Kadalikka Neramillai Kadalippar Yarumillai

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hi RR madam,

Most of the teenage loves are foolish!

this is very strong word...even i had teen age love...even u may surprise abt our teen age love....we both wanted

ONLY BRAHMINS WITH DIFFERENT GOTHRAS....i can say say that ..we want love cum arranged marriage...

but it never happened succcess in our love...its different story...its like innocent affection love...NO WORDS

TO EXPLAIN THAT KIND OF FEELINGS/LOVE....NOT INFACTUATION....in fact in the army...there is word

called " CATCH THEM YOUNG"...so like wise...TEEN AGE LOVE CAN BECOME MATURED FAMILY LATER....

but destiny has to support for this...even sri raghy sir had teen age love and succeded in life...

 

[Brahmanyan]

காதலிக்க நேரமில்லை

Well, we have spent a lot of time discussing the topic, now let us listen to the beautiful song காதலிக்க நேரமில்லை (1964) written by கவியரசு கண்ணதாசன் sung by சீர்காழி கோவிந்தராஜன் set to music by விசுவநாதன் ராமமுர்த்தி


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Cheers,
Brahmanyan,
Bangalore.

 

[renuka]

hi RR madam,

Most of the teenage loves are foolish!

this is very strong word...even i had teen age love...even u may surprise abt our teen age love....we both wanted

ONLY BRAHMINS WITH DIFFERENT GOTHRAS....i can say say that ..we want love cum arranged marriage...

but it never happened succcess in our love...its different story...its like innocent affection love...NO WORDS

TO EXPLAIN THAT KIND OF FEELINGS/LOVE....NOT INFACTUATION....in fact in the army...there is word

called " CATCH THEM YOUNG"...so like wise...TEEN AGE LOVE CAN BECOME MATURED FAMILY LATER....

but destiny has to support for this...even sri raghy sir had teen age love and succeded in life...

Dear TBS garu,

One of my male cousins had a childhood sweetheart and they got married and are living happily.

They started liking each other when they were 16..he went to UK to study engineering and she went to India to do MBBS.
Then he started working in Oman for sometime and she came back to Msia to work as a doctor.

All these years their love grew stronger and stronger till they finally got married.

I had also asked him "how on earth you guys could sustain so long all these years far away from each other?"

He said it was true love.

I don't know but so many years away from a person is not easy to maintain a relationship..so I really wonder how my cousin managed it.

I had even asked him 'don't tell me you never dated anyone else all these years in UK?"

He said No..

Anyway they are happy and thats what really matters.

 

[renuka]

Dear RR ji,

I guess teenage love should be real too after all those days people used to marry real young in their early teens.
If marriage was possible at teenage that shows that love is possible during teens.

 

[tbs]

காதலிக்க நேரம் இருக்கோ எல்லையோ, தைரியம் இருக்கோ இல்லையோ
காதாளிக்கவும், காதிளிக்கபடுவர்துக்கும், காதல் கைகூடவர்துக்கும் ஒருவர்க்கு அதிர்ஷ்டம் வேண்டும்.

I loved a girl, one of my female colleagues when I was working in Chennai. She was a Iyer girl, an intelligent and vibrant personality. Calm and quite, concerned only with her work with all her dedication. She was very responsible and sensible girl. Just smiles and hardly argue with others. She was one of my team members.

Had to interact with her a lot, officially, during the office hours and with in the office premises.

Within 8 months I developed a strong liking for her and so was her reactions towards me that other colleagues of mine too could figure out. We could feel towards each other but held our self back

Neither I had the courage to express myself nor this girl. My lack of courage was not just because she is a girl and am shy to propose. But, it was due to my self imposed restrictions considering her parents who are rest assured that her daughter is working in a good office and she will not get distracted by such stuffs.

Exactly like Shri Kunjuppu's mom, my mother is the one in our home who is terribly strict with her daughter and sons. We can't even talk to our Mama's daughter in a one to one conversation, away from the crowd, though visible to all others.

Her strictness and lectures got drilled in our brains such that, we felt loving and proposing a girl is not a responsible act. Is in not the right way of approach to get your dream girl in your life and does not demonstrate our sense of discipline and respect towards girl's family.

She been brought up in Agraharam in those days, under strict discipline and orthodoxy, had the same ways to mold us.

The days passed by in our office and I was glad to note that she got a good alliance from Delhi. She left our office after 14 months of her work with us. She got married and settled down in Delhi with her husband working in finance in some group of companies.

Those 14 months were period of extreme joy and a sort of flying sensation..LOL!! Now when I look back, I regret for having missed something important that I should have not missed.

What to do? I strongly feel that we cant over rule our destiny. And I convince myself that my pain is nothing compared to the pains of those who loved mutually and sincerely and had to go apart due some strong situations playing against them.

hi ravi,
i can tell these lines....

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Nl28Kee0c8

[url]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=92ehiGwwnCQ ..this song with english translation.....a beautiful song for u....
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[Raji Ram]

Dear Renu and TBS Sir,

I wrote about 'most' of the teenage love and not ALL. Even in our school, one athai paiyan and mAmA poNNu loved each other

but since the families had some enmity, the scolded them for this. One fine morning, they consumed 'araLi' seeds and died in

the girl's garden, holding each other's hand. Since both the families were rich, they closed the police case, with a comment that

they were both bitten by a cobra! She was a very very pretty and quiet girl and the whole school cried that day! out:

 

[tbs]

Dear Renu and TBS Sir,

I wrote about 'most' of the teenage love and not ALL. Even in our school, one athai paiyan and mAmA poNNu loved each other

but since the families had some enmity, the scolded them for this. One fine morning, they consumed 'araLi' seeds and died in

the girl's garden, holding each other's hand. Since both the families were rich, they closed the police case, with a comment that

they were both bitten by a cobra! She was a very very pretty and quiet girl and the whole school cried that day! out:

hi RR madam,
paavadai thaavaniyil kaadhal...

Nitchayathambullam - Pavadai Thavaniyil_WMV V9.wmv - YouTube

 

[Raji Ram]

......... Your post, I hope, does not intend to poke fun on what I wrote out of certain concern for the health of a young man like Ravi. For a 90 year old person of course the considerations of even the treating doctor will be different, let alone ordinary persons like myself.

Dear Sangom Sir,

I was posting it only for information and not for making fun. Sorry if it hurts you!

The moles on my uncles head were very visible and he got panic about it. Since he is old, doctor said not to worry about it much.

He eats very less and fatty liver may not be his problem, I guess!

 

[tbs]

Shri Kunjuppu,


You are very right. Ours was the same scenario at home as yours.

The one thing I have to tell clearly is that, I got myself changed to mind set of that of my mother's resultant to her lectures, advices, list of code of conduct, list of dos and don'ts etc..etc and held my self back. It was not out of fear of MOM but out of having got into her mindset on this matter of LOVVUU that it is not the way of getting a girl for my life. Though my mother is a tough lady in terms of disciplines, rules and regulations, code of conduct, certain acceptable ways of doing things etc..etc, she is truly a very good friend to all of us. And if I would have had told her about my love, she would have accepted, though she would be skeptical of my choice regarding the girl and her family and that could have well sorted out in a proper channel. My dad having served for Indian Airforce from his young age, though he was strict in terms of day to day discipline was a cool guy, a friendly guy and not critical and skeptical of things straight away.

The moment I got the strong liking for her, seeing her reactions and responses too, the first that came to my thought was, I may be doing wrong for her parents who certainly have their own choices and plans for their only daughter. At any cost I should not interfere with their plans and desires.

Later I could realize, how wrong I was to be too diplomatic and be a loser.

hi ravi,
go through these lines in the song.....


Poonkodi - YouTube

 

[renuka]

When 2 people like each other..surely the relationship will progress thru various stages:

1)Friendship

2)Spending more time with each other

3)Going for a meal together

4)Then next stage is walking close enough for shoulders to lightly brush against each other..smiling for no reason.

5)Officially a couple

6)Plan to inform parents about plans for marriage.



So I find it really hard to imagine anyone having the hots for someone and the other person also has some feelings but the relationship did not progress.

Either the couple concerned had perfect control of their Kundalini Shakti or they were never in love to start with.

 

[P.J.]

Dear Sir,

When I used to word Toy..I meant a memory..The toy analogy here means having a Memory of someone.
So when a person gets married he gives up the previous memory and takes a new experience.

BTW an Atma itself gives up the old body and takes up a new body..storing all previous birth data in the Chitta portion of Antahkarana which is just inactive Archives..so when God Himself designed our mind and body to forget each birth and start fresh with each birth..what is so hard to let go of the past?

Renukaji
What i meant by toy is 'Girl' .. Sorry, as we are discussing about Love matter in our young age, in those days if one gets the experience of love at least for one time, that itself is Great!!

 

[renuka]

Renukaji
What i meant by toy is 'Girl' .. Sorry, as we are discussing about Love matter in our young age, in those days if one gets the experience of love at least for one time, that itself is Great!!

Dear Sir,

Marriage is also all about love..so surely you would have experienced love in marriage itself.

Anyway as the saying goes Kadalikka Neramillai..so that means anytime is a good time..so what is stopping anyone from falling in love again?

After all all the yesteryuga characters had more than 1 connections in their lives!

 

[renuka]

When I went to Batu Caves for Thaipusam this year..I saw an ISCKON Brahmachari monk selling books there.
I bought a book from him too.

His face had a brilliant radiance that radiated joy.

I have never seen that type of face so far in my life.

He seemed to be totally blissful.

So I guess falling in love with God is still the best and safest bet for mankind.

 

[C RAVI]

Shri PJ,

Thank you for your concern. I will visit the Dr. and will keep you posted about my consultations.

It's not that, I have so much of mole that my body has it too much to the extent that they are clearly visible just at a glance at me and that they are patched up.

It is just that I feel I have a lot of them. 3 to 4 in each part of the body here and there.

After reading Shri Sangom's and yours post, I now got some sort of scary feeling..LOL!!

But, I appreciate both of your concern and I am thank full for that.

As the saying goes, precaution is better than cure, I am always alert.


I started working out in Gym rigorously for 2 years, 2009-2010 and then as and when time permits. In 2009 itself I got my stomach flat and body well structured. People guess I may be just 30 years old..

Whenever I get a chance, play Shuttle-Cock for two hours or so, with my friends. And go on a very long walk on weekends, during winter.


I am very cautious with my diet. The only thing is, I am having very poor sleeping habit and that's probably due lots of thoughts, restlessness and loneliness in life..

Now just keep remembering the old sweet memories of my mid 20's, listen to beautiful Hindi and Tamil songs, watch good movies in Cinema, visit beaches, parks, malls and other places and keeping myself busy and active. Take lots and lots of photos during my outing and see how possibly I can look attractive to my imaginary future partner..

 

[C RAVI]

hi ravi,
go through these lines in the song.....


Poonkodi - YouTube

Shri TBS,

I love both the songs you have posted!!

Thank you for sharing them.

 

[P.J.]

Dear Sir,

Marriage is also all about love..so surely you would have experienced love in marriage itself.

Anyway as the saying goes Kadalikka Neramillai..so that means anytime is a good time..so what is stopping anyone from falling in love again?

After all all the yesteryuga characters had more than 1 connections in their lives!

Renukaji

Love after marriage is different.
My OP is intended for KADAL before marriage.

 

[C RAVI]

Dear Renu and TBS Sir,

I wrote about 'most' of the teenage love and not ALL. Even in our school, one athai paiyan and mAmA poNNu loved each other

but since the families had some enmity, the scolded them for this. One fine morning, they consumed 'araLi' seeds and died in

the girl's garden, holding each other's hand. Since both the families were rich, they closed the police case, with a comment that

they were both bitten by a cobra! She was a very very pretty and quiet girl and the whole school cried that day! out:

This is too pathetic!!

Daiveega Kaathal!!! Aanaal TharKolaiyai thavurthu, porumaiyai kaatthu, seriyaana nerathil soozhnilaikku eththa mudivinpadi thirumanam senjirukalam!!!

Tharkolai seyvathaNaal dhaan ivargalai maththavargal "FOOLISH" engraargal.

 

[renuka]

Renukaji

Love after marriage is different.
My OP is intended for KADAL before marriage.

Dear Sir,

Let's have a simple example..Steam, Water and Ice..

All have H2O as their molecular structure..so is LOVE..it is the same whether it happens pre marital, marital or extra marital, the molecular structure for LOVE is HORMONES!

 

[renuka]

This is too pathetic!!

Daiveega Kaathal!!! Aanaal TharKolaiyai thavurthu, porumaiyai kaatthu, seriyaana nerathil soozhnilaikku eththa mudivinpadi thirumanam senjirukalam!!!

Tharkolai seyvathaNaal dhaan ivargalai maththavargal "FOOLISH" engraargal.

Each one's experience is different so we can not say they were foolish..at least they died knowing they loved each other!

 

[P.J.]

Shri PJ,

Thank you for your concern. I will visit the Dr. and will keep you posted about my consultations.

It's not that, I have so much of mole that my body has it too much to the extent that they are clearly visible just at a glance at me and that they are patched up.

It is just that I feel I have a lot of them. 3 to 4 in each part of the body here and there.

After reading Shri Sangom's and yours post, I now got some sort of scary feeling..LOL!!

But, I appreciate both of your concern and I am thank full for that.

As the saying goes, precaution is better than cure, I am always alert.


I started working out in Gym rigorously for 2 years, 2009-2010 and then as and when time permits. In 2009 itself I got my stomach flat and body well structured. People guess I may be just 30 years old..

Whenever I get a chance, play Shuttle-Cock for two hours or so, with my friends. And go on a very long walk on weekends, during winter.


I am very cautious with my diet. The only thing is, I am having very poor sleeping habit and that's probably due lots of thoughts, restlessness and loneliness in life..

Now just keep remembering the old sweet memories of my mid 20's, listen to beautiful Hindi and Tamil songs, watch good movies in Cinema, visit beaches, parks, malls and other places and keeping myself busy and active. Take lots and lots of photos during my outing and see how possibly I can look attractive to my imaginary future partner..

Dear RAVI Sir

However i just want to warn you that this Doctor Murlidhar Raja Gopalan is a bit temperamental and if you do not follow his instructions , he may even get angry with you.
Instead of doing Health Test, it is better to consult him and do necessary Tests accordingly.
Lab Tests in Apollo Hospital are very costly, but he might insist doing the Tests there itself.


Hi Tech Diagnostic Center, near Vadapalani Bus Stand is considerably good, and they charge moderately for all Lab Tests.

Hitech Diagnostic Center Provides Master Health Check up,Hepatitis B & C tests,Allergy Testing,Osteoporosis scan in Chennai,Tamilnadu.Master Health Check.
72,Arcot Road, SH -113, Chennai,600093,Tamil Nadu India


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As you rightly said, it is better to be cautious and take necessary steps.

Dont worry , worry only makes you sleepless.

I will also request you to consult one good Astrologer Mr.RAM MOHAN
He resides old no 20 new no 12 Arulambal st T Nagar chennai 600017 ph 28340498 .

You have to take your Printed Horoscope ( based on Thirukantham) for his reading
He charges around Rs200/- i am not sure, but he is really a very good Astrologer.
You need an appointment for his reading, and always prefer Tuesdays , early morning time when you fix an appointment with him. If Tuesday Appointment is not available, select another day only for Morning Appointment.
Take with a Writing Pad, so that when he starts reading, please do not interrupt and note down all details. After he finishes reading about you, you can ask him questions and get clarifications.

I had been to him many times before my son/ daughter's marriage and every prediction he made came true!!

If you need any other info Please send me a Private Message, I am happy to help you.

 

[renuka]

Dear P J sir,

Just for information purposes..one of my doctor friend..told us friends before that he has experienced pre marital love..marital love and also extra marital love and he said that extra marital comes the tops in the list in terms of intensity of love.

I don't know how far that is true but since he is a seasoned player he knows his game well and might actually be right for all we know.

 

[C RAVI]

Each one's experience is different so we can not say they were foolish..at least they died knowing they loved each other!

Calling such honest, sincere and intimate lovers who committed suicide as foolish by others is not in the sense of belittling them. But, its a sort of "Aathangam", a pain, a sort of anger that the couples who supposed to have lived together, mutually loving and caring each other (that seem to be god's gift) should have not committed suicide, what may come.

Off course, only the couples in question knows what can be and what can not be done to avoid suicide.

The point that is clear is, they are appreciable and honorable for how they held themselves together till the end!! It's just that they didn't live long, experiencing everything in life long journey of togetherness BUT have lived each moment for each other till the end.

 

[C RAVI]

Dear RAVI Sir

However i just want to warn you that this Doctor Murlidhar Raja Gopalan is a bit temperamental and if you do not follow his instructions , he may even get angry with you.
Instead of doing Health Test, it is better to consult him and do necessary Tests accordingly.
Lab Tests in Apollo Hospital are very costly, but he might insist doing the Tests there itself.


Hi Tech Diagnostic Center, near Vadapalani Bus Stand is considerably good, and they charge moderately for all Lab Tests.

Hitech Diagnostic Center Provides Master Health Check up,Hepatitis B & C tests,Allergy Testing,Osteoporosis scan in Chennai,Tamilnadu.Master Health Check.
72,Arcot Road, SH -113, Chennai,600093,Tamil Nadu India


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As you rightly said, it is better to be cautious and take necessary steps.

Dont worry , worry only makes you sleepless.

I will also request you to consult one good Astrologer Mr.RAM MOHAN
He resides old no 20 new no 12 Arulambal st T Nagar chennai 600017 ph 28340498 .

You have to take your Printed Horoscope ( based on Thirukantham) for his reading
He charges around Rs200/- i am not sure, but he is really a very good Astrologer.
You need an appointment for his reading, and always prefer Tuesdays , early morning time when you fix an appointment with him. If Tuesday Appointment is not available, select another day only for Morning Appointment.
Take with a Writing Pad, so that when he starts reading, please do not interrupt and note down all details. After he finishes reading about you, you can ask him questions and get clarifications.

I had been to him many times before my son/ daughter's marriage and every prediction he made came true!!

If you need any other info Please send me a Private Message, I am happy to help you.

Shri.PJ,

Thank you very much for all the detailed information.


People can go to astrologer to seek solace by soothing suggestions & advices as counseling and by suggested spiritual remedies. Where can an astrologer go who is having hardships in his/her life? Just saying that because I interpret horoscopes and tell things to my friends.

BUT, for sure I will ask my mother to consult the astrologer Mr.Rammohan. She would be happy to have this information and would find time to visit him along with my brother. She get's more confident knowing things from other astrologers as she feels that I may be telling lies to her to keep her off worries.



We are just 5 minutes drive away from Hitech Diagnostic Centre, located in Arunachalam Road. We are their regular customers for the past 5 years. For different kinds of advanced tests, day long tests etc they direct us to go to their another hitech branch in T.Nagar, in Habbullah Road.


Thank you very much Shri.PJ to have extended your hearty support to me in getting more details, as needed.

 

[P.J.]

Dear P J sir,

Just for information purposes..one of my doctor friend..told us friends before that he has experienced pre marital love..marital love and also extra marital love and he said that extra marital comes the tops in the list in terms of intensity of love.

I don't know how far that is true but since he is a seasoned player he knows his game well and might actually be right for all we know.

Renukaji

Probably Doctors get more chances!!( just joking )
Other ordinary Mortals like me, having one chance itself is a Great Gift!!

 

[sarang]

Quantum physics has the answer. Recent studies have shown, as far as 'smelling' is concerned, what is not important is the size and structure of the molecules, but their vibration levels. That is, same molecule will be smelt differently by a person or animal, if its quantum energy is different.

Shall we stretch the study and conclude that mental vibrations supersede everything; mind over matter.

Dear Sir,

Let's have a simple example..Steam, Water and Ice..

All have H2O as their molecular structure..so is LOVE..it is the same whether it happens pre marital, marital or extra marital, the molecular structure for LOVE is HORMONES!