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Think or sink!

KaNNaal kaaNbathum poi!
kaathaal ketpathum poi!!
theera vichaarippathe mei!!!

The siblings who did wish to share the windfall they got by selling an ancestral property with their sisters were convincing one another that none of the sisters nor their family members wanted a share of the loot!

Too good to be true isn't it? :wacko:

Who will say "NO!" to the 'valiya varum Sree Devi?"

I did not believe the stories going round.

So when I talked to the sisters, they were very pleased that they too will get a part of the sale amount.

Shame on those brothers - who themselves do not want to share with their sisters - and worse still try to stop the other brothers also from sharing with their sisters, by spreading false stories! :moony:

We can make money. Can we make a blood relationship?

We can only MAR the existing relationship by
becoming greedy and selfish!
 
sangu oothi saami kumbidum madisaar maami eppo romba busy! :horn:

I think she specializes in the NArAyaNeeyam sapthaaham.

Her loud, base, male, voice is best suited for making a lot of impact

( and making sure that people don't fall asleep during the sapthaaham)

more than making melodious music.

Now she is in Hyderabad.

After a few days she will be in Pune!

All India NArAyaNeeyam sapthaahist!

Odi Odip paadik koNdu irukkiraar madisaar maami! :sing:
 
Nothing vexes me more than the "சுக்குமி ளகுதி ப்பிலி!" mode of reading and singing! :frusty:

A line in a song about Durga Devi goes as

"பற்றும் வயிரப் படைவாள் பகைவர்க்கெமனாக எடுத்தவளே"

Always the 'தவளே" would be sung separately and emphasized

as if they are praising a Frog and not Durga Devi! :(

Another case is in praise of Lord Siva always sung as

"ஏற்றுயர் கொடியுடை யாய்எனை உடையாய்!" :doh:
 
Can a slim, tall, pretty young lady become a 'patti at forty' in these days?

I think I met someone who did exactly that. :)

Her married daughter who is doing her degree looks larger and older than her mom

and that daughter has just delivered a son!

I can't help comparing the 'young' women of the present age who think of

getting married or starting a family when they are in very late thirties or early forties!
 
Patti at forty has nothing much to do to become patti except getting daughter married to a productive person.

Poor woman , she has to become prematurely a patti at forty. Anyway it sort of rhymes.

Call on your creative skills to express this in a tamil poem.
 
krish44 said:
Patti at forty has nothing much to do to become patti except getting daughter married to a productive person.

Poor woman , she has to become prematurely a patti at forty. Anyway it sort of rhymes.

Call on your creative skills to express this in a tamil poem.
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Dear Mr. krish,

I was planning to post this matter in English.
But it has spontaneously become a short Tamil poem! :)

தாத்தாவும் பேரனும் என்பார்கள் சிலர்
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...:baby:

பார்த்த தந்தை, மகன் அரிய ஜோடிகளை! :rolleyes:

'பாட்டி @ ஃ பார்ட்டி' யைப் பார்த்த்தாலோ :music:

'பாட்டி' என்கிலர்! 'பெற்ற அன்னை' என்பர்!!! :thumb:
 
Naari Shakthi is busy at work. :roll:

Today's special surprises.... :)

1. Mami was walking on her own - instead of being supported on both sides by two people as Mahatma Gandhi is often depicted!

2. The Mami smiled at me!
(She either recognized me or saw in me one of her associates of the past decades!)

The naari carried the bag to the waiting taxi and the naran followed her and the mami followed them.

My guess is that they are visiting the girl who was remarried to her ex husband to make sure that everything is OK with them!
 
I made a decision that broke the monotony of the kitchen duty
and also made my work much lighter on the Sundays.

The Sunday brunch cum super will be homemade agmark Basumati pulav!

I have found an easy and hassle-free method to prepare it.

No fuss, no mess, very few vessels to be washed and freedom from the usual drudgery!

Additional advantages

1. We can use the Basumati rice lying unused since my son's visit.

2. No need to wait to be offered Basumati (raw rice???) pulav by the others!

3. The electric rice cooker is used at least once a week and will keep the cockroaches off ! :)

4. The stock of cloves, cardamom, cinnamon and bay leaves is getting used up!
 
It is nice to see all Christians dress up nicely and go to Church early in the morning on Sundays!

Those who do not possess a car are given free lift by their friends!

I wondered "Will my close friend give me lift to Anaikkatti Arsha Vidhya gurukulam -

even when I offer to share the taxi fare???

One T.B can't stand another as we all know very well

and her musudu hubby can't stand anyone in the world - including that poor lady!
 
Its very obvious that parents treat their children differently based on what they expect from them.

I have noted when my elder brother comes to my parents house..my parents have slight fear cos my elder bro is a very moody person and only gets along with my son but they would still have some smile on their face and never tell him anything much.

When my younger brother comes to my parents house..my parents become extremely happy....I can see life coming to them...their faces light up and my mum forgets all her aching body and rushes to get things for him to eat and my dad hovers around my younger bro like a bee to a flower.

They ask him about his job..how he is doing etc.

Now the best part...when I come to my parents house...all I hear is their nagging!LOL

They keep complaining to me about each other..my mum keeps complaining to me about my dad and my dad keeps complaining to me about my mum etc.

Then my mum would look all faded/weak and complains about her body pain and joint pain.Acts as if she is having a heart attack at times!


Somehow my brothers do not get to hear all their nagging and solve all their problems and they seem healthy and happy when my brothers come home.

I guess Indians somehow still favor their sons!LOL
 
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Dear Renu,

You are forgetting two important things about a daughter being different from a son

A daughter is a daughter for LIFE while

A son is a son only till he gets a wife!

Secondly you are a doctor.

What is the use of complaining to a person who would not understand about the problem

You are doctor. You are a daughter and you are sympathetic.

What more reasons does your mother need to bring out her health complaints

only to you and not to your brothers.

Moody sons staying single must be treated like fragile objects.

Happy sons must be allowed to remain happy and not burdened with worries.

So you will have to hear the music and the complaints and are left with no other choice!.
 
I myself consider chit chat as a waste of time.

But 6 years young Tejas has far ahead of me!

He would be immersed reading in his laptop and his 'Hi' and 'Bye' will be

a wave of the hand without even turning his head or eyes towards us.

Not to be outdone by his big bro, the cute littel Tarun also never looks at us.

Even when the webcam is thrust on to his face,

he would roll his eyeballs to the extreme corners of his eyes and manage NOT to look at us!
 
Dear Renu,
The ONLY way I can explain this strange incident is that
"MIND matters over MATTER!" :rolleyes:

Make sure you visit your parents when your younger brother visits them.
Then you can see them both in harmonious action and in good mood.

Small manipulations can make BIG changes in a person's life! :thumb:
After all our life is made up of many small events and many small moments! :)
 
Talking of the ChAyA Sukar Lord Shiva created to console the sage Vyaasaa who was his longing for

his son, we too do the same thing while we chat, by creating a chAyA of the person we are chatting to!

We can see the image of the person, talk to him, listen to him but we can't hug him or kiss him.

Little Varun knew this difference when he was just 6 months old.

He would touch the image talking to him.

If it is on a flat screen then it is a chAyA.

If it is a 3D then it is real.

He has to be mighty clever-since he wants to be carried around by every one,

just like his dad (my elder son ) used to do when he was a small child! :)
 
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Dear VR ji,

Near by where I work there is a shop selling bags and accessories for women.

The shop opens around 10 am and one worker who stays far away comes by 9 am and sits in a nearby restaurant..has her breakfast and I have seen this girl wearing headphones..listening to her smart phone and writing away in her note book.

I used to wonder what she writes...today I took a peak and she was writing Om Namah Shivaya.

She smiled at me..I asked her."what are you listening to on your smart phone?"

She said a recitation of Om Namah Shivaya and she writes down as she is hearing it.

1 hour a day in the morning she does Likhita Japa before starting work.

God bless her....rare to find a young 18 yr old doing Likhita Japa these days.
 
Dear VR ji,

Now for some different news!

Last night it rained heavily after a very long time of scorching heat. A welcome relief.

Today morning when I was getting ready to go to work...I saw fresh red rose petals on my front porch arranged in the shape of a heart but the rose petals were not wet.

I had forgotten to lock my front gate last night...so I wonder who the hell placed it there? Or did it rain rose petals from the skies like what we read in the Puranas that celestials shower rose petals!LOL


I hope there is no stalker cos I have been finding empty Paan Paraag packets in my garden when both my neighbours are not Indians.

Might need to install a CCTV at home I guess.
 
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renuka said:
Dear VR ji,

Near by where I work there is a shop selling bags and accessories for women.

The shop opens around 10 am and one worker who stays far away comes by 9 am and sits in a nearby restaurant..has her breakfast and I have seen this girl wearing headphones..listening to her smart phone and writing away in her note book.

I used to wonder what she writes...today I took a peak and she was writing Om Namah Shivaya.

She smiled at me..I asked her."what are you listening to on your smart phone?"

She said a recitation of Om Namah Shivaya and she writes down as she is hearing it.

1 hour a day in the morning she does Likhita Japa before starting work.

God bless her....rare to find a young 18 yr old doing Likhita Japa these days.
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dear Renu,
We still, have pious youngsters and boisterous elders! :rolleyes:
My mother used to write Sree Ramajayam - till she took to bed in Jan 2015.
She used to listen to both Vishnu Sahasranaamam and
Lalitha sahasranaamam - without fail every single day.
The priest who performed her last rites told us her children,
"Before you worship God and ask for favors, pray to your mother
and surely she will fulfill your prayers and wishes!"
 
renuka said:
Dear VR ji,

Now for some different news!

Last night it rained heavily after a very long time of scorching heat. A welcome relief.

Today morning when I was getting ready to go to work...I saw fresh red rose petals on my front porch arranged in the shape of a heart but the rose petals were not wet.

I had forgotten to lock my front gate last night...so I wonder who the hell placed in there? Or did it rain rose petals from the skies like what we read in the Puranas that celestials shower rose petals!LOL


I hope there is no stalker cos I have been finding empty Paan Paraag packets in my garden when both my neighbours are not Indians.

Might need to install a CCTV at home I guess.
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Dear Renu!

Wow! Sounds so romantically mysterious!

Who does not love red roses and red rose petals?

Whoever has done this must be a connoisseur of beauty, grace and elegance.

Look at the choice of the person, the time of the year, the color, the flower and the design! :cool:

Summer showers are most welcome. So are red roses and heart shapes!

Keep a watchful eye for the paan-paraag-chewing-rasigan!!! :)
 
I have found this weird combination in Nature.

If the husband has refined tastes and is an eternal rasigan,
the wife would be a grim and morose lady with a set face. :ohwell:

Or it may happen to be the other way. :rolleyes:

How nice it would be if two people who are equally sensitive
and have the same refined taste become life partners!!! :love:
 
IT IS TRUE THAT NO ONE GIVES ANYONE ELSE UNDIVIDED ATTENTION- EVEN FOR A FEW SECONDS

Some People MAY remain unfocused, distracted, uninterested and indifferent when we tell them something important.

There after they change our original version, add spices ans salt and circulate it to the others!

The gift of undivided attention is the greatest gift of all possible gifts and which no one is willing to gift to another!
 
[h=1]102. Types of Listening[/h]
We all appear to listen attentively to what is being told to us. But surprisingly we hardly listen to 50% of what is being told to us and later on hardly remember 50% of what we had listened to!

This is due to the defective listening techniques we employ. There are several defective listening techniques like ‘false listening’, ‘initial listening’ and ‘partial listening’. On the other hand ‘good listening’ can be either ‘full listening’ or ‘deep listening’.

False listening occurs when a person pretends to listen keenly, but actually nothing gets registered in his mind. People who are known to indulge in this kind of listening are the Royalty, Politicians, Sports stars, Film stars and famous persons in any other field. They are forced to listen to a lot of talk, from persons whom they may never meet again! So they need not listen to nor remember, what they are being told!

Initial listening is when we listen to the opening remark, immediately form an opinion about it and wait for a chance to voice it. We stop listening to everything that follows the initial remark.

Partial listening is what most of us do most of the time! We listen a little and soon get diverted or distracted and lose the continuity.

Full listening is the most active form of listening. The listener pays close attention to the speaker and understands thoroughly what is being conveyed to him.

Deep listening is, when we not only listen to the words being spoken, but also understand the underlying emotions. We watch the body language of the speaker. We grasp the needs, preferences, biases, values and beliefs of the speaker. Deep listening is called as “the whole person listening”. It is also the wholesome listening technique.

It is said that, “The best gift you can ever give a woman is your undivided attention.” This is the gift every woman seeks for, all her life, but sadly very few ever receive it!

Visalakshi Ramani
 
[h=1]103. Selective Listening[/h]
There are many similarities in the ways the brain processes the sound signals and the visual images. But there are many differences too. The main difference relates to the attention we pay.

We have more control on what we want to see than what we want to hear. Why?

We can turn our head and look at the object of interest without any disturbances. But it is difficult to listen just to the sound that interests us. We always hear overlapping and conflicting sounds which cause chaos. But this problem is settled in a unique way!

We can mentally choose to focus on one sound and block out the other conflicting sounds. This ability is called ‘Selective listening’. When two different stories are read out, in the two ears of a person simultaneously, he can decide to hear any one of them fully and just skip the other willfully.

We communicate through languages which have both sound and meaning. We understand coherent and meaningful words but not disconnected and meaningless chatter. Even in a crowded room filled with multi-lingual-babble, we can hear our name being called out softly, by some one, somewhere in the crowd.

Selective listening is an everyday business for almost every one. A person immersed in a T.V show is virtually deaf to all the other sounds around him. Have you ever watched a person working on a P.C? He is in the deepest form of meditation—lost to the entire external world! Many domestic quarrels result from this kind of selective listening.

It is amazing to watch students who use music as a barrier to all the other sounds. Have you watched a person studying hard for an upcoming exam, while music is played around him, round the clock? The music does not disturb his study but helps to keep off all the other unpleasant and disturbing sounds.

Diamond cuts a diamond. So too a pleasant sound cuts off an unpleasant sound!

Visalakshi Ramani

https://visalakshiramani.wordpress.com/articles/miraculous-mind/selective-listening/
 
We can hear our name being called however softly - even in the midst of crazy mixed noise.

It is not clear whether it is because of telepathy or the familiar vibration one's own makes to him!

In a boisterous party you can tell anyone anything and get away with it.

Some one very naughty wanted to prove this to the others.

So he greeted each guest in a party with this sentence,

"Hello! I just murdered my mother in law!"

Every one - except one man - said with smiles,

"Oh! So good!", "Is that so!" "How very nice!" etc. :rolleyes:
 
Fun activities can become fatal quite often.

A bouncing castle is supposed to make the jumping Jack and Jane happy.

But what will happen if the castle itself bounces and takes off with the wind???

Helpless children get blown away and fall from great heights and suffer injuries or even may take off to eternity.

Fun activities can be made safer by making sure that the bouncing castle does not become a flying castle!

May be it can be chained or tied down with long ropes to make sure it won't take off.

It is better to be safe than to be sorry.

 
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