Finding A Match For A Tamil Brahmin

[Raji Ram]

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......... in annual ceremonies , relatives also function as brahmins for rituals and accepting alms . Some play savundi also representing the dead soul ,lol

I strongly object to this comment.

No brahmin relative will do such things in good families. :nono:

Some of these poor savundi brahmins look really awful! :sad:

 

[Raji Ram]

.......... I do not check character of either the boy or girl. ........

No one from forum will approach you to find suitable match for their son / daughter.
Hence eace:

 

[Raji Ram]

........If I were Draupadi I would have added Karna to the list by someway or the other cos Yudhisthira was always trying to act smart and talk some "Dharma" or the other..so the only way to shut Yudhisthira up is by bringing in someone elder to him.So Karna would be the husband No 6!

But Karna will NEVER agree to marry Draupadi! :becky:

Guess Draupadi was wrong while asking for the 'virtues' of her husband, which turned out to be five in number because all those

specifications will not fit in one human being! Her first request should have been 'A man who will save me in any sort of distress!'. :hug:

 

[Janaki Jambunathan]

But Karna will NEVER agree to marry Draupadi! :becky:

Guess Draupadi was wrong while asking for the 'virtues' of her husband, which turned out to be five in number because all those

specifications will not fit in one human being! Her first request should have been 'A man who will save me in any sort of distress!'. :hug:
[/QUOTE

There were people discussing why she did not marry Krishna!


At the end, we can't comment why God does certain things. The beauty lies in enjoying his uncertainty rather than questioning everything that happens around us.

Draupadi and Krishna - Why Krishna did not marry Draupadi?

 

[B.Krishnamurthy]

I refer to Post No. 121 above. It is not the relatives of the Person performing the ceremonies,but relatives of the Priest are brought (sometimes from outstations)
so as to corner all the valuable gifts.
Other Poor Brahmins who are also present to get some gift returns with little money.
Handloom Dhoties/ Handloom Sarees may not be attractive look as compared to Silk items.But they are durable and very comfortable to wear.
I still use a Dhoti purchased in January 1987 in Woraiyur Handlooms,Tiruchi. I wear it for a few hours while in the house.

 

[krish44]

I strongly object to this comment.

No brahmin relative will do such things in good families. :nono:

Some of these poor savundi brahmins look really awful! :sad:

in far off places like delhi , brahmins who will participate in ceremonies are difficult to find.they have better things to do

so one has to do with available brahmins.lol

as far as savundi is concerned did you see the old tamil/malayalam movie Devaragam [bharathans film] where

aravind swamy is forced to play savundi when his beloved sridevis husband dies. Considered an all time cinematic

classic . you will change your views of savundi. sridevi is absolutely fantastic as poor lakshmi who loved aravind

swamy belonging to priestly class and forced into marriage with a cousin who dies. swamy as savundi has done a

classic role admirably. worth watching on you tube if you have time

 

[krish44]

No one from forum will approach you to find suitable match for their son / daughter.
Hence eace:

i have no shortage of people who approach me.

I do match making for my extended family and only others who land into difficulties due to some issue or other.

like some with broken engagement or cancelled marriage due to some reason or other. it is only done as a challenge

to my capability not for any other reason. I enjoy thoroughly doing this. if some benefit because of this. I feel happy

 

[Janaki Jambunathan]

Well I feel Draupadi need not really complain..she had 5 guys even though they finally did not really come to her rescue.

If I were Draupadi I would have added Karna to the list by someway or the other cos Yudhisthira was always trying to act smart and talk some "Dharma" or the other..so the only way to shut Yudhisthira up is by bringing in someone elder to him.So Karna would be the husband No 6! [/QUOTE

With Five in hand she is Paanchali!
With one more in mind
Who she will be?

 

[krish44]

Well I feel Draupadi need not really complain..she had 5 guys even though they finally did not really come to her rescue.

If I were Draupadi I would have added Karna to the list by someway or the other cos Yudhisthira was always trying to act smart and talk some "Dharma" or the other..so the only way to shut Yudhisthira up is by bringing in someone elder to him.So Karna would be the husband No 6! [/QUOTE

With Five in hand she is Paanchali!
With one more in mind
Who she will be?

Chatali?

 

[krish44]

since many swear by checking credentials of boys and girls , as a matter of curiousity how does one check out a person who has spent a few years in uS studying and working before returning to india.

is there a formal method,?

do you have any agency which gives info about character [?] of such a person. the affairs he/she has had, if he/she is having a relationship?.In india, someone wrote about hiring private detectives to check out. what tamil brahmin in US do?

 

[biswa]

All you have to do is to break into their email and facebook accounts. Nowadays it is easy. You dont have to physically follow them around any more. I am sure there are people in the US who will do it for the appropriate fee.

 

[krish44]

All you have to do is to break into their email and facebook accounts. Nowadays it is easy. You dont have to physically follow them around any more. I am sure there are people in the US who will do it for the appropriate fee.

Thanks biswaji
I can of course see the facebook profile. My relation who is getting married shortly is busy cleaning offending posts in

his facebook book profile of bachelor days to become a decent tamil brahmin.lol

linked in can give a persons CV and job interests.

but his criminal records if any or affairs in bachelor days one has still figure out.

there appear to be some sites which volunteer to provide these details for 30 dollars or so to be paid in advance.

is this a con game?

after your post I tried the web to learn about this subject.

Personal info.about a person getting sold-that too tamil brahmins.lol

sounds both dicey and interesting

 

[Raji Ram]

....... Personal info.about a person getting sold-that too tamil brahmins.lol

sounds both dicey and interesting

Because we care for a good character!

 

[krish44]

Because we care for a good character!

what shoulld girls do do when good character boys turn out to be mummys boys and expect a traditional wife like

their mother?

most boys have a mummy hang up about which no website can give information.

these days boys go home to mother when wives ill treat them .lol

 

[Janaki Jambunathan]

what shoulld girls do do when good character boys turn out to be mummys boys and expect a traditional wife like

their mother?

most boys have a mummy hang up about which no website can give information.

these days boys go home to mother when wives ill treat them .lol

There is an apt expression in Tamil for this "Amma Gondu"

 

[krish44]

singapore news asia carried news about a sinapore chinese would be couple selling tickets for their wedding ceremony

like air tickets, those desiring front seats in marriage hall need to pay more than those at the back .food is covered in

booking charges.plus points , they would not expect or receive gifts from guests. good idea since most gifts are not

good enough

they have been able to cover the cost of venue and food thru this booking process.

they have followed this method to cut down on wedding expenses which they are not able to afford.lol

 

[kunjuppu]

a very close friend of mine, a tambram, coming from a strict household, and bringing up an equally strict household of two daughters.

a few years ago, one daughter married a north indian. just a few days back he announced the second daughter marrying a bengali. the wedding will be conducted in delhi, tambram style muhurtham, followed by punjabi style reception along with all the paraphernalia that goes along with it.

his logic? 'nowadays parents have no say in whom their children marry. when they bring the candidate, it is the parents job to bless the couple and conduct the wedding'. what a change from someone so strict and uncompromising even till 10 years ago! surely times have changed.

on a happy note, the parents are delighted that both their daughters married hindus. they were even ok with christians, but not with muslims, but said they would accept it, if that be their childrens' choice. and so the world turns.

 

[krish44]

k saheb
when I made a similar suggestion in this thread that parents should keep out and children should decide,I also

advocated that parents should accept their choices and facilitate the marriage instead of obstructing it in various ways,

but most conventional parents do not accept the same and this leads to delays in marriage ,in addition to misery in

most families. some children in desperation walk of with whomsoever they like and get married.

in delhi , it has become very common for TBs to marry the north indians and bengalis. since both are local , they

understand the local culture and realities. if the person they are marrying is already known to them, there is a

certain comfort level. IMHO this is a far better proposition than importing an alien from far off with whom the

children cannot just relate to.

If someone does not speak ones language, it does not matter much , as long as people can communicate thru some

language.

in north , they are too close to pakistan . most have not forgotten the partition yet. the muslim -hindu divide is deep

muslims will not be easily acceptable . we have a huge punjabi population in delhi. each family has lived thru partition

and paid a price

 

[Raji Ram]

Dear Kunjuppu Sir,

In our generation most of the parents told their adult children, 'sonnapadi kELu!'

Now most of the adult children tell their parents, 'sonnapadi kELu!'

 

[Raji Ram]

Dear Krish Sir,

Whether you suggest or not, parents and their adult children take their own decisions! Many parents get tired when they hunt

for a match. Now, some parents request their children to find their own match, to save the trouble of search and avoid some

nose cuts from the other party! And......... they need NOT take the blame of wrong choice, in case of divorce!

 

[Vaagmi]

Kunjuppu's #142:

a very close friend of mine, a tambram, coming from a strict household, and bringing up an equally strict household of two daughters.

a few years ago, one daughter married a north indian. just a few days back he announced the second daughter marrying a bengali. the wedding will be conducted in delhi, tambram style muhurtham, followed by punjabi style reception along with all the paraphernalia that goes along with it.

his logic? 'nowadays parents have no say in whom their children marry. when they bring the candidate, it is the parents job to bless the couple and conduct the wedding'. what a change from someone so strict and uncompromising even till 10 years ago! surely times have changed.

on a happy note, the parents are delighted that both their daughters married hindus. they were even ok with christians, but not with muslims, but said they would accept it, if that be their childrens' choice. and so the world turns.

and by krishji in #143:

k saheb
when I made a similar suggestion in this thread that parents should keep out and children should decide,I also advocated that parents should accept their choices and facilitate the marriage instead of obstructing it in various ways,but most conventional parents do not accept the same and this leads to delays in marriage ,in addition to misery in most families. some children in desperation walk of with whomsoever they like and get married.
in delhi , it has become very common for TBs to marry the north indians and bengalis. since both are local , they understand the local culture and realities. if the person they are marrying is already known to them, there is a certain comfort level. IMHO this is a far better proposition than importing an alien from far off with whom the children cannot just relate to.
If someone does not speak ones language, it does not matter much , as long as people can communicate thru some language.
in north , they are too close to pakistan . most have not forgotten the partition yet. the muslim -hindu divide is deep
muslims will not be easily acceptable . we have a huge punjabi population in delhi. each family has lived thru partition and paid a price

For every such marriage reported here by those TBs who live abroad or in the North India there are at least a hundred normal, within TB fold marriages happening in south and the couples live peacefully and happily too ever after with children etc.,

For the diaspora it is a "no other option" situation. Marry they should from other regions, other castes, other creeds and other races because they have to keep the family line going and lead a life of pleasure in a family. So their experiences are not relevant to those who live south. Veda says "..................prajA tantum mA vyavachchEthsi"

Let us imagine that I were a passenger in an Airbus doing a trans Atlantic flight, and after take off there is a nuclear holocaust on earth and my plane is shot down and falls on a deserted small Atlantic island. And imagine, as I open my eyes I find just an ugly looking short and stocky woman co-passenger with mongoloid features. as the only other surviving human being. I will certainly fall in love with that woman, marry her, get children to bring up a family and start a new civilization which will one day rule the world.

But when I am in India, I have choices. I have several women with sharp Aryan features like a Roman Nose, Golden color (pure gold),good height with beautiful curves. Why should I do here what I would do if I were in the Atlantic or Pacific island.

People who crow about these exotic marriages abroad have to remember that the other hundred marriages if crowed about will waste a lot of bytes here. There is nothing great for emulation in a IC/IR marriage happening abroad or in the North of India. It is just a non event for us here. LOL.

 

[krish44]

sharad yadav will you about features of south indian girls.....

what is aryan about them?lol

 

[krish44]

anyone from any part of country is easily available

people take what best suits them.

those who are not taken are just rejects who have missed the marriage bus.

boys miss the bus more due to super intelligence of some parents

 

[Janaki Jambunathan]

Consider before you venture

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• Out of service: Once married, a woman, especially in north India, is expected to choose between work and home. A working wife is still seen as a blot on the family’s honour.
  
  
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[krish44]

family honour is sacrificed for work these days.lol