Subbudu sir, obviously, this must a love marriage. The boy and girl surely knew each other, enough to fall in love and then get married.
The cases we are talking about here are all arranged marriages. The girl has no idea what sort of a man this gurukkal will turn out to be, all she has is the image of temple priest and his family. Even if these girls are given the freedom to dress as they wish, how about the husbands? They may wish to go out in a two-wheeler their husbands dressed up smart and modern, go see a movie and have dinner in a restaurant.
These are ordinary expectations of any young girl. IMO, she must not be made to take a gamble with her life because her father wants to prove he is not a hypocrite.
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I fully agree dead Nara and the answer is in my posts- that the TB really does not believe in the superiority of vedic lifestyle. Is it not true that your post indicates the same thing in your own words?
The TB thinks that he loves vedic lifestyle. The orthodox iyengar of today who has no problem living and adjusting with the iyengar of another subsect will find himself out of place in the world 400 years ago. He cannot have modern comforts and he would be among people quarelling over some philosophical arguments withIN vaishnavism.
The Iyer of today would have to contend with a socially divided smartha clan of half a dozen subsects who cannot see eye to eye- each having stories of their own superiority. On top of that, the gurukals may not even have been allowed in the vicinity of smartha homes.
The jhansi bai type women who rise up to defense of hinduism which we see here and else where they would have had to contend with a life as second wives or wives of men older to them by 15-20 tyears. If they had been born in rajputana they might have had to be shared between brothers. the perfectionist vedic society- was it really there? Dhruva's father Uttanapada according to SB lived during another Manu's reign. He was ths husband of two wives- how many million years or earlier I believe according to vedic timescale? Are there any jhansi rani here who would like such a fate?
This is the fact isnt it Nara, while the modern TB would talk pages and pages about vedic glory they just cannot live in a society based on vedic living.
In a vedic semiruban context people have to contend with the food and means available in their own vicinity. In such a country even vegetarianism cannot really be an option, as there would not be any source for a balanced diet. The veggie orthodox brahmin( I am vegetarian btw ) would have to start vomitting seeing the blood infested food people probably consumed. After all Valmiki Ramayana is explicit about meat consumption among brahmins and kshatriyas.
We would have been seeing the typical forest or semi urban-rural life and the huts would be full of flies and insects and snakes. The modern B would run scared.
This is the fact, the modern hindus and Bs have been led to believe a romantised version of Hindu past. There were a lot of good things. A society with meat ridden habits is not something that should be detested. But there were a lot of awful things that happened and no modern woman or man would like to live in such a country and place.
The same thing is happening now. Our modern Tbs cannot adjust and marry with the vaidikas.
Let me tell you the reasons( these may be just perceptions of our women but these are true and cross the mind of the girl if she has to consider marriage with a vaidika)
1. There would not be guaranteed life of comforts
2. The vaidikas look too unsophisticated for this age, while they could be respected from a distance, that is not good enough for marriage. Lack of western education prevents them from having an enlightened view of life and modern values. Many will disagree with me but that is a reason that crosses the girl's mind
3. Western education is seen as intellectually challenging and the degree that one attains brings a certain respect. The vedic education is not seen as intellectually challenging at best seen as a subject that can be mastered by rote and memorization
End result-Our vaidikas are not seen as a sufficiently good match for our girls. True or not varies from case to case, but even the orthodox but modern lifestyle TB has the same perception and cannot really adjust to a vedic style living.