Women and engineer problem in marriage

[renuka]

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hi RR madam,

if i apply for present day marriage market ad...i may not get a gal......i was lucky that i got more than 50 proposals and

had many sojji/bajji weekends.......now the golden days are gone......

Dear TBS Garu,


You should apply and see for fun.

You can create a profile like this:

Middle aged ex army man..looking for suitable partner.

I have grown up children but I feel younger than them.

Years of target practice in Indian Army has made me an expert marks man..so no shots ever misses the target.

Brahmin girl with broad out look preferred and not keen to be continuing Smarta,Vadakalai,Thenkalai fight.

Living in US has changed my outlook...I am now having a broader perspective of life.

Not Orthodox but flexible.

My looks are not Greek God types but more like Hindu Devas..so dont expect a 6 packed ribbed abdomen.

I leave everything to God to decide...so horoscope match not necessary.

Fully experienced in matter relating to the opposite sex ..experienced in Lovvu and also had an arranged marriage after seeing 50 proposals.

Interested candidates could apply and will email back in less than 48 hours.

Apply now while offer last!

 

[tbs]

Dear TBS Garu,


You should apply and see for fun.

You can create a profile like this:

hi renu
thanks... just add middle age is ok....even ready to stay with grandchildren....BUT NO THANIKUDITHANAM... READY TO

MINGLE WITH SINGLE....LOL

 

[Raji Ram]

.......now the golden days are gone......

Yes! Because those 'ammALus' are not around any more!

Now, all ammAnjis are disappointed! out:

 

[renuka]

Yes! Because those 'ammALus' are not around any more!

Now, all ammAnjis are disappointed! out:

Dear RR ji,

Out here for Muslims the state religious department organizes Courses on Marriage and How to Handle Married life.

Single men and women have to attend this course and must do HIV blood test before being allowed to get married.

The course covers topics ranging from:

1)The need of marriage

2)Responsibilities of husband and wife

3)Child birth

4)How to bring up children

5)How to live with in laws

6)Sex and techniques...real detail.

7)Financial planning

8)Health care

9)Talak (Divorce) and it consequences

10)Polygamy

11)Prayers



I feel this is a good move..Hindu organizations too should start something like this..so that it might help guide youngsters about marriage and married life.

 

[Raji Ram]

Dear Renu,

You forgot to give the 'expectations' part in the ad

Here goes.........

1. Any age less than mine.

2. Anyone willing to relocate.
3. Should love my wife and children also. :grouphug:

4. Preference for 'no kids' profiles. :becky:

5. Should allow time for TB forum friends!! :lol:

 

[kkumar29]

Posts 348, 349.

Some one please clarify something for me. What is the fuss? I don't see anything wrong with the ads. The girls have stated their requirements. Let interested parties who meet the requirements contact them. Rest can look at other opportunities.

Post 350.

The fact that "50 proposals were sought and had many sojji/bajji weekends" says it all. Obviously the ones you rejected didn't meet your requirements. So why complain when the girls state their requirements.

I am totally lost.

K. Kumar

 

[Raji Ram]

Posts 348, 349.

Some one please clarify something for me. What is the fuss? I don't see anything wrong with the ads. The girls have stated their requirements. Let interested parties who meet the requirements contact them. Rest can look at other opportunities.........

Dear Sir,

Absolutely NO Fuss! I just posted those two ads to mention that now a days girls are also specific in finding

the right partner unlike the olden days, when guys left coolly rejecting the girls, after eating all the bajjis + sojjis! :hungry:

 

[sangom]

Posts 348, 349.

Some one please clarify something for me. What is the fuss? I don't see anything wrong with the ads. The girls have stated their requirements. Let interested parties who meet the requirements contact them. Rest can look at other opportunities.

Post 350.

The fact that "50 proposals were sought and had many sojji/bajji weekends" says it all. Obviously the ones you rejected didn't meet your requirements. So why complain when the girls state their requirements.

I am totally lost.

K. Kumar

Shri Kumar,

For all the noise that is generally made for having "Gender Equality" and all that, I feel the Indian society is not yet prepared to see the female having the "upper hand" in anything.

In the tabra matrimonial market, the tabra girls rule and this is, somehow, not well received by women especially when there is a boy (son or close relative of yours) aged 30 or nearby, but still being rejected by girls for one reason or the other. That seems to be the root of the whole problem.

"Once my son is married to a girl of my choice (or, his choice, as the second best option) I can be free to talk about gender equality and so on" is the moral of the story.

Post #350 is the usual comedy track going side by side with the main story!!

 

[Raji Ram]

Dear Sangom Sir,

FYI, my son could satisfy all the conditions laid by a girl and hence got married at the right age!

Those boys who are not able to do so in my family circle are still waiting!

 

[amala]

Posts 348, 349.

Some one please clarify something for me. What is the fuss? I don't see anything wrong with the ads. The girls have stated their requirements. Let interested parties who meet the requirements contact them. Rest can look at other opportunities.

Post 350.

The fact that "50 proposals were sought and had many sojji/bajji weekends" says it all. Obviously the ones you rejected didn't meet your requirements. So why complain when the girls state their requirements.

I am totally lost.

K. Kumar

You said exactly what was in my mind Sir! nowadays it seems there is hardly a day going by in this forum without barrages of pure moaning!

 

[Raji Ram]

Truth is bitter!

Read more HERE :ranger:

 

[kkumar29]

Dear RRji,

your post 359. It is a question of finding a partner who meets your requirements. All those who are waiting, it is time for them to re-examine their requirements and see whether they have set some unrealistic ones. Obviously you are tracking these ads, so having gone through the process for your son's marriage, you might be in a better position to advise these youngsters.

But one thing escapes me in all these anguish. Isn't marriage supposed to be between two people who plan to live their life together with similar ideas/outlook/objectives in life? So when the girls express their views why does it become unreasonable? Haven't men expected their wives to pack their bags and go wherever the husband got transferred in his job? Did the parents of the men have any objections then? I have seen in this my own family. The wife didn't have a choice. Now these girls want to make sure this doesn't happen. May be these girls/or their friends completed their education in multiple cities and don't want that for their children. Is that wrong?

I think பாரதி கண்ட புதுமைப்பெண் is starting to emerge and society is unable to cope with this as mentioned by Mr. Sangom

K. Kumar

 

[Raji Ram]

Dear Kumar Sir,

The scenario has changed very much within five years! Previously, girls were ready to pack up to U S of A, if the

partner agrees to help her get her master's degree. Now, the banks are giving loans and girls do not depend on

anyone to help them. Many girls known to me have gone for higher studies taking bank loans. Since they have to

pay back the loan, they need to work for a few years and postpone their wedding. This is one of the reasons for

the delay in marriage. The girls who find good placement within India, especially in the M N Cs, do NOT wish to

relocate - may be because they think that it is easier for guys to find jobs and relocate!

But, I am happy that I keep on getting wedding invitation cards every month, from friends and relatives!!

 

[biswa]

Another thing I dont understand. If Punjabi men are successful in stealing TB gals using their physicality, why are TB guys unsuccessful or unwilling to seduce Punjabi gals using their brain power?

 

[Raji Ram]

Dear Biswa Sir,

Who wants brain power? The guy AND his salary should be handsome!

 

[renuka]

Another thing I dont understand. If Punjabi men are successful in stealing TB gals using their physicality, why are TB guys unsuccessful or unwilling to seduce Punjabi gals using their brain power?

LOL!

Don't you get it....

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Love is an art itself...one has to be born with the gift.

 

[biswa]

Dear Biswa Sir,

Who wants brain power? The guy AND his salary should be handsome!

Okay then follow-up question. How come TB guys value brain cells while TB gals value muscle cells (either in the bicep or in the wallet)? Same family, same background, but different outlook?

Or why do TB guys find TB gals to be good looking, but not vice versa? Similar gene pool, ain't it?

 

[renuka]

Okay then follow-up question. How come TB guys value brain cells while TB gals value muscle cells (either in the bicep or in the wallet)? Same family, same background, but different outlook?

Or why do TB guys find TB gals to be good looking, but not vice versa? Similar gene pool, ain't it?

Dear Biswa,

I dont think men generally value Brain Cells of a woman...they are more concern about the cells that turn up on the Papanicolaou Smear!LOL

 

[Raji Ram]

Okay then follow-up question. How come TB guys value brain cells while TB gals value muscle cells (either in the bicep or in the wallet)? Same family, same background, but different outlook?

Or why do TB guys find TB gals to be good looking, but not vice versa? Similar gene pool, ain't it?

Left to themselves (love marriage) most of the tambram guys and girls search for money + beauty!

But, tambram parents search in their own clan to beget 'brainy' descendants. This might be the 'ego'

of being 'born brahmin'!!

There are exceptions. One of our friend's daughter loved and married a 'piththA piRai choodi', who was

her senior in college, ONLY for his brain!

P.S: 'piththA piRai choodi' = bald guy who hair is like a crescent moon! :thumb:

 

[sangom]

Okay then follow-up question. How come TB guys value brain cells while TB gals value muscle cells (either in the bicep or in the wallet)? Same family, same background, but different outlook?

Or why do TB guys find TB gals to be good looking, but not vice versa? Similar gene pool, ain't it?

Shri Biswa,

Tabra women in the past were not familiar with men with good muscles, the six-pack etc. ; if at all, they knew only "pahalwans". Those women valued a brahminic life and life style as important. So, they had no problem with the available male specimens among tabras.

In the changed world of today, tabra girls have a very different set of expectations and within that set the tabra boys (or their brain cells) just do not count. If at all, it is only the wallet power. But the physical has become the most important for the tabra girls. May be they believe that a very good physique hides a very good **** you know what, or, may be they have verified and found this belief to be correct too. Hence this double handicap for tabra boys.

 

[C RAVI]

Dear RRji,

I think பாரதி கண்ட புதுமைப்பெண் is starting to emerge and society is unable to cope with this as mentioned by Mr. Sangom

K. Kumar

Dear Sir,

Mahakavi Bharathi's expectations of Pudhumai Penn has been misunderstood by many (by the girls, by some of their parents and by some of the feminists) of today!!

Pudhumai Penn is expected to be educated, employed, courageous, out spoken, confident, assertive, an independent decision maker, a self defender, ambitious etc..etc. This is what a progressing society requires where a lady as a daughter, as a sister, as a wife and as a mother contributes constructively to her family and collectively to the society.

This started to happen, progressed and continuing to progress for better. But, ironically, the campaign is parallely getting implemented in a different dimension, leading to adoption of the concept of live in relationship (live in relationship can not take place unless the girl too agrees with the guy), misbehaving with prospective alliance (girls/girls parents behavior with the guys/guys parents while seeking alliance) etc. In all, many of the Pudhumai Penns gonna be a role model for other girls, setting trends and be a kind of Social figure ONLY to lose the charm of their personal life.

 

[C RAVI]

Shri Biswa,

Tabra women in the past were not familiar with men with good muscles, the six-pack etc. ; if at all, they knew only "pahalwans". Those women valued a brahminic life and life style as important. So, they had no problem with the available male specimens among tabras.

In the changed world of today, tabra girls have a very different set of expectations and within that set the tabra boys (or their brain cells) just do not count. If at all, it is only the wallet power. But the physical has become the most important for the tabra girls. May be they believe that a very good physique hides a very good **** you know what, or, may be they have verified and found this belief to be correct too. Hence this double handicap for tabra boys.

Absolutely!!

 

[Raji Ram]

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Caution for boys who want to get married.

1. Don't run after girls while studying and fail in your exams!

2. Always get professional degrees as mention above.

3. Never ever think 'beauty is skin deep' and avoid visits to spas for MEN.

4. Get good employment before it is too late! Your salary too should be handsome

5. Do not smoke. (saves money to spend to visit Spa)

6. Do not touch alcohol. (saves money to spend to visit Spa)

7. Have 'clean habits' whatever it means!

Added to these.

8. Don't have the slightest idea to bring your parent(s) to live with you!

9. Remember that 'take home pay has a hidden meaning - hand over to better-half!

10. Try to get married before you hit 30!
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Oops! I forgot to add one important point.

Build muscle power by regular visits to gym! :boxing:

 

[C RAVI]

Dear Kumar Sir,

The scenario has changed very much within five years! Previously, girls were ready to pack up to U S of A, if the

partner agrees to help her get her master's degree. Now, the banks are giving loans and girls do not depend on

anyone to help them. Many girls known to me have gone for higher studies taking bank loans. Since they have to

pay back the loan, they need to work for a few years and postpone their wedding. This is one of the reasons for

the delay in marriage. The girls who find good placement within India, especially in the M N Cs, do NOT wish to

relocate - may be because they think that it is easier for guys to find jobs and relocate!

But, I am happy that I keep on getting wedding invitation cards every month, from friends and relatives!!

Shmt.Raji Ram,

Just want to share as this came to my thoughts after reading your above post.

In 2009 when we were looking for a girl for my elder brother (at that time he was also working in Dubai), I could spare my time and spoke to 1 Mami in Mumbai whose unmarried daughter is working in Dubai (She lost her father and only sister in an accident) and passed on to her my mom's contact number. So that she can speak to my mom first and then pass on her daughters phone number to my mom.

While that mami and my mother were exchanging dialogues over the phone, that mami asked my mother about her expectations. My mother said - "we don't have any single expectation. If the boy and the girl like each other and everything goes fine, you can decide to conduct marriage the way you feel like". The next second, the response from the Mami was - "What else can you people expect when already I have well educated my daughter, she is well employed and drawing handsome salary? Expecting anything further would be ridiculous. You your self should have admitted it rather stating you people don't have any demands at all" ound: . She then put the phone down with out letting my mom speak something.


When my mother shared this over the phone with me, we had loud lough together

My mother innocently replied to that Mami But she turned out to be rude and finding faults. At that time my bother was 35 years old and that girl was 31 years old. I still find that girl's profile in matrimonial site and find her appearing online on site's chat.


I don't think this is what was expected in "Pudhumai Penn" by Mahakavi Bharathi!!

 

[renuka]

May be they believe that a very good physique hides a very good **** you know what,

Dear Sangom ji,

I totally disagree with your choice of words!

Why should a good physique hide anything??

A good physique is an indicator! It does not hide..it reveals!LOL