Think it over!

[Visalakshi Ramani]

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I am SURE that person is equally afraid of every dead body. :scared:

With regard to people not related to him, he has the option
to attend or NOT to attend the funeral.So the person makes his choice
and DOEDS NOT attend the funeral.

With regard to his relatives, he has little choice. He /she is expected to turn up in the funeral. So forced to go against one's own wishes.

Mother's side may closer to the person than his father's side. I have seen it happen almost always.

Hence the selective phobia with restrictions, contraints and unseen strings.

Can anyone solve this mystery??

Ok you see there are people who are afraid of death and dead bodies.So funerals make them very uneasy.
Going by that shouldn't every funeral make them uneasy?

You see cos I know a person who does not even want to attend funerals of people who are not related by blood and dare not see any dead body who is not the person's relative.

The person cites fear of dead bodies and fear of death.

But how come the person is not afraid of dead bodies who are his/her blood relatives?
That too only not afraid of the maternal dead relatives but afraid of paternal dead relatives!!

How can a phobia be so so selective???

Any comments?

 

[renuka]

I have this real funny incident to share.
Last year I had an old male patient aged some 70 who was visiting this district and was from a neighbouring state.

He was very frail looking and having diabetes and he was finding it difficult to walk and his body had tremors.

Ok so this person suddenly starts asking my young aged 20 something nurses(who are from his community who are non hindus where they can take up to 4 wives) if they are married or divorcees.

My nurses said that they are married and he was "What!! still married? Don't you all know to get divorced?"

Then I asked him why he was wishing for them to get divorced?
He then said he had just married a young 35 year old divorcee as his 2nd wife and was on a look out for a third.

So he said he preferred young divorcees cos they are more experienced in life and come with some money too.

Then my nurse told him "Sir you can't even stand without the support of your walking stick..how can you handle so many wives?"

To everyone's surprise he told to all of us "Doctor,your nurses are quite dumb!! Who has sex standing?"

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

"மீசை நரைச்சுப் போச்சே கிழவா!

ஆசை நரைக்க வில்லையா ஐயா?"

என்று பாட வேண்டியது தான். :sing:

ஐயாவுக்கு வாக்கிங் ஸ்டிக்குக்கு

பதில் இரண்டு பக்கத்துக்கு

இரண்டு இளைஞிகள் தேவை.

மூன்றமவள் சமைத்துப் போட !!!

இது எப்படி இருக்கு???

 

[ozone]

That is exactly why I got SOOOOOOOOOOO disappointed!
I expected to see a real scary face! :scared:

See, I would have still been in doubt

You want to give the benefit of doubt :suspicious:

even to the man with the "Pattasu Balu gangster face." :spy:

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

The provocation is 'pointless' since it is wanton! :heh:

The provocation is 'pointed' since it really hurts.

So is the provocation really :boink:

pointless??? :decision: pointed???

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

Depression.

He was from a rich family.

He neglected his studies.

He could not find a job.

He had real good money,

more than what he needed.

But no one will marry him -

a jobless sukha vaasi!

He did not have any friends.

He did not develop any hobbies.

He did nothing useful to anyone.

Soon he went into depression. out:

Depression led to dejection. :sad:

Dejection led to his death.

He had everything

and YET he had nothing

since he did not know

what to do with himself!!! :doh:

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

"Go back to your normal life!!!"

When I underwent hysterectomy in my early forties,
my good friend and surgeon Dr. Gita advised me,

"GO back to your normal life as quickly as possible!"

While the others were saying
"Don't do this!"
"Don't lift this"
"Don't eat this" etc

she insisted that I should return to my normal life style
as quickly as possible. How right she was!!!

I went back to my busy schedule and kept
depression as far away from me as possible.

For the next three years I was all alone
with my sons away in their hostel
and my husband away in Mumbai.

If I had let self pity take over me,
if I had let depression approach me,
I would have ended up becoming a different person.

Work, work and work more and more!

If nothing is there to do,
at least maintain a garden
or do some social service.

An idle mind is Devil's workshop.

 

[renuka]

An idle mind is Devil's workshop.

But surprisingly the Devil is always busy!!

 

[renuka]

That is exactly why I got SOOOOOOOOOOO disappointed!
I expected to see a real scary face! :scared:

Ha Ha Ha...that's why I wrote Pattasu Balu and not Pasupathi.
I was talking about the scary look Pattasu Balu had in the movie.

I like Pasupathi as an actor especially when he acted in Kushelan.

So Pattasu Balu is scary.Pasupathi is NOT scary.

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

ஏட்டிக்குப் போட்டி !!!

நகைக் கடை இன்விடேசன் வந்தது.

பயல்கள் விடாமல் பிடித்து நிறுத்தி

அளந்தனர் அவர்கள் சிறப்பு ஆஃபர் பற்றி. :blah:

ஒரு வழியாகக் கழற்றிக் கொண்டு வந்தால்....

அவர்கள் அதே போல் மாட்டிக் கொண்டனர்

தலை விரி கோலமாக, நைட்டியில் திரியும்,

இரட்டைத் தொண்டையில் மட்டுமன்றி,

எட்டுக் கட்டையில் பேசும் ஒருத்தியிடம்!

தப்பித்தோம் பிழைத்தோம் என்று அவர்கள் :bolt:

ஓடினது இப்போதும் சிரிப்பு வருகிறது.

அவர்கள் sales promotion செய்தார்கள்.

அம்மையார் எதற்கு :blabla: செய்தார்???

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

You suspect everything... the good, the bad and the ugly!!!

See, I would have still been in doubt

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

He is twice as busy since

1. he has to locate the idle minds and then

2. set up his workshops there!

But surprisingly the Devil is always busy!!

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

Pattaasu Balu??? :decision: Pasupathy???

scary??? :decision: not scary???

Ha Ha Ha...that's why I wrote Pattasu Balu and not Pasupathi.
I was talking about the scary look Pattasu Balu had in the movie.

I like Pasupathi as an actor especially when he acted in Kushelan.

So Pattasu Balu is scary.Pasupathi is NOT scary.

 

[renuka]

I have seen many cases where wives who are very very sickly types some who have auto immune diseases who are in constant pain and also use wheel chair most of the time who can't have a regular sex life turning hysterical when they find out their husbands are having affairs.

They even try to commit suicide.Their husbands tell that they still love their wives and never neglect their home but are just having affairs as part of their hormonal urge.
Most are in their late 30's or early 40's.

It's a delicate situation here.We have to consider both affected parties.
Divorce is not a solution cos the men do not want to divorce their wives.
Some of the man even cook for their sickly wives.

The affected woman patient turns all suicidal.

What is the best solution?

The men want to remain married cos he says he loves and cares for the wife and kids but just needs a sexual outlet.
The woman can't bear the thought of her husband with another woman.

To me I feel that when a person falls sick and can't perform his or her marital conjugal duties he or she should give freedom to the spouse as long it's kept under wraps.

It's not a matter of being immoral but certain facts have to be taken into consideration cos hormones and urge is also normal.

The best solution is for couples to remain celibate but how many can do this?

This is a tough situation for a doctor to advise both husband and wife and I was wrecking my head today solving one problem like this today at work.

All I told the female patient is "if you love your husband..think about his needs too"
and I told the husband "if you love your wife think about her mental make up too..at least try to be discreet if you can't control yourself"

What else can I advise them?

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

I know of one UNFAILING solution.

A WET kowpeenam worn tightly by the man!

I believe it never fails. :high5:

What about the wife in the wheel chair

who also has physical desires and needs???

Suppose the husband is in the wheel chair and

the wife takes boy friends, will it be alright too?

People should understand that marital happiness is

NOT the ONLY reason for getting married.

Sex is only a small part of human life.

It is not the sole purpose of life.

Tell them to think about the young boys and girls who do not get married

or cannot get married for some reasons.

The moment we dissociate sex from marriage...no one would want to get

married. Marriage is a life time commitment and people will only be too happy

to be rid of it.

I have seen many cases where wives who are very very sickly types some who have auto immune diseases who are in constant pain and also use wheel chair most of the time who can't have a regular sex life turning hysterical when they find out their husbands are having affairs.

They even try to commit suicide.Their husbands tell that they still love their wives and never neglect their home but are just having affairs as part of their hormonal urge.
Most are in their late 30's or early 40's.

It's a delicate situation here.We have to consider both affected parties.
Divorce is not a solution cos the men do not want to divorce their wives.
Some of the man even cook for their sickly wives.

The affected woman patient turns all suicidal.

What is the best solution?

The men want to remain married cos he says he loves and cares for the wife and kids but just needs a sexual outlet.
The woman can't bear the thought of her husband with another woman.

To me I feel that when a person falls sick and can't perform his or her marital conjugal duties he or she should give freedom to the spouse as long it's kept under wraps.

It's not a matter of being immoral but certain facts have to be taken into consideration cos hormones and urge is also normal.

The best solution is for couples to remain celibate but how many can do this?

This is a tough situation for a doctor to advise both husband and wife and I was wrecking my head today solving one problem like this today at work.

All I told the female patient is "if you love your husband..think about his needs too"
and I told the husband "if you love your wife think about her mental make up too..at least try to be discreet if you can't control yourself"

What else can I advise them?

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

வரிசைப் படுத்துக என்று ஒரு லிஸ்டைக் கொடுத்தால்
யார் யார் திணறுவார் கூறுங்கள்!

சாந்தி முகூர்த்தம்,
பெண் பார்த்தல்,
சீமந்தம்,
நிச்சயதார்த்தம்,
திருமணம்,
வளைகாப்பு.
வரவேற்பு.

(நிச்சயமாக ஒரு நடிகை தான்)

 

[Iyyarooraan]

அம்மணி, நடிகையின் கஷ்டம் உங்களுக்கு புரியவில்லை போலும். பெண்பார்க்கும் படலத்தில் இருந்து திருமணம் வரை அவள்தான் நடிகை. வரவேற்பு, சாந்தி முஹுர்தத்திற்கு நடிகையை மாற்றிவிடுகிறார்கள்.

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

Real?? Reel?? Serial??? :noidea:

அம்மணி, நடிகையின் கஷ்டம் உங்களுக்கு புரியவில்லை போலும். பெண்பார்க்கும் படலத்தில் இருந்து திருமணம் வரை அவள்தான் நடிகை. வரவேற்பு, சாந்தி முஹுர்தத்திற்கு நடிகையை மாற்றிவிடுகிறார்கள்.

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

Consider the "casting couch" and you will understand :couch2:

WHY they get confused about the sequence of events !

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

Running water can reduce a rock into a pebble.

Running time...???

See for yourselves!!!

 

[Iyyarooraan]

Real?? Reel?? Serial??? :noidea:

Twists make serial and serials are in reels and reels are not real but others make "riyals" out of them.

 

[kk4646]

Real?? Reel?? Serial??? :noidea:

I am just wondering..how an actress feel when she under goes all these marriage rituals including shantiMuhurtham in REAL life...??

TVK

 

[C RAVI]

People should understand that marital happiness is

NOT the ONLY reason for getting married.

Sex is only a small part of human life.

It is not the sole purpose of life.

YESS!!! And marriage is a life time commitment with mutual love and respect, that does not necessary require sexual life between the couples for ever.

Couple grow old together sharing everything between them, every day and in every stage of their life. It continues extensively with sense of commitments, responsibilities, affection and nurturing the whole family relationship.

The every changing requirements, physical disturbances, emotional ups and downs, challenges etc.etc.continues to exist and couples stand by the sides of each other, in order to steer towards fulfillment, without losing the balance.


Ironically, I come across some people who say that, after certain years of marriage life between the couples, their life becomes boring. And there exists for all uniformly, something called Middle Life Crises!!!! LOL!!!!


"The Family Life is full of Crises/challenges, from the start till the end. Only you have to see is, If you Smile and If you Cry along with your better half ever? No matter in which phase of married life are you in"

 

[C RAVI]

I am just wondering..how an actress feel when she under goes all these marriage rituals including shantiMuhurtham in REAL life...??

TVK

Highly Confident!! Having well practiced in her career/industry of acting??!??

 

[renuka]

I am just wondering..how an actress feel when she under goes all these marriage rituals including shantiMuhurtham in REAL life...??

TVK

Just like any other woman.An actress is just like any other woman in feelings, emotions and love.
It's just how people view a profession.
Even a commercial sex worker is just like any other woman in her feelings and emotions when it comes to love and marriage.

People at times even view a doctor's profession negatively.
I once had a proposal from a family where the father of the prospective groom was telling me to take up Peadictrics or be a Gynecologist so that I would not have to touch adult male patients.

He said he would have a problem with his future DIL touching some many men in her day to day work.

My father was really pissed with that proposal and even I told my father to reject it right away.