The only reservation I have for inter-caste marriage is that the family traditions starting from food preparation may not be agreeable to each other. The advantage of marrying within the same community is that at least the major family traditions will be similar to both and there will be no or less friction in that score.
In my case now my son and me are living by ourselves since my wife passed away in July 2008. Our combined income more than double of what we require. We really have no need for that much of money. I already have a fixed deposit in a bank to cover my funeral expenses. So I donate to some help organizations including "GiveIndia". We have decided not to buy a house or flat unless/until my son gets a wife. It would be difficult for us to maintain an own house. We do not want to hire a maid as it may give room for unwanted talks in the neighbourhood. We are particular in maintaining a clean life.
This is the way of life I learned from my father and grand-father. I think all our fathers and grand-fathers would have had similar views. During the last few years only changes began to take place in our community.
A friend told me as Kali yugam progresses, Brahmins also change.
I am not against the girls being educated. Nature has devised separate functions for males and females. Any education or learning should be for developing the naturally devised functions of males and females.
There cannot be an argument that a child has to be brought up by the mother only. How can one expect a software engineer woman to bring up her children properly? University Education is not the same today as it was. In the past, a university student learned many things apart from their subjects. They read books, publications etc. Now the students are learning only their subjects for the sole purpose of getting a certificate.
We now have a lot of qualified people but few learned people in the community. This applies both to boys as well as girls.
But the girls being so, affects the future of the community in particular and the society at large.
The western countries adapted to this system of same education for girls and boys during the 1960s. Today they have realized that it is a failure. They are trying to find a way out but could not find one yet. Because the feminine factor is lost in their society. In India, fortunately, the feminine factor is still prevalent in rural societies. Unfortunately, the feminine factor is fast disappearing in TN and specially in the younger generation - both among TB and others.
In my case now my son and me are living by ourselves since my wife passed away in July 2008. Our combined income more than double of what we require. We really have no need for that much of money. I already have a fixed deposit in a bank to cover my funeral expenses. So I donate to some help organizations including "GiveIndia". We have decided not to buy a house or flat unless/until my son gets a wife. It would be difficult for us to maintain an own house. We do not want to hire a maid as it may give room for unwanted talks in the neighbourhood. We are particular in maintaining a clean life.
This is the way of life I learned from my father and grand-father. I think all our fathers and grand-fathers would have had similar views. During the last few years only changes began to take place in our community.
A friend told me as Kali yugam progresses, Brahmins also change.
I am not against the girls being educated. Nature has devised separate functions for males and females. Any education or learning should be for developing the naturally devised functions of males and females.
There cannot be an argument that a child has to be brought up by the mother only. How can one expect a software engineer woman to bring up her children properly? University Education is not the same today as it was. In the past, a university student learned many things apart from their subjects. They read books, publications etc. Now the students are learning only their subjects for the sole purpose of getting a certificate.
We now have a lot of qualified people but few learned people in the community. This applies both to boys as well as girls.
But the girls being so, affects the future of the community in particular and the society at large.
The western countries adapted to this system of same education for girls and boys during the 1960s. Today they have realized that it is a failure. They are trying to find a way out but could not find one yet. Because the feminine factor is lost in their society. In India, fortunately, the feminine factor is still prevalent in rural societies. Unfortunately, the feminine factor is fast disappearing in TN and specially in the younger generation - both among TB and others.
