i think it is all a state of mind.
i think, broadly speaking, there are various levels of dealing with a society that you live - alienation, acclimatization, acculturization, integration and assimilation.
alienation - i think, all of us, will have no problem agreeing what it is.
acclimatization - my experience of immediate landing in canada, and the first 5 years. ie getting used to the weather, culture and politics, and not feeling any sense of conflict. that is the personal me.
acculturization - me now. after 37 years of living in canada, perfectly comfortable with the culture, food, weather and politics. i will never be a 'canadian' in the breast thumping sense. part of me is always in india.
integration - my children in canada. they are canadians. identify with everything here, very comfortably. feeling of belonging and participating, ability to fend of the label of 'immigrant' and above all, finding a distinct identity from the americans.
assimilation - maybe two generations from now in my family? i don't know.
this is my family. others may have it different. the same can be considered for any one of us, wherever we live. also, what we should take into consideration, that there is no one preferred status. it is what we are comfortable with.
in my own, poor and unorganized way, if i should extrapolate what i intended in this thread re integration of tamil brahmins with other tamil tribes:
i do not believe in 'the separate but equal' philosophy. this usually is a code word for discrimination. which is why, i feel strongly, for the panchamars, whom i would rather claim to belong to us, than to the muslims or christians.
to me inclusiveness of hindus, especially tamil hindus, as a one clan, only divided by tribes, based on traditions developed because of where they lived and not based on the edicts on manu.
in this context, i have felt that the tamil brahmins are now not quite integrated with the tamil society. i also believe it was not so before.
many reasons for this, and it is not within the scope of this post to review that.
but, if we recognize an issue and accept that it exists, and we align to discuss solutions, as to where we would like to go, then can discuss the path to the destination.
one way to deal with this issue of 'integration', is to simply shove everything under the carpet, and claim that we are fully integrated; the problem of accepting our integrated status, is with the other tamil tribes.
another, i think, somewhat moderately prevalent view, is what i sense here, and i may be wrong. it is again an extension of the live and let live philosophy. ie each tribe has its own place in this society, and the tamil brahmins accordingly. it is just that for various reasons, that this status quo has been disrupted, and we would all be fine, if we can revert.
unfortunately, time only moves forward. we have discounted the speed with which changes have come to our society, especially in communications and imparting of knowledge, philosophies and ideas.
it is often said, that the seeds of the american war of independence was planted in the french revolution.
the influence of islam or christianity, is far more potent, due to the spread of ideas of absolute equality before God. there can be no stratified preferences, and in no way, can this be reflected in a religious practice of current day.
not only has human dignity to be etched in the scriptures, but has to be seen to be put in practice. no excuses. proletyzation is of the mind and unless we have the tools to fend off such attacks, we are under threat. i always believe that offence is a very good defence. even better, a great deterrence.
while others may view apathy towards our traditions with concern, i view it as doing less harm, than in some of the recent movements which proclaim to 'restore' our ancient hindu glory through rabble rousing propaganda. to me that is the most dangerous threat to the survival of tamil brahmins, and we should in no way succumb to these extreme viewpoints.
another concern, is the steadily declining numbers in tamil nadu. those of us, outside of the state or country, i think, would be wise to remember, that without the strong root of our bloodline in tamil nadu, along with it the wide trunk of societal support of a healthy thriving aalamaram, we do not have the shade to bask under its spread.
without the strong thriving integrated base in tamil nadu, we are akin to those dried up distressed cattle, trying to find shade under the acacia trees of the kalahari desert.
we would be like the sindhis, recognized as indians, but stateless regardless. one feels sorry or pity for such kind, i think.
the bottom line is the declining population numbers in tamil nadu for tamil brahmins. from what i suspect, there are indeed a large number of bachelors, vainly waiting for their promised brides. the promises came from their parents, who are unable to keep up the promise.
what i suggested, was that folks like these, remove yet another layer of the lens of prejudice, and view some of the other groups, with a view to adopting daughters and enriching our fold.
after all, gone are the days, when we had thriving and bustling households filled with kids and who provided a steady stream of marriageable lads and lassies, when their time came and who filled the creaky cars of mappiLLai azhaippus.
nowadays, in the past few weddings in chennai within my family, i could count with my fingers the numbers of children. but of the geriatric crowds, i lost count.
inspite of ourselves, things will evolve. at some point, the impatient TB bachelor in tamil nadu, will give up on his parents, and take matters into his own hands to satisfy his urge to mate and set up home. whom he choses, will decide on the future of our community in tamil nadu.
below, i refreshingly digress in this somewhat longwinded post...
lastly, the position of a community within a society: the jews are classical examples of acculturization. they are part of the western society but never integrated there. israel is where their heart lies.
the muslims of today, i think, will atleast for the forseeable future, will be alienated in the western cultures where they live.
the hindus, by and large, will move acculturization to assimilation in their new western homelands.
thank you.
i think, broadly speaking, there are various levels of dealing with a society that you live - alienation, acclimatization, acculturization, integration and assimilation.
alienation - i think, all of us, will have no problem agreeing what it is.
acclimatization - my experience of immediate landing in canada, and the first 5 years. ie getting used to the weather, culture and politics, and not feeling any sense of conflict. that is the personal me.
acculturization - me now. after 37 years of living in canada, perfectly comfortable with the culture, food, weather and politics. i will never be a 'canadian' in the breast thumping sense. part of me is always in india.
integration - my children in canada. they are canadians. identify with everything here, very comfortably. feeling of belonging and participating, ability to fend of the label of 'immigrant' and above all, finding a distinct identity from the americans.
assimilation - maybe two generations from now in my family? i don't know.
this is my family. others may have it different. the same can be considered for any one of us, wherever we live. also, what we should take into consideration, that there is no one preferred status. it is what we are comfortable with.
in my own, poor and unorganized way, if i should extrapolate what i intended in this thread re integration of tamil brahmins with other tamil tribes:
i do not believe in 'the separate but equal' philosophy. this usually is a code word for discrimination. which is why, i feel strongly, for the panchamars, whom i would rather claim to belong to us, than to the muslims or christians.
to me inclusiveness of hindus, especially tamil hindus, as a one clan, only divided by tribes, based on traditions developed because of where they lived and not based on the edicts on manu.
in this context, i have felt that the tamil brahmins are now not quite integrated with the tamil society. i also believe it was not so before.
many reasons for this, and it is not within the scope of this post to review that.
but, if we recognize an issue and accept that it exists, and we align to discuss solutions, as to where we would like to go, then can discuss the path to the destination.
one way to deal with this issue of 'integration', is to simply shove everything under the carpet, and claim that we are fully integrated; the problem of accepting our integrated status, is with the other tamil tribes.
another, i think, somewhat moderately prevalent view, is what i sense here, and i may be wrong. it is again an extension of the live and let live philosophy. ie each tribe has its own place in this society, and the tamil brahmins accordingly. it is just that for various reasons, that this status quo has been disrupted, and we would all be fine, if we can revert.
unfortunately, time only moves forward. we have discounted the speed with which changes have come to our society, especially in communications and imparting of knowledge, philosophies and ideas.
it is often said, that the seeds of the american war of independence was planted in the french revolution.
the influence of islam or christianity, is far more potent, due to the spread of ideas of absolute equality before God. there can be no stratified preferences, and in no way, can this be reflected in a religious practice of current day.
not only has human dignity to be etched in the scriptures, but has to be seen to be put in practice. no excuses. proletyzation is of the mind and unless we have the tools to fend off such attacks, we are under threat. i always believe that offence is a very good defence. even better, a great deterrence.
while others may view apathy towards our traditions with concern, i view it as doing less harm, than in some of the recent movements which proclaim to 'restore' our ancient hindu glory through rabble rousing propaganda. to me that is the most dangerous threat to the survival of tamil brahmins, and we should in no way succumb to these extreme viewpoints.
another concern, is the steadily declining numbers in tamil nadu. those of us, outside of the state or country, i think, would be wise to remember, that without the strong root of our bloodline in tamil nadu, along with it the wide trunk of societal support of a healthy thriving aalamaram, we do not have the shade to bask under its spread.
without the strong thriving integrated base in tamil nadu, we are akin to those dried up distressed cattle, trying to find shade under the acacia trees of the kalahari desert.
we would be like the sindhis, recognized as indians, but stateless regardless. one feels sorry or pity for such kind, i think.
the bottom line is the declining population numbers in tamil nadu for tamil brahmins. from what i suspect, there are indeed a large number of bachelors, vainly waiting for their promised brides. the promises came from their parents, who are unable to keep up the promise.
what i suggested, was that folks like these, remove yet another layer of the lens of prejudice, and view some of the other groups, with a view to adopting daughters and enriching our fold.
after all, gone are the days, when we had thriving and bustling households filled with kids and who provided a steady stream of marriageable lads and lassies, when their time came and who filled the creaky cars of mappiLLai azhaippus.
nowadays, in the past few weddings in chennai within my family, i could count with my fingers the numbers of children. but of the geriatric crowds, i lost count.
inspite of ourselves, things will evolve. at some point, the impatient TB bachelor in tamil nadu, will give up on his parents, and take matters into his own hands to satisfy his urge to mate and set up home. whom he choses, will decide on the future of our community in tamil nadu.
below, i refreshingly digress in this somewhat longwinded post...
lastly, the position of a community within a society: the jews are classical examples of acculturization. they are part of the western society but never integrated there. israel is where their heart lies.
the muslims of today, i think, will atleast for the forseeable future, will be alienated in the western cultures where they live.
the hindus, by and large, will move acculturization to assimilation in their new western homelands.
thank you.
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