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[renuka]

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I know of one UNFAILING solution.

A WET kowpeenam worn tightly by the man!

I believe it never fails. :high5:

What about the wife in the wheel chair

who also has physical desires and needs???

Suppose the husband is in the wheel chair and

the wife takes boy friends, will it be alright too?

People should understand that marital happiness is

NOT the ONLY reason for getting married.

Sex is only a small part of human life.

It is not the sole purpose of life.

Tell them to think about the young boys and girls who do not get married

or cannot get married for some reasons.

The moment we dissociate sex from marriage...no one would want to get

married. Marriage is a life time commitment and people will only be too happy

to be rid of it.

Dear VR ji,

In some religions there are clear cut grounds that once a partner can't function sexually the marriage is allowed to be dissolved.
Cos for these religions a partner who can't function sexually is seen as a stumbling block to increase the population of their tribe.

And in these religion emphasis lies a lot in sex so that partners do not neglect each other.

These type of thinking has both pro's and con's.

Suppose the husband is in the wheel chair and

the wife takes boy friends, will it be alright too?

Well I have seen cases where wheel chair bound men are looked after their wives and wives have a secret affair.
They still look after their husbands well.
These happens in society.
These wives even cater to the sexual needs of their wheel chair bound husband still to whatever extend they can.

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

True! Every coin has TWO sides dear!
So they have successfully separated
sex from marriage as well love from sex.

Dear VR ji,

In some religions there are clear cut grounds that once a partner can't function sexually the marriage is allowed to be dissolved.
Cos for these religions a partner who can't function sexually is seen as a stumbling block to increase the population of their tribe.

And in these religion emphasis lies a lot in sex so that partners do not neglect each other.

These type of thinking has both pro's and con's.



Well I have seen cases where wheel chair bound men are looked after their wives and wives have a secret affair.
They still look after their husbands well.
These happens in society.
These wives even cater to the sexual needs of their wheel chair bound husband still to whatever extend they can.

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

Twists make serial and serials are in reels and reels are not real but others make "riyals" out of them.

:welcome: O great one to the League Of People

who can speak well in riddles!! :hail:

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

I guess they should keep reminding themselves that
this is for real and not for reel!!

I am just wondering..how an actress feel when she under goes all these marriage rituals including shantiMuhurtham in REAL life...??

TVK

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

A darling dame with determination! :moony:

But the touch of a doctor is different from the

hugs and 'pisukkufication' seen in the movies!!!

Just like any other woman.An actress is just like any other woman in feelings, emotions and love.
It's just how people view a profession.
Even a commercial sex worker is just like any other woman in her feelings and emotions when it comes to love and marriage.

People at times even view a doctor's profession negatively.
I once had a proposal from a family where the father of the prospective groom was telling me to take up Peadictrics or be a Gynecologist so that I would not have to touch adult male patients.

He said he would have a problem with his future DIL touching some many men in her day to day work.

My father was really pissed with that proposal and even I told my father to reject it right away.

 

[renuka]

A darling dame with determination! :moony:

But the touch of a doctor is different from the

hugs and 'pisukkufication' seen in the movies!!!

But if you ask any actor they will tell you that it's their job and their mind is focusing on getting the lines and scene right.
All of us have acted in school,college in drama where they has been some romantic scenes too.
Did we feel anything with our lead partner?
No isn't it?
Even classical dancers dance closely with body contact with their male partners but that's just their job.

There was a movie once acted by Pratap Pothen where he is an actor and he was asked to help out to act as a Suhashini's dead husband(who looks like Pratap) to help her get her memory back.
In the movie Pratap was telling that he won't act this out cos this is emotional cheating.

He was then reminded by the person seeking his help that "you are an actor what is so hard for you to do this"

Pratap yelled back "That's my job that reel life and this is real life.Don't think actors have no feelings"

 

[Brahmanyan]

True Words

How well the following words of Ayn Rand, which is forwarded to me recently, applies to our country:

"When you know that in order to produce, you need to obtain permission
from men who produce nothing, when you see that money is flowing to
those who deal not in goods but in favours, when you see that men get
rich more easily by graft rather than by work, and your laws no longer
protect you against them but protect them against you, you know that
your society is doomed."


---- Ayn Rand in Atlas Shrugged.

Brahmanyan,
Bangalore.

 

[Subhalakshmi]

I have my two cents about actors.. I assure you not everybody goes through the so called casting couch.. and YES! actors are people too.. like Renu cited the example of Pratap Pothan's character in the movie.. that is true in real life.. NTR who was quite the romantic hero and also a god like figure.. meaning, his roles like Krishna and Rama was literally worshipped like god, but did he feel that he was god, NO.. he was very much like you and me.. very gentle a wonderful person, well I am talking about days before he was in HYD>. I have not idea about his political career.. but I have seen him come to the outside the gate to greet all the people who have come to see him .. there used to be buses standing on the street.. when people try to touch his feet he would request them not to do it and moved away slowly with his hands in a namaskaram position.. This man was certainly devoted to his wife of many years and I have never heard no scandal while he was in the cine field

Jamuna was all the time chaperoned by her mother or aunt, brother or a young couple who were distant cousins.. and I can go on with many.. Again, when it came to her getting married.. her husband comes from a very good family and well educated.. there are also so many from younger generation like Suhasini and some others.. so we cannot blindly blame them..

I acted in two plays of course not that close to my co actors, but we were already family friends, and to act sitting next to each other or delivering dialogues was not with any personal feelings.. there are so many in the set in fact there are light boys sitting above the ladders to always light and correct the lighting the directors, spectators, the assistants, the producer..so in any given shooting there are about 30 people surrounding the artists.. how do you think they can feel any closeness to the co actor. I am not saying it cannot happen, but it is hard to feel that at that moment.. they are actors and good at what they do and once they are home they are normal like us..

My second two cents opinion on the husbands or wife cheating when their spouse is in a wheel chair or incapacitated.. I agree fully that once you are committed to the marriage, no matter how ill that person is, the other partner should not deviate from the thought of the togetherness.. when you are married, you better be committed...

The term mid life crisis at least in this country is when the children move away, and there is empty nest.. both husband and wife suddenly find themselves at a loss as to what to do with the extra time.. if the marriage is a good one they stay and if it is already a marriage and they are bonded only because of the children it falls apart.. it has nothing at least in the Indian community as far as I know about Sex or lacking in sex.. IT is a part of life and not the whole life as Mrs. Visala stated..

I believe men also go through menopause and feel sort of not feeling all that macho and like they were in their 20's and 30s' as 50 approaches they want someone to make them feel young, whereas the women, is quite exhausted with raising her children worrying about work and the yard and the in laws, just wants her peace and nothing else. so when that happens, the common thread is lost and they slowly lose each other or just drift away from each other even living in the same house..

That is why in this country they ask the husband and wives to renew their marriage and go and have a private time every few years, that way they understand that they are there for each other and no one is coming between them, not even the chidlren...
Phew! I think i have said what came to my head and if there is any grammatical mistakes.. please forgive me.. I am typing faster as my mind is forming the words..

Bushu

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

Was Mr. P.P objecting to acting the scene in the movie or in real life?

But if you ask any actor they will tell you that it's their job and their mind is focusing on getting the lines and scene right.
All of us have acted in school,college in drama where they has been some romantic scenes too.
Did we feel anything with our lead partner?
No isn't it?
Even classical dancers dance closely with body contact with their male partners but that's just their job.

There was a movie once acted by Pratap Pothen where he is an actor and he was asked to help out to act as a Suhashini's dead husband(who looks like Pratap) to help her get her memory back.
In the movie Pratap was telling that he won't act this out cos this is emotional cheating.

He was then reminded by the person seeking his help that "you are an actor what is so hard for you to do this"

Pratap yelled back "That's my job that reel life and this is real life.Don't think actors have no feelings"

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

But if they are just doing their part or role in the movie,
why is there so much talk about the CHEMISTRY
between the stars??? To me it is a real MYSTERY!!! :dizzy:

But if you ask any actor they will tell you that it's their job and their mind is focusing on getting the lines and scene right.
All of us have acted in school,college in drama where they has been some romantic scenes too.
Did we feel anything with our lead partner?
No isn't it?
Even classical dancers dance closely with body contact with their male partners but that's just their job.

There was a movie once acted by Pratap Pothen where he is an actor and he was asked to help out to act as a Suhashini's dead husband(who looks like Pratap) to help her get her memory back.
In the movie Pratap was telling that he won't act this out cos this is emotional cheating.

He was then reminded by the person seeking his help that "you are an actor what is so hard for you to do this"

Pratap yelled back "That's my job that reel life and this is real life.Don't think actors have no feelings"

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

I think we can say with confidence that our country is doomed!!!!

Money is spent to build houses for the poor and they descend into the ground within a few months or get washed away by the regular monsoon.

Ground allotted for the war heroes is grabbed and annexed by other REAL heroes.

Hundred other malpractices take place and our law always protects
the mischief makers AND THOSE WHO INDULGE IN MON(K)EY BUSINESS!.

How well the following words of Ayn Rand, which is forwarded to me recently, applies to our country:

"When you know that in order to produce, you need to obtain permission
from men who produce nothing, when you see that money is flowing to
those who deal not in goods but in favours, when you see that men get
rich more easily by graft rather than by work, and your laws no longer
protect you against them but protect them against you, you know that
your society is doomed."


---- Ayn Rand in Atlas Shrugged.

Brahmanyan,
Bangalore.

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

Bravo!! :clap2:

A real long and loving message!!!

Thank you Subha. Since we ALSO read fast,
in the same speed in which you wrote,
I am sure there were no visible mistakes.

It will wonderful if the couple have some common interests
besides their children and grand children
to help them bond better, as they grow old.

But from my own experience I know that it is NOT possible ALWAYS!!!

I have my two cents about actors.. I assure you not everybody goes through the so called casting couch.. and YES! actors are people too.. like Renu cited the example of Pratap Pothan's character in the movie.. that is true in real life.. NTR who was quite the romantic hero and also a god like figure.. meaning, his roles like Krishna and Rama was literally worshipped like god, but did he feel that he was god, NO.. he was very much like you and me.. very gentle a wonderful person, well I am talking about days before he was in HYD>. I have not idea about his political career.. but I have seen him come to the outside the gate to greet all the people who have come to see him .. there used to be buses standing on the street.. when people try to touch his feet he would request them not to do it and moved away slowly with his hands in a namaskaram position.. This man was certainly devoted to his wife of many years and I have never heard no scandal while he was in the cine field

Jamuna was all the time chaperoned by her mother or aunt, brother or a young couple who were distant cousins.. and I can go on with many.. Again, when it came to her getting married.. her husband comes from a very good family and well educated.. there are also so many from younger generation like Suhasini and some others.. so we cannot blindly blame them..

I acted in two plays of course not that close to my co actors, but we were already family friends, and to act sitting next to each other or delivering dialogues was not with any personal feelings.. there are so many in the set in fact there are light boys sitting above the ladders to always light and correct the lighting the directors, spectators, the assistants, the producer..so in any given shooting there are about 30 people surrounding the artists.. how do you think they can feel any closeness to the co actor. I am not saying it cannot happen, but it is hard to feel that at that moment.. they are actors and good at what they do and once they are home they are normal like us..

My second two cents opinion on the husbands or wife cheating when their spouse is in a wheel chair or incapacitated.. I agree fully that once you are committed to the marriage, no matter how ill that person is, the other partner should not deviate from the thought of the togetherness.. when you are married, you better be committed...

The term mid life crisis at least in this country is when the children move away, and there is empty nest.. both husband and wife suddenly find themselves at a loss as to what to do with the extra time.. if the marriage is a good one they stay and if it is already a marriage and they are bonded only because of the children it falls apart.. it has nothing at least in the Indian community as far as I know about Sex or lacking in sex.. IT is a part of life and not the whole life as Mrs. Visala stated..

I believe men also go through menopause and feel sort of not feeling all that macho and like they were in their 20's and 30s' as 50 approaches they want someone to make them feel young, whereas the women, is quite exhausted with raising her children worrying about work and the yard and the in laws, just wants her peace and nothing else. so when that happens, the common thread is lost and they slowly lose each other or just drift away from each other even living in the same house..

That is why in this country they ask the husband and wives to renew their marriage and go and have a private time every few years, that way they understand that they are there for each other and no one is coming between them, not even the chidlren...
Phew! I think i have said what came to my head and if there is any grammatical mistakes.. please forgive me.. I am typing faster as my mind is forming the words..

Bushu

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

OK I got it right after reading the post
one more time carefully.

In the movies he is an actor :drama:
and in the real life of that movie actor
he refuses to act and cheat! :nono:

Was Mr. P.P objecting to acting the scene in the movie or in real life?

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

Health.

We have left undone those things
which we ought to have done; :bolt:

And we have done those things :doh:
which we ought not to have left done;

And there is no health in us. out:

Book of common prayer.

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

தொலைக் காட்சி தொல்லைக் காட்சி ஆவது எப்போது???

6. கதிர் வீச்சு உடலை பாதிக்கும் போது.

7. மிக அருகில் அமர்ந்து பார்த்துக் கண்ணைக் கெடுத்துக் கொள்ளும் போது!

8. விளக்குப் போடாமல் இருட்டில் பார்க்கும் போது!

9. வீட்டு வேலைகளை மிகவும் பாதிக்கும் போது.

10. ஒருவருக்கு ஒருவர் பேசிக்கொள்ள நேரம் இல்லாமல் செய்யும் போது.

(இன்னமும் இருக்கும் . தெரிந்தவர்கள் எழுதுங்கள்!)

 

[C RAVI]

But if you ask any actor they will tell you that it's their job and their mind is focusing on getting the lines and scene right.
All of us have acted in school,college in drama where they has been some romantic scenes too.
Did we feel anything with our lead partner?
No isn't it?

LOL!!!!!

Dear Renuka,

Are you seriously telling that, the extent of Romantic Scenes in Movies are similar to many plays played by pupils in Schools and Colleges???

Are you sure that, the extensive/elaborate sexual scenes in the movies, performed by actors and actresses as married couples, lovers, character having extra marital affairs, professionally exploiting/motivated individual who use sex as a tool etc..etc are similar to the plays in schools and colleges??

Are you sure that Actresses who do any level of Sexual Scene Performances in Movies so as to be a successful actress with name, fame, money and awards, are never involved in active sexual life with multiple men of the Film Industry and or other VVIP's?


YES!!!! Actors and Actresses do have heart. They too have their own feelings and emotions.

When some/many ordinary folks from other strata of the society say that, Love can happen any time with any number of person and even after marriage with some one other than their spouse even if the marriage life is great with love towards the spouse, For Sure Actresses as celebrities can have the same with all their true feelings as humans, without a doubt.


BUT, their Shanti Muhurtham in their real life would lack with the absence of their sense of - Excitement, a sort of anticipating Pleasure that is mixed with the sense of Fear, element of surprise and such like that.

The same is the case with ordinary folks for whom SEX was the part of their life before their marriage. For all such Actresses and ordinary common folks Shaantimuhurtham would be just similar to another Encounter...LOL!!

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

The actress acting in a realistic rape scene
might very well end up becoming pregnant! reggers:

So much for authenticity and reality!!!

When they CAN show a severed human (?) tongue doing its last bit of hopping with life so realistically and frighteningly, why is it that...

1. the actors are given empty glasses and told to pretend that they are drinking coffee/ tea / water from it???

2. the suitcases and trunks carried by the hero / heroine / comedian
is always huge but empty???

3. how the villain can carry a box full of sold gold bars/bricks
with the flick of his little finger??? :shocked:

Points to ponder!!!

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

The "D"s that send send shivers down the spine of men and women.
01. Death.
02. Diabetes.
03. Devil.
04. Divorce.
05. Drudgery
06. Dead lines.
07. Daily doses.
08. Dire consequences
09. Dire threats.
10. Deficit finances
11. Delicate health
12. Damage to image.
13. Danger signals
14. Deadly Damsels.
15. Dooms Day.

You are :welcome: to add more "D"s to this list and make it exhaustive !

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

The rubbing shoulders of the
beautiful with the powerful
can have far reaching consequences. :fear:
There was a :spy: who was not really a spy
who was made to face the firing squad
since she rubbed shoulders with the
strong and powerful men of her time!

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

The dazzling Mata Hari executed as a spy!

Margaretha Geertruida "Margreet" Zelle (7 August 1876 – 15 October 1917), was a Dutch dancer and courtesan. Suspected as a spy, she was executed by a firing squad in France under charges of espionage for Germany during the First Wold War.

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

The woman who brought the exotic dances of the East to the West.

Mata Hari!

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

Doe-eyed Dancer Sarah Skinner portraying Mata Hari.

 

[renuka]

LOL!!!!!

Dear Renuka,

Are you seriously telling that, the extent of Romantic Scenes in Movies are similar to many plays played by pupils in Schools and Colleges???

Are you sure that, the extensive/elaborate sexual scenes in the movies, performed by actors and actresses as married couples, lovers, character having extra marital affairs, professionally exploiting/motivated individual who use sex as a tool etc..etc are similar to the plays in schools and colleges??

Are you sure that Actresses who do any level of Sexual Scene Performances in Movies so as to be a successful actress with name, fame, money and awards, are never involved in active sexual life with multiple men of the Film Industry and or other VVIP's?


YES!!!! Actors and Actresses do have heart. They too have their own feelings and emotions.

When some/many ordinary folks from other strata of the society say that, Love can happen any time with any number of person and even after marriage with some one other than their spouse even if the marriage life is great with love towards the spouse, For Sure Actresses as celebrities can have the same with all their true feelings as humans, without a doubt.


BUT, their Shanti Muhurtham in their real life would lack with the absence of their sense of - Excitement, a sort of anticipating Pleasure that is mixed with the sense of Fear, element of surprise and such like that.

The same is the case with ordinary folks for whom SEX was the part of their life before their marriage. For all such Actresses and ordinary common folks Shaantimuhurtham would be just similar to another Encounter...LOL!!

Dear Sheikh Ravi,

You are HIGHLY judgmental yaar.Sex scandals happen everywhere.
Recently in Singapore some high ranking official was caught for receiving sexual favors in return for issuing business licences.

Even the most unassuming person working in any field might be committing sexual acts to improve their career.

Ravi you see even for people who are used to regular sex life prior to marriage a Shanti Muhurtam will still remain special.
Even a second marriage Shanti Muhurtam will remain special with the same anticipation.

You see cos people who love each other and value love are anticipating the extension of love in their act but those who are obsessed with the physical act are the one's who feel the most anxiety and get worked up and can't wait to unleash the untamed animal in them!!LOL

BTW once one of my Casanova male doctor friends told me that each person is like a finger print.
No one is the same and he said each encounter is new and exciting.

 

[kk4646]

"No one is the same and he said each encounter is new and exciting"......

Lucky Chap....??!!

TVK

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

You mean the Casanova (Don Juan?) male doctor who reads people like finger print.
I won't go a mile near him. I wish the others won't either. He must be shame to his profession. Whether or not he is lucky depeneds on what we think it is to be lucky!

"No one is the same and he said each encounter is new and exciting"......

Lucky Chap....??!!

TVK