Think or sink!

[Visalakshi Ramani]

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Dear VR ji,

Yes you are right!

So all of us women got fooled!Ha Ha Ha

Dharmapatni as you correctly said is for queens.

Dear Renu,
It is a man's world. He knows how to trick a woman
and make her believe that she is a queen
by calling her dharmapatni and
keeping a crown of thorn on her head! :drama:

 

[renuka]

Dear Renu,
It is a man's world. He knows how to trick a woman
and make her believe that she is a queen
by calling her dharmapatni and
keeping a crown of thorn on her head! :drama:

Dear VR ji,

But the present day woman will put a crown of thorns on his head and crucify him!LOL

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

Dear Renu,
It might be game trying to crown each other mutually
similar to tug of war when we try to pull each other.
Here they will try to push the crown in place.
The more cunning person would win naturally.

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

I was shocked to see the trailer of an yet to be certified film
where a man (the husband?) just keeps a pillow on
the woman's face and .....????

Do we really need step by step demo
for people who want to commit a perfect murder???

I had watched an equally horrifying scene in another movie,
where the husband just slips on a cellophane bag over
the wife's head after tying up her hand and legs!

Spread love... not hatred!
Spread knowledge.. not violence!!

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

The two rogues who molested a child of 5 years
confess that they were drunk and
had watched pron before committing the crime.
If wine and pron would make a man stoop to this level
it is time to do away with wine and pron or the man himself! :mad2:

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

UNGRATEFUL is too potent a word to describe members of one's family.

SELFISH is more appropriate and serves the purpose equally well.

The ungrateful behavior is born out of unmitigated selfishness.

Selfish father deserts the family and runs off or becomes a sanyaasi.

Selfish mother runs away with her lover ditching her family.

Selfish son ignores the needs of his parents and marries girl of his choice.

Selfish daughter disappears with her lover

with or without taking along her dowry/jelwely in addition.

When the selfishness predominates

nothing else looks important enough by comparison!

After all SELF comes first everywhere!!! Right???

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

A real incident!

The father took his darling daughter to buy the wedding jewels and sari.

She was a real darling and went with him and helped him choose the

costliest sari and fancy jewels.

With the purchase over, they were ready to go home.

The father got into the auto whle the girl held the precious purchases.

Just as the father settled in his seat and put out his hands to take the

packets from is daughter, two motocycles came to both sides of the auto.

The girl jumped on to the pillion seat of one of them and the group left as

silently and decisivly as they had come - but with his daughter in

addition! She did not even wave or say good bye for one last time.

Everything including the groom was HER OWN choice.

I am trying to imagine the condition of the father

who was duped, cheated, fleeced and stabbed in the back

by his loving darling daughter! :dizzy:

Is she selfish or ungrateful or both ???

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

When the girls do not want discussions and debates
about their choice they just play along with the family,
make their own secret plans of elopement with the lover
and give one final parting blow to her loving family -
especially to the father, who had thought her to be an angel in his life.

 

[renuka]

A real incident!

The father took his darling daughter to buy the wedding jewels and sari.

She was a real darling and went with him and helped him choose the

costliest sari and fancy jewels.

With the purchase over, they were ready to go home.

The father got into the auto whle the girl held the precious purchases.

Just as the father settled in his seat and put out his hands to take the

packets from is daughter, two motocycles came to both sides of the auto.

The girl jumped on to the pillion seat of one of them and the group left as

silently and decisivly as they had come - but with his daughter in

addition! She did not even wave or say good bye for one last time.

Everything including the groom was HER OWN choice.

I am trying to imagine the condition of the father

who was duped, cheated, fleeced and stabbed in the back

by his loving darling daughter! :dizzy:

Is she selfish or ungrateful or both ???

If she wants to elope why waste her father's money?

She could have just told them she is going to marry the person of her choice and register her marriage.

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

Wonder how I became free so early in the morning???

I have not done anything yet!!! That is why
No water since yesterday noon.

No water to bathe.
So no need to wash clothes.

No water to wash the vessels.
So no need to cook food.

Everything will start happening
as soon as the motor is repaired
and the power supply is resumed. :roll:

Moral of the incident...

Make use of the period of inactivity
in activities that are still possible!

 

[sarang]

She knows she will not get even one rupee after her kadal vivaham. Make hay while the son shines. Modern girls are wise and smart.

If she wants to elope why waste her father's money?

She could have just told them she is going to marry the person of her choice and register her marriage.

 

[DR.C.NARAYANI]

Hello VR Mam,Good morning ,well nice to see you early to forum by the time due to your motor repair:biggrin1: ,Mam ,your post 1381,1382 ,OMG true facts ,but very disturbing ,cant even imagine the father s position.Actually its a vast issue of topic to be discussed ,even though many similar threads have / had come. What can be doneray::decision::frusty::noidea: .

 

[Naina_Marbus]

When the girls do not want discussions and debates
about their choice they just play along with the family,
make their own secret plans of elopement with the lover
and give one final parting blow to her loving family -
especially to the father, who had thought her to be an angel in his life.

Re: Your post #1382 : Where did this real “incident” happen,in Coimbatore?

A similar ‘real incident’ happened in Chennai a couple of years ago.

The girl’s father buys all the sarees, and gold jewellery, and keeps them in the home
in the custody of his daughter. The wedding is to take place in a couple of days. The
night before the wedding, the girl took all the gold jewllery, and some costly sarees
and disappeared, apparently eloped with a muslim colleague in the IT company they
both were working. What a perfidy! The boy’s father was a friend of mine.

She knows she will not get even one rupee after her kadal
vivaham. Make hay while the son shines. Modern girls are wise and smart.

Precisely. Wise and smart, but no pangs of conscience or ethics.

 

[Naina_Marbus]

Hello VR Mam,Good morning ,well nice to see you early to forum by the time due to your motor repair:biggrin1: ,Mam ,your post 1381,1382 ,OMG true facts ,but very disturbing ,cant even imagine the father s position.Actually its a vast issue of topic to be discussed ,even though many similar threads have / had come. What can be doneray::decision::frusty::noidea: .

What can be done? Not to worry. It happens probably with the IT types, and those earning 6 figure salaries.
To borrow a phrase from our muslim brothers, for every such kaffir there are nine mumins.

 

[renuka]

She knows she will not get even one rupee after her kadal vivaham. Make hay while the son shines. Modern girls are wise and smart.

If everything boils down to money I do not see why people need to get married in the 1st place.
They can opt to remain single..enjoy all their earnings on themselves and have some "friends with benefits"(but no commitment) when they feel lonely.

This sounds like an immoral option but at least no one gets hurt and you can be in control of the situation.

 

[DR.C.NARAYANI]

Hello Sir ,Its more in IT ,6 Digit pay ,and also at many common places .As I Have already mention in prior threads ,a friend of mine ,her parents had gone to their native place to invite within weeks time ,they utilized this as prompt hour to imply their plan,talking on money basis,what her parents had arranged marriage to an IAS ,officer ,but the muslim guy was not even degree holder, a new shop that too started near times, So sir ,please tell me where money,( Last line in your reply needs some detail ,pls).

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

If she wants to elope why waste her father's money?

She could have just told them she is going to marry the person of her choice and register her marriage.

dear Renu,
That is what a sensitive girl is supposed to do.
At least inform them, save them the parting bolt
from the blue and the final fleecing.
Shows how mean some girls can be and how low they can stoop! :whoo:

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

She knows she will not get even one rupee after her kadal vivaham. Make hay while the son shines. Modern girls are wise and smart.

I wish the SON had shined earlier than the Sun. :baby:....:flame:
The father would have been forewarned of the
nasty fishy business going on right under his nose. :heh:

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

Hello VR Mam,Good morning ,well nice to see you early to forum by the time due to your motor repair:biggrin1: ,Mam ,your post 1381,1382 ,OMG true facts ,but very disturbing ,cant even imagine the father s position.Actually its a vast issue of topic to be discussed ,even though many similar threads have / had come. What can be doneray::decision::frusty::noidea: .

Rude awakenings Dr. C.N.
The father had a rude awakening and learned a lesson from his anglic daughter.
The mobile phone is the inseparable companion of the modern girls.
They can be in touch with their schemers for perfect synchronization and
coordination all the time.
Modern Desingu Raaja on a motor bike!

 

[renuka]

Dear VR ji,

I remember when I had a few marriage proposals and did not "like" the mappillais..my father used to get all tensed "why his daughter is not liking any mappillai"

So my dad used to scold me and ask me why I can't say yes..then I used to scare him and tell him "I am just saving money for you..cos if you want me to say yes..I can say yes for your sake but I might decide not to attend the wedding and all your money will go to waste and since you had a love marriage I am sure you know what is chemistry..so when I do not feel chemistry how can I attend such a wedding?"

Then my father stopped pressurizing me for marriage till the proposal of the right person came!

Girls should be like me! LOL(just kidding) just speak upfront and don't hide feelings from parents so that they will be prepared and know what their kids are capable of!

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

Re: Your post #1382 : Where did this real “incident” happen,in Coimbatore?

A similar ‘real incident’ happened in Chennai a couple of years ago.

The girl’s father buys all the sarees, and gold jewellery, and keeps them in the home
in the custody of his daughter. The wedding is to take place in a couple of days. The
night before the wedding, the girl took all the gold jewllery, and some costly sarees
and disappeared, apparently eloped with a muslim colleague in the IT company they
both were working. What a perfidy! The boy’s father was a friend of mine.


Precisely. Wise and smart, but no pangs of conscience or ethics.

Dear Prof N_M,

This happened in a popular tambram city in Kerala - just 40 miles from where I live.

The brahmin girls would reject a hard working and well qualified tambram boy since he is poor.

But she will loot in her own house and strip it of all valuables and lose herself and

her belongings to any man from the other religions/ castes.

When the little spark called conscience is put out ...anything becomes possible for these people.

 

[renuka]

but the muslim guy was not even degree holder

Dear Dr Narayani,

The muslim guy might not have been a degree holder but I guess he knew what to hold! (I mean her heart)

Lovvu is sometimes like a Root Canal Treatment..just like how all nerves,blood supply,pulp of the tooth is removed but we can still have a cosmetically functioning tooth..like wise in Lovvu Brains and Foresight is also removed and a cosmetically functioning marriage might be possible.

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

What can be done? Not to worry. It happens probably with the IT types, and those earning 6 figure salaries.
To borrow a phrase from our muslim brothers, for every such kaffir there are nine mumins.

Is the ratio always 1:9???

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

Dear VR ji,

I remember when I had a few marriage proposals and did not "like" the mappillais..my father used to get all tensed "why his daughter is not liking any mappillai"

So my dad used to scold me and ask me why I can't say yes..then I used to scare him and tell him "I am just saving money for you..cos if you want me to say yes..I can say yes for your sake but I might decide not to attend the wedding and all your money will go to waste and since you had a love marriage I am sure you know what is chemistry..so when I do not feel chemistry how can I attend such a wedding?"

Then my father stopped pressurizing me for marriage till the proposal of the right person came!

Girls should be like me! LOL(just kidding) just speak upfront and don't hide feelings from parents so that they will be prepared and know what their kids are capable of!

dear Renu,
You are right!
Honesty is the best policy.
Frankness is the best foot to put forward.
Straightforwardness is invincible if the feeling is genuine
and not just passing infatuation.
We certainly OWE this much to our dear parents for all that they have done for us.
I have often noticed that
Talkers are not shockers
and shockers are not talkers.
Those who argue and talk, do not give shocks.
Those who give real shocks do not talk or argue.
They SEEM to go with the flow until the time is ripe for them.
If your ward is as quiet as a contented kitten
be sure something unsavory is cooking!

 

[renuka]

Dear VR ji and Dr Narayani,

Sometimes some girls elope just for the thrill of it.

I remember in my college there used to be a Kannada Brahmin girl from a well educated and conservative home.
She herself looked very very traditional and she would only wear Salwar Kameez and not modern clothes.

Then she became a little adventurous and started even eating Non Veg..ok hold on..take a deep breath first.
She was close to a Non Indian girl who used to even cook frog leg soup and this Brahmin girl was even eating frog legs and pork too.

We were all very shocked to see her change and she used to tell us that she is very modern in thoughts(I wonder why does one have to eat frog and pork to be modern!LOL)

Ok then she started to date a Muslim guy and everyone was shocked again.

You see even the most modern happening Hindu girls in college never dated Non Hindu guys becos of difference in mindset.

So she was just trying to be different.

She and the muslim guy did not marry each other becos I dont think they ever thought of marriage..she just wanted to taste the forbidden.

So some go to any extent just to be different.