thank you gokul.
let me respond to your points, easy to difficult.
one other way of integration is singing more tamil songs in the carnatic concerts, as i have said. others are going along with socio political issues like sri lankan tamils.
the older members might remember that we tamil brahmins stood shoulder to shoulder in the anti hindi agitations of the 1960s.
re our bachelors' plight: it all depends on the selection method, right. the girl from another caste wishing to marry a brahmin, would probably be more into the types of practices that are non conflicting with a normal brahmin household.
primarily i would imagine be vegetarianism, or willing to be one. i think the religious rituals concerning our obsequies can be easily learned, as the female is of secondary importance here, to the best of my knowledge.
if i remember correctly, in most functions whether it be thevasam, vinayagar poojai or bhaghvathi sevai,the females are in support roles. it is mostly cooking and serving.
i think this is a feasible alternative, provided the will is there. it is easiest to take brides from pillais or mudaliars - i know a few of them, and their household practices is not all that different from ours, including the exclusion of women from the kitchen during the menstrual periods.
i get a feeling that this is a crisis of epidemic proportion. there are simply not enough girls to go around, even for a blind choice. there does not appear to be such an issue for girls. all the girls in my family have been hooked, quick and easy.
re the subject of children growing up in the west, i think, we must keep in mind their interests first. i think, we should not do anything which might hinder their survival skills.
this is a different society, and we ourselves do not know how to fathom the waters. in the context of this ignorance, i think it is rather dumb, to invoke values and mores, which not only do not fit in these societies, but which are increasingly considered archaic even in india.
to that extent, i think, it may be easier, to define the boundaries to them. these boundaries are more an admission of our limitations and hopefully, the youngsters can navigate their day to day growth, while accepting their parents' immigrant baggage.
after all, our children did not ask to come here to this world. we brought them here, and bringing them up further, should be a labour of love and care, and not one of rules and restrictions. i think so, anyway.
thank you for your complements. my views come solely from atttending that school that never forgives, ie the school of hard knocks. i appear to be a permanent student there with little hopes of graduation.
let me respond to your points, easy to difficult.
one other way of integration is singing more tamil songs in the carnatic concerts, as i have said. others are going along with socio political issues like sri lankan tamils.
the older members might remember that we tamil brahmins stood shoulder to shoulder in the anti hindi agitations of the 1960s.
re our bachelors' plight: it all depends on the selection method, right. the girl from another caste wishing to marry a brahmin, would probably be more into the types of practices that are non conflicting with a normal brahmin household.
primarily i would imagine be vegetarianism, or willing to be one. i think the religious rituals concerning our obsequies can be easily learned, as the female is of secondary importance here, to the best of my knowledge.
if i remember correctly, in most functions whether it be thevasam, vinayagar poojai or bhaghvathi sevai,the females are in support roles. it is mostly cooking and serving.
i think this is a feasible alternative, provided the will is there. it is easiest to take brides from pillais or mudaliars - i know a few of them, and their household practices is not all that different from ours, including the exclusion of women from the kitchen during the menstrual periods.
i get a feeling that this is a crisis of epidemic proportion. there are simply not enough girls to go around, even for a blind choice. there does not appear to be such an issue for girls. all the girls in my family have been hooked, quick and easy.
re the subject of children growing up in the west, i think, we must keep in mind their interests first. i think, we should not do anything which might hinder their survival skills.
this is a different society, and we ourselves do not know how to fathom the waters. in the context of this ignorance, i think it is rather dumb, to invoke values and mores, which not only do not fit in these societies, but which are increasingly considered archaic even in india.
to that extent, i think, it may be easier, to define the boundaries to them. these boundaries are more an admission of our limitations and hopefully, the youngsters can navigate their day to day growth, while accepting their parents' immigrant baggage.
after all, our children did not ask to come here to this world. we brought them here, and bringing them up further, should be a labour of love and care, and not one of rules and restrictions. i think so, anyway.
thank you for your complements. my views come solely from atttending that school that never forgives, ie the school of hard knocks. i appear to be a permanent student there with little hopes of graduation.
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