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Brahmin Girls Marrying (Attracted towards) NB Boys

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Sri RKB

yes we can see a lot like this. why they think like that and what the cause for u turn?

i came to know,one of our tech. staff got 2 wifes one is a brahmin. she is in govt job in tn. she arraanged her daughters marriage to a brahmin only. with the full support of his husband and he also spent lacs for the marraiage.

here mother got her own choise but her daughter should not. why this don`t know
Dear Anantha,

Till some ten or twenty years ago, the parents of inter-caste marriages where one spouse was brahmin, always preferred to make their offsprings as brahmins. I think it was because there was still some charm left in "social climbing" and there was no benefit accruing to the children by making them adopt the caste status of the other parent. (I know of one Nair marrying a brahmin girl, performing poonal for his son.)

With the IT boom, explosion in incomes and adoption of the western ways of living to an increasing extent, this impulse to make the children as brahmins, will abate in future.
 
We have been taught from child hood that non brahmins eat non veg. we should discriminate them. they are untouchable. we should not eat food cooked by their hands. our drivers and vaelaikarargal's should be brahmins. etc etc. Is this is the kind of mentality in 20th century democratic india? India with all its vivid nature cant afford such people. All are equal. And if a father does indulge in such discrimination when his daughter is in tender age, then she will obviously rebel if she finds some one who cares for her if she receives a secular education. Donno When the ppl will grow up.
 
If we cant treat a human being with self respect and dignity which he deserves then whats the purpose of being an educated brahmin?
 
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boss main problem is that there is no unity among hindu society especially tamil brahmins. Most are selfish, Dont give a damn about others. When anyone is in trouble they dont support him.
They dont have morality. So they can be easily divided by third parties.

not sure if this is true anymore ramanujan.

just let us look at one aspect which bugs us as a community most.

30 years ago, a neighbour of ours, the daughter married a christian boy who was living next door. after that, the entire brahmin neighbours, refused to have anything to do with the parents of that girl. crazy? on the other hand, they bad mouthed the mother, for bringing up her daughter badly, and further more letting her marry the christian.

the same thing happened to my cousin. the mother was shunned along with the daughter.

nowadays, people are a little more tolerant. only because, previously there used to be that confidence, that their own son or daughter would do no such thing, but would marry whomever the parents selected.

that rule is no longer true today. most parents, heave a big sigh of relief if their child marries another tamil brahmin. the hierarchy of preference goes like this: iyer (or iyengar), brahmin from other south indian states, north indian hindus, sikhs... and then ??

in a way it is good for the community - good heartedness, if it did not come naturally, atleast made a show presence through fear or uncertainty of the future.
 
Indra Nooyi

Why will it abate due to IT? I saw Indra Nooyi (Pepsi fame) openly declaring herself as Iyer in Wikipedia in the pages of Iyer. IF Technology and Culture shift will do harm, it should have first happened through Nooyi. This forum should give more hope for integrating Brahmins and preserving Brahmin culture.

Regards to Divorces, the girls who divorce their first Brahmin husband happily go with a non-Brahmin for their second marriage. But a Brahmin boy first marries a NB girl and then desperately search for a Brahmin girl for his second marriage. This is the predominant trend.
With the IT boom, explosion in incomes and adoption of the western ways of living to an increasing extent, this impulse to make the children as brahmins, will abate in future.
 
Dear Anantha,

Till some ten or twenty years ago, the parents of inter-caste marriages where one spouse was brahmin, always preferred to make their offsprings as brahmins. I think it was because there was still some charm left in "social climbing" and there was no benefit accruing to the children by making them adopt the caste status of the other parent. (I know of one Nair marrying a brahmin girl, performing poonal for his son.)

With the IT boom, explosion in incomes and adoption of the western ways of living to an increasing extent, this impulse to make the children as brahmins, will abate in future.
Dear Sangom ji
there may be some reasons like some complexity and seeing some false superiority in brahmins also a reason.and feeling an isolation amoung the community even though nobody isolates them and no isolation exist in society,i feel from my experiance.
there are negative results also there from such family tie ups , many seen in tv talk shows, finding it difficult to adjust with new environments, custom and pratice etc.
 
We have been taught from child hood that non brahmins eat non veg. we should discriminate them. they are untouchable. we should not eat food cooked by their hands. our drivers and vaelaikarargal's should be brahmins. etc etc. Is this is the kind of mentality in 20th century democratic india? India with all its vivid nature cant afford such people. All are equal. And if a father does indulge in such discrimination when his daughter is in tender age, then she will obviously rebel if she finds some one who cares for her if she receives a secular education. Donno When the ppl will grow up.
Sri Ramanujam
I cann`t and is diffuclt to accept all your comments above that parents guiding their kids.i am a kerala tb, i never seen any such guidence amoung us when we were young. i am feeling in such a way. becoz my father or mother never told such things to us.like untouchables,or to discriminate others and not to eat food prepared other communities etc . and of course there is no harm in one is practising himself as veg. or tea totaller. it is upon ones personel intrest, and if it is not affecting others. regarding keeping all servents should be brahmins in a brahmin house, is some thing like zamindari -feudalmentality
 
We have been taught from child hood that non brahmins eat non veg. we should discriminate them. they are untouchable. we should not eat food cooked by their hands. our drivers and vaelaikarargal's should be brahmins. etc etc. Is this is the kind of mentality in 20th century democratic india? India with all its vivid nature cant afford such people. All are equal. And if a father does indulge in such discrimination when his daughter is in tender age, then she will obviously rebel if she finds some one who cares for her if she receives a secular education. Donno When the ppl will grow up.

what is the basis for discrimination? We are using this word too much, and too liberally..

Brahmins consider even smelling Non-Veg as sin.. So its natural, that they keep away from other caste people who eat meat..

The ordinary brahmins and ordinary Non-brahmins understand this well.. Has any one tried asking a normal dalit (NOT ideological dalits) about brahmins drinking water from their house? They themselves will not give, and they will say "Saami.. you should not drink from our house"..

I have seen this personally when me and my liberal brahmin friend entered a dalit house..

The problem is with the educated people, who have lot of pre-conceived notions imbibed through education..

Now coming to Brahmins Marrying Non-Brahmins, i would say, its the result of the faulted educational policy.. also, the brahmins lost the community living, and almost all are individualised.. as a result the brahmin way of life is under stress..

a culture can exist only within a community, and when the community is lost, the culture is lost.. Leave away brahmin girls.. many brahmin boys themselves dont follow the brahmin life style, because its most difficult and it requires most sacrifice..

Unless brahmins take steps at a community level, these cannot be avoided.. I am not a brahmin , and i myself is against intercaste marriage.. it collapses families..
 
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The ordinary brahmins and ordinary Non-brahmins understand this well...........................................................................................

I have seen this personally when me and my liberal brahmin friend entered a dalit house..

The problem is with the educated people, who have lot of pre-conceived notions imbibed through education..

Now coming to Brahmins Marrying Non-Brahmins, i would say, its the result of the faulted educational policy.. also, the brahmins lost the community living, and almost all are individualised.. as a result the brahmin way of life is under stress..

a culture can exist only within a community, and when the community is lost, the culture is lost.. Leave away brahmin girls.. many brahmin boys themselves dont follow the brahmin life style, because its most difficult and it requires most sacrifice..

Unless brahmins take steps at a community level, these cannot be avoided.. I am not a brahmin , and i myself is against intercaste marriage.. it collapses families..


A very realistic, practical truth.A very balanced,unbiased view from Sri Senthil.

I also feel that, i many times, where there are not much issues, where people understand the realities and co-exist, vested interests enter and create problems and divisions.

I also agree with Sri Senthil that the educated ( because many of them are "half baked") cause more problems than the uneducated,in their eagerness to prove that educated know better and have solutions for anything.

Many times,native wisdom of illiterates and less educated is far better and practical and conciliatory than even specialists and experts,and self -propelled saviors.


Greetings.
 
Hello Senthil,

This thread is regarding weddings, which i consider to be a very personal thing between 2 individuals and their families. So i am leaving weddings out of this discussion.

On my part, I can only say this:

There is no proof for brahmins having been vegetarians in the past.

The stance of "sin" has served to create a puritanical image in more recent times (since around 9th century).

Brahmins of the northeast (kamakhya, etc) eat meat as a part of ritual sacrifice till date.

As regards the discrimination, when "habits" (such as vegetarianism) are acquired to create a heirearchy, with a view to discriminate against the folks on the lower end, it looses all spiritual meaning.

Regards.

what is the basis for discrimination? We are using this word too much, and too liberally..

Brahmins consider even smelling Non-Veg as sin.. So its natural, that they keep away from other caste people who eat meat..

The ordinary brahmins and ordinary Non-brahmins understand this well.. Has any one tried asking a normal dalit (NOT ideological dalits) about brahmins drinking water from their house? They themselves will not give, and they will say "Saami.. you should not drink from our house"..

I have seen this personally when me and my liberal brahmin friend entered a dalit house..

The problem is with the educated people, who have lot of pre-conceived notions imbibed through education..

Now coming to Brahmins Marrying Non-Brahmins, i would say, its the result of the faulted educational policy.. also, the brahmins lost the community living, and almost all are individualised.. as a result the brahmin way of life is under stress..

a culture can exist only within a community, and when the community is lost, the culture is lost.. Leave away brahmin girls.. many brahmin boys themselves dont follow the brahmin life style, because its most difficult and it requires most sacrifice..

Unless brahmins take steps at a community level, these cannot be avoided.. I am not a brahmin , and i myself is against intercaste marriage.. it collapses families..
 
With due respect to u sir u havent seen the muzhu world yet. I have seen this. But mostly they dont talk abt it but it is underlying assumption.

Dear R.Ramanujam
thanks for reply.
assumption and assuming should not come out to the society to discriminate some body.
i am comming from the village only. still we used to interact with all sections of people(i don`t want to mention the workd sc or st or obc etc) they used come for the funtions to our house, we too got to there house, we are engaging them to the daily duties of our home. we used give them the same food what we eat and in same place where we used to. served by our mother.
i never seen any such utrocity in our place.we used to go for collections temple car festival in all nook and corners.

you may have seen a different one. my intention is that by and large you can not say that these type of discriminations still we follow in the society and parents menting kids in such a way to follow.

thanks
all the best
 
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senthil,

welcome to the forum. may your stay here be long and full of contribution. :) sir, you sure bring a new angle of perspective - interesting for sure.

in this thread, as happy hindu said, it is marriage that we are discussing. i doubt whether there are many arranged marriages across castes. it all comes to love and a matter of the heart between two people.

in such instances, i think, it is best, that even the most ardent casteist (i say it with no bad connotation but only to define someone like yourself, who without prejudice, practices caste as a pillar of identity and tradition) should put aside their caste identity, and come to the support of the youngsters.

instead of predicting failure of the union, or working actively for it, it would be best, if the community at large, spread their wings of understanding and tolerance, protect the young couple from nasty insinuations and experiences.

it can happen to anyone's children ie marrying out of caste or religion. the youth will not listen. let them BE :)
 
This thread is regarding [COLOR=#DA7911 ! important][COLOR=#DA7911 ! important]weddings[/COLOR][/COLOR], which i consider to be a very personal thing between 2 individuals and their families. So i am leaving weddings out of this discussion.

Sir.. if marriage is personal thing, then why do we invite so many people, and why do we have so many customs and rituals.. I have seen many people saying Marriage is something individual issue.. If its something taking b/w individuals, then it cannot be called marriages.. its called "live-in relationship"..

The very fundamental purpose of marriage is to announce to the society, and more particularly to the society, that two people is undergoing marriage, and is conducted by their respective families and relations.. Marriage is a system, where we announce that we follow the social customs, and we do not alienate from the community..

So i dont agree with the notion that marriage is an individual choice..

Secondly, when two persons marry, its not just two families unite.. but two relations unite.. marriage is a part and parcel of the community living..

Because our communities are collapsed now, and we are forced (Yes sir.. we are forced) to live only as individual, we could not understand the real meaning of marriage..

There is no proof for brahmins having been vegetarians in the past.
Brahmins of the northeast (kamakhya, etc) eat meat as a part of ritual sacrifice till date.

Let it be.. the brahmins might have ate meat some 1000 years before.. but, we cannot deny, that they are pure vegetarians atleast for the past 1000 years.. 1000 years is not a small time..
and today, the brahmin life style, their rituals and customs are woven around this vegetarian life style.. and they keep away from other communities, only because they wanted to practice their own life style..

More over, brahmins of bengal eat fish.. but that doesnt mean all brahmins should eat fish.. there are lot of diversity within brahmin community with different sub groups.. so we cannot universalise..

The stance of "sin" has served to create a puritanical image in more recent times (since around 9th century).

sir.. do we find any brahmins being vegetarian just for the image sake? the stance of sin is NOT for image.. but its a strict life code, meant for priestly and religious life..

As regards the discrimination, when "habits" (such as vegetarianism) are acquired to create a heirearchy, with a view to discriminate against the folks on the lower end, it looses all spiritual meaning.

do you mean, the brahmins acquired vegetarian habits for the sole purpose of discriminating against lower caste? Do we find it as logical?

Why should we create a malign intent for everything in our society? In my opinion, this kind of "imposing" malign intent or malign purpose behind every social custom of ours, is what creating so much problems.. as long as we have such kind of assumtions, we cannot understand the truth..

i dont deny the discriminations.. but it evolved instead of intentionally created..
 
sir
with due and high honour, i have to say that we have to honour our birth caste as brahmins - please note that to understand our brahmin culture we need not go to muzhu world. I am sorry to state that i am 61 years and from 18yrs and 6 months, I went through out India and in no state, these kind of opportunism exist, except in tamilnadu. Probably, majority of ours are getting brain washed and for heaven's sake, please read ' LALITHA /VISHNU SAHASRANAMAMs AND sOUNDARYA lAHARI DAILY". A sample incident yesterday - my flower vendor visited the koyambedu market for flowers - she returned without purchase and stated that all the iyer mamis [in her verse 'papathis'] had cornored all flowers for "Varalakshmi Vratham' - Sir nobody can remove the brahminism and freak incidents will go as dust in storm'

have to good life sir
 
Sri Senthil,
the following paras from your post gives me an indication that , if you can steer thru the provocations and baits,, ( usually found in debating columns) calmly, and do not succumb to them, then I see in you a promising debater and post er in this site.

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"The very fundamental purpose of marriage is to announce to the society, and more particularly to the society, that two people is undergoing marriage, and is conducted by their respective families and relations.. Marriage is a system, where we announce that we follow the social customs, and we do not alienate from the community.."....

"Why should we create a malign intent for everything in our society? In my opinion, this kind of "imposing" malign intent or malign purpose behind every social custom of ours, is what creating so much problems.. as long as we have such kind of assumtions, we cannot understand the truth."

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Greetings and Best Wishes for a stable stay in this forum
 
Sir

See the today's picture. after 1000 years there may not be any man kind. We have to live on today to keep our tradition and values as brahmins have. If a brahmin girl weds she is following nb's custom. will any body say how may modern girls of brhamin community refused to adopt the custom and living way of her nb husbands. When they follow the custom of nb husband, why they refuse the custom of her b father. It is a sheer opportnism and money minded only.

regards
 
we used give them the same food what we eat and in same place where we used to. served by our mother.
i never seen any such utrocity in our place.we used to go for collections temple car festival in all nook and corners.

In metros and cities, the society is divided into higher, middle & lower classes.. how many rich people give equal treatment to their workers? for eg, in a elite party or function, are the ordinary workers eating in the same with the elite guests?

or, how many elite children playing with the slum boys? There is segregation every where around the world.. But, we are seeing everything as discrimination etc etc..

I always insist, that even if its a hardcore crime, let's examine it without labelling..
 
Disclaimer: Brahmins here does not refer to the brahmin community as a whole. It refers to some individuals.

Sir.. if marriage is personal thing, then why do we invite so many people, and why do we have so many customs and rituals.. I have seen many people saying Marriage is something individual issue.. If its something taking b/w individuals, then it cannot be called marriages.. its called "live-in relationship"..

The very fundamental purpose of marriage is to announce to the society, and more particularly to the society, that two people is undergoing marriage, and is conducted by their respective families and relations.. Marriage is a system, where we announce that we follow the social customs, and we do not alienate from the community..

So i dont agree with the notion that marriage is an individual choice..

Secondly, when two persons marry, its not just two families unite.. but two relations unite.. marriage is a part and parcel of the community living..

Because our communities are collapsed now, and we are forced (Yes sir.. we are forced) to live only as individual, we could not understand the real meaning of marriage..

I think you fogot that i mentioned between 2 individuals AND THEIR FAMILIES. An extended family can be as large as a village.

Let it be.. the brahmins might have ate meat some 1000 years before.. but, we cannot deny, that they are pure vegetarians atleast for the past 1000 years.. 1000 years is not a small time..
and today, the brahmin life style, their rituals and customs are woven around this vegetarian life style.. and they keep away from other communities, only because they wanted to practice their own life style..

More over, brahmins of bengal eat fish.. but that doesnt mean all brahmins should eat fish.. there are lot of diversity within brahmin community with different sub groups.. so we cannot universalise..

sir.. do we find any brahmins being vegetarian just for the image sake? the stance of sin is NOT for image.. but its a strict life code, meant for priestly and religious life..
The dharmashastras permit consumption of meat. The dharma codes themselves do not consider meat-eating a sin. It has nothing to do with strict codes meant for religious life.

[PS: just because i mention this does not mean that i expect folks to turn into meat-eaters today].

do you mean, the brahmins acquired vegetarian habits for the sole purpose of discriminating against lower caste? Do we find it as logical?
Buddhism and Jainism were the actual "religions" that came up with the idea of vegetarianism. Brahmins adopted vegetarianism for reasons ranging from creating a puritanical basis for themselves, to not loosing the masses to the appeal of the other religions.

Brahmins today consider vegetarianism as an indication of their purity. It is a part of their ritual-purity that creates the ideology of superiority in their mindset.

To me, it is illogical to connect diet with superiority. And even more illogical to claim that "low-castes" are "low" on account of their birth, diet and occupation. That sir, in my view is the very basis of discrimination.

Why should we create a malign intent for everything in our society? In my opinion, this kind of "imposing" malign intent or malign purpose behind every social custom of ours, is what creating so much problems.. as long as we have such kind of assumtions, we cannot understand the truth..
Who is "imposing malign intent behind every social custom"?

i dont deny the discriminations.. but it evolved instead of intentionally created..
Am most interested in this. Can you please tell me how did it evolve "unintentionally"?
 
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she returned without purchase and stated that all the iyer mamis [in her verse 'papathis'] had cornored all flowers for "Varalakshmi Vratham' - Sir nobody can remove the brahminism and freak incidents will go as dust in storm'

Sir,

Does not the fact that brahmanism thrives very well show the magnanimity of other communities?

And btw, nobody wants to remove brahmanism.

Regards.
 
Shri. Senthil,

Your inputs are taking these discussions to a whole new level. I more or less share your views. I am probably one of the few here who believe that the original intent of the varna system was never discriminatory and it was not discriminatory. It has become the degenerated system now because a lot of us have become screwed up in our heads over time. But I also believe that this system has either got to be practiced fully or not practiced at all these days.

I have had a similar experience which you narrated in post#545. I am a TB but in my school days I used to play cricket with kids from a nearby slum. We also used to watch the weekend Tamil movie shown on Doordarshan together in my grandpa's house as he was the only person who owned a B & W tv in that area. Of course beyond the living room area was no entry for my slum friends. Strangely whenever I used to try and enter my friend's homes in the slum, I used to be politely refused entry with my friend's mom saying that I am a brahmin and should not enter their house. All the while, as I recollect later, she would smile as she said this with no hint of any hurt, in fact, with a sense of pride. So the caste was very important for a person from the slum as it was for a brahmin. And these people from the slums had a whole list of their own customs and rituals which they followed. At that time, the one I found most funny was someone dies and and my friends dancing merrily over the dead body. Now I can look at it philosophically and think they are happy that the soul is transmigrating to the next level and hence the celebration. The thing is all these local customs, rituals and practices get lost if everything becomes homogeneous because every caste and community has got its uniqueness in terms of its practices.

I have always believed that examining our heads needs more attention than anything else. Unfortunately our brains have become so filled with discrimination and hatred that we are now trying to look for excuses outside than trying to arrest the cancer within.
 
in this thread, as happy hindu said, it is marriage that we are discussing. i doubt whether there are many arranged marriages across castes. it all comes to love and a matter of the heart between two people.

Sir.. its arranged marriages in most communities.. the love marriages started happening largely only in the past few years..

Today, every caste people who studied in schools and colleges had left their customs and traditions, and adopting the european noble life style.. (ie, the urban life style).. in that urban life style, there is no culture or tradition followed.. its just living the luxury and comfort.. so the younger generation doesnt care about caste..

But i have few questions..

The vedas has been preserved for 5000 years by brahmins.. but today, most brahmin boys do not learn vedas.. who is going to take that forward?

Suppose a non-brahmin girl marries a brahmin boy, and he wants to perform sandya vandana and follow other customs.. is it possible? It may be possible, but what's the probability?

Suppose, a brahmin girl marries a vellalar boy who wants to do farming.. will she be able to work hard in the fields?

Let's leave all those.. a vellala boy will eat meat and have drinks.. will a brahmin girl cope up with that?
 
Now I can look at it philosophically and think they are happy that the soul is transmigrating to the next level and hence the celebration. The thing is all these local customs, rituals and practices get lost if everything becomes homogeneous because every caste and community has got its uniqueness in terms of its practices.

Sir.. in case of death, your friend danced in the streets.. Is it possible for a brahmin guy to do that? Technically yes.. but psychologically NO..

Its not just that.. in our community, animal sacrifice is important ritual.. my grandma will offer cock to the karuppanar for some venduthals.. i myself have killed many cocks in my childhood during that offering.. i have peeled off the feathers, boiled it, cut down the chicken to prepare for "kari kulambu"..

Can a brahmin girl do that?

In some communities, both men and women drink liquor during festivals.. Even if the brahmin girl can adopt, can the family tolerate it? Or will the relatives of the brahmin family accept it?

I would cite a practical example.. a girl from my community married a dalit community.. the guy was a bank manager with Rs. 40,000 monthly salary.. still she could not accomodate with his relatives.. Now she is having a daughter, and she never allows her to go with her husbands relatives.. she plans for marrying her daughter to her brother's son.. why this double life?

Let's leave inter-caste marriage..even within my own community some 40 years before, there were two kinds of people .. one is nattu gounder and the other kudiyana gounder.. the nattugounder will accept bride from kudiyana gounder, but will not give their daughter.. The rivalry is existing till now, even though the intermixing is lot now..
 
The dharmashastras permit consumption of meat. The dharma codes themselves do not consider meat-eating a sin. It has nothing to do with strict codes meant for religious life.

Sir.. its interesting.. may i know which dharma shastra allows consumption of meat? and do they allow consumption of beaf also?

Buddhism and Jainism were the actual "religions" that came up with the idea of vegetarianism. Brahmins adopted vegetarianism for reasons ranging from creating a puritanical basis for themselves, to not loosing the masses to the appeal of the other religions.

To my knowledge, its only jainism which advocated extreme ahimsa.. Budhism did not advocate vegetarianism initially.. Buddha himself accepted pork from a dasi family and died of food poisoning.. (some say, he knew the pork was not suitable for consumption, but still, its the dharma to accept alms for a monk)

I agree to your point.. brahmins would have adopted vegetarianism to counter jainism.. but can we say its on ideological basis and NOT for appealing masses.. It should be for appealing the rulers.. Secondly, i think its NOT brahminism which took on jainism.. rather its the bhakthi movement which took on jainism in tamilnadu.. (Please correct me if i am wrong).. Can we say, its only in the bhakthi movement, the vegetarianism would have adopted?
More over, bhakthi movement had participants from all communities.. How many nayanmars are brahmins?

So in my opinion, its NOT just for image sake.. but a restructure of the life style based on the bhakthi movements..

Brahmins today consider vegetarianism as an indication of their purity. It is a part of their ritual-purity that creates the ideology of superiority in their mindset.

Whats wrong in that purity? In my community, eating beef will lead to excommunication from the caste.. its one of the gravest sin.. (few decades back.. not now :) ) .. one will lose the status of kudiyanavan, if he kills a cow or eats beef..

I think, here purity is associated with racial purity.. its not.. purity refers to cultural purity, and i feel, there's nothing harm in that.. Even if brahmins felt superior, what's wrong in that.. in my opinion, they deserve to be superior.. did brahmins started persecuting others who ate meat? Never.. they only kept themselves away from others.. and that's why, its for all other castes to easily discriminate and offend brahmins, because there would be no physical retaliation..

To me, it is illogical to connect diet with superiority. And even more illogical to claim that "low-castes" are "low" on account of their birth, diet and occupation. That sir, in my view is the very basis of discrimination.

Sir.. the higher caste and lower caste is a very complex subject, which we can discuss in separate forum.. but in my view, its pretty much logical to connect diet with superiority.. because diet influences character and in traditional indian society, those who have noble qualities are considered superior and high..
Again, the term superiority should not be equated with racial.. here by superiority, it means cultural.. As a velala, i myself accept the superiority of the brahmins in terms of character, and life style.. I cannot follow that life, nor any of my community members..

Who is "imposing malign intent behind every social custom"?

Sir.. i did not intend to offend you.. i am sorry if i appeared like that.. what i meant is that by stating that vegetarianism is used for discriminating lower caste, we are imposing a malign intent on the forefathers.. to quote an analgoy, one may beat me out of spontaneous anger, but if i say, he intendly attacked me, then its imposing malign intent..

Am most interested in this. Can you please tell me how did it evolve "unintentionally"?

Sir.. we can understand if we look at the fundamental purpose of vegetarianism, and how older generations of brahmins viewed it.. Vegetarianism is a religious following.. brahmins follow this only for religious purpose.. am i right? or is there any brahmins from older generation, who followed vegetarianism just for discriminating others?

Lets take the priests.. for what purpose he is following vegetarianism? is it for discriminating others? Can a priest have power to discriminate? Suppose, if there is no one to discriminate, will he discard vegetarianism?
 
Dear Mr Senthil,

IMO, people belonging to any community are comfortable with their rituals and rites. I do not see any inferiority complex among them. But why there is a shade of anger and enmity prevails when they come across the brahmin jati? or is there when they confront with other jatis as well?.

Regards
 
Oh! I am wrong!

I thought that the thread may bring in some fresh thoughts , unbiased views etc. But now it appears that once the lid is opened and the upper crust is removed, the stuff is same . Many thousand times chewed and spit cud.

Same old questioning,same old responses ,in predictable way.

I am wrong in my expectations.

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