you feel someone is targetted.
I did some counting and found that the number of brahmin boys married to NB girls, i know of, is higher than the number of NB boys married to brahmin girls (inclusive of brahmins of other states).
As regards caste (which i'd rather call the feeling of community in this case), each community has its own expectations of how their children should be settled. This is esp true of biz families running succesful companies who wish to enhances biz contacts or forage alliances thru the marriage of their children (which i think is rather sick on their part). If the children choose a spouse outside of that ambit, it upsets the elders.
No matter what caste, it does seem always better for a marriage to be contracted b/w equals. If a couple were the same caste too, dunno know how far a relationship wud be trouble-free if it involved a huge disparity wrt to financial background of both parties. It all seems to depend on luck and fate...
As regards other castes, came across a case that happened abt 20 years ago. An ezhava-thever couple were forcibly seperated by the boy's parents, they were made to divorce and the boy was married off to his atthai's daughter soon after the divorce. The couple were friends with someone known to us. I was young then. And conservatism levels were much higher then.
When i bcame a teenager, i only saw girls running after boys with sleeveless t-shirts or ray-ban glasses. And boys running after anything in skirts or salwars with low cuts. The names were all mixed - hindu, muslim, christian. As teenagers dunno how much religion figured on anyone's mind when it came to love (lust or filmi attraction mostly i'd call it for that age).
Boys who took busses, rode cycles, tvs50, scooters, etc were all immediately rejected by the girls. Only a guy riding a bike or a car was considered suitable. This however did not deter the other boys from professing their love thru love letters, writing on walls, etc. A guy having more than one girlfriend was not uncommon either.
Past the teens, in the early 20s, naturally these outwardly things did not seem to really matter for the younsters. Love happened among those who studied, lived or worked in close proximity with each other. In my late 20s, i found out that girls having more than one boyfriend was getting rather common.
Anyways, relationships that started in those teen years resulted in atleast 3 mixed religion marriages i know of later (one is a hindu-muslim, another is muslim-christian and another hindu-christian). They might very well be SCs and STs, have never asked them their castes.
An NB i know married a bengali recently. Checked out of curiosity and found that the boy comes under the SC category. Am told that by interacting with the boy and his folks, it wud be very tuf to say they are SC (all are well educated, decent ppl, the boy is a professor in his 30s, good-looking, from a well-off background). There was no fuss or opposition from both sides. i won't be surprised if more such weddings take place in future.
So you see sir, not only those involving brahmins, there certainly are mixed religion and mixed caste marriages amongst NBs taking place as well (perhaps in greater numbers than those involving brahmins).
PS: sir, it may be possible that you are speaking from the politics point of view, where as i have spoken from what have seen and known so far in life (nothing to do with politics, its perhaps an outcome of industrialization, growing economy, globalization, greater interaction, etc).