Women and engineer problem in marriage

[Raji Ram]

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....... Cougar groups do exists all over the world especially among the rich and famous.

I hope the tambram mAmis are NOT that rich / famous!

 

[sadasivam.sridharan]

Mami is an asset whereas mama is a liability for the SIL especially at the time of delivery and thereafter.However the mami many a times requires mama to do edupudi jobs like cutting vegetables,putting clothes for wash,folding and ironing clothes etc.etc.Still as for as SIL is concerned FIL is a dispensable person.FILs who plan to accompany their wives for their daughter's delivery may well understand this unless their equation with SILs is at a different level.

 

[tbs]

Mami is an asset whereas mama is a liability for the SIL especially at the time of delivery and thereafter.However the mami many a times requires mama to do edupudi jobs like cutting vegetables,putting clothes for wash,folding and ironing clothes etc.etc.Still as for as SIL is concerned FIL is a dispensable person.FILs who plan to accompany their wives for their daughter's delivery may well understand this unless their equation with SILs is at a different level.

hi sir

Mami is an asset whereas mama is a liability for the SIL

always....even after delivery....lol

 

[Raji Ram]

At times this are the equations:

mother = edupidi for daughter!

father = edupidi for mother!!
son-in-law = edupidi for all the three!!! :decision:

 

[sadasivam.sridharan]

At times this are the equations:

mother = edupidi for daughter!

father = edupidi for mother!!
son in law = edupidi for all the three!!! :decision:

The firsr two equations are well balanced and would be well accepted by majority population.The last one will be ok in specific cases and can't be universal.

 

[sadasivam.sridharan]

At times this are the equations:mother = edupidi for daughter!father = edupidi for mother!! son in law = edupidi for all the three!!! :decision:

The firsr two equations are well balanced and would be well accepted by majority population.The last one will be ok in specific cases and can't be universal.

 

[renuka]

BTW what about Father In Law- Son In Law relationship?

Deep down inside I think most fathers do not really 100% like their Sons In Laws and neither do Sons In Law 100% like their FIL..it is just that there is seldom a showdown cos men just read newspaper and cover their faces if they can't tolerate each other!LOL

 

[Raji Ram]

The father liking the son in law depends on how much the son in law takes care of the daughter! :hug:

 

[C RAVI]

Gents show their disinterest in a diplomatic manner. Just a gesture and or just a single statement is enough to keep each other off from each other. Men are intelligent.. :becky:

 

[C RAVI]

The father liking the son in law depends on how much the son in law takes care of the daughter! :hug:

And depends on what sort of feed back the daughter gives to her father about her husband..

 

[renuka]

Gents show their disinterest in a diplomatic manner. Just a gesture and or just a single statement is enough to keep each other off from each other. Men are intelligent.. :becky:

yes you are right...but some how its men who always start wars! LOL

 

[renuka]

There is one type of Daughter In Law called the Smothering DIL.

One of my cousins has a wife like this..she smothers my aunt with over affection and is so gentle and soft spoken that I wonder how she manages all these.

You can find her 24/7 with Pottu and Thali when she is at my aunts house..once I asked her (she is also a doctor).

I asked her if she wears Thali and Pottu when she is working in the hospital or she only wears when she comes to see her MIL.

Then my cousin brother answered "she only wears when she comes to see her MIL..what to do otherwise my mother will nag her..when she goes back home I tell her to do as she pleases"

 

[C RAVI]

There is one type of Daughter In Law called the Smothering DIL.

One of my cousins has a wife like this..she smothers my aunt with over affection and is so gentle and soft spoken that I wonder how she manages all these.

You can find her 24/7 with Pottu and Thali when she is at my aunts house..once I asked her (she is also a doctor).

I asked her if she wears Thali and Pottu when she is working in the hospital or she only wears when she comes to see her MIL.

Then my cousin brother answered "she only wears when she comes to see her MIL..what to do otherwise my mother will nag her..when she goes back home I tell her to do as she pleases"

AFA I am concerned, such DIL's are far better to show some respect to the belief and sentiments of MIL and keep her happy rather being unmindful and sticking to her convictions every where, in front of every one, in the name of honesty, openness, liberty and confidence of a Pudhumai Penn.

 

[renuka]

AFA I am concerned, such DIL's are far better to show some respect to the belief and sentiments of MIL and keep her happy rather being unmindful and sticking to her convictions every where, in front of every one, in the name of honesty, openness, liberty and confidence of a Pudhumai Penn.

What is the Pudhumai Penn..Pudhumai Penn?

I do not like the word Women's Lib..it makes it sound as if women were bound and now they are free.

A person is only bound when he/she thinks she is bound.

One does not have to be a Pudhumai Penn to be herself.

The problem is there is new breed of men called Pudhumai Aan...they are just trying to put all women in cages and make them dance to their tunes!LOL

 

[amala]

I think there is nothing wrong in pleasing people, especially family members, sometimes. It doesn't cost anything to don the thaali and pottu, at least for a short while if that makes people happy, not random strangers but people close to us. It is far more empowering to be flexible rather than rigid. Rigidity breaks, be flexible and bend . Everday we are doing things for random strangers that we may not like. I don't understand why we can't occasionally do things for family (unfortunately or fortunately depending on how you look at it, MILs are family too!)

 

[amala]

See I knew when KK Sir used pudumai penn, someone was going to take it and use it in every single occasion!

 

[renuka]

Now lets define a Pudumai Aan.

1)keeps finding fault with all females.

2)wants a door mat as a wife

3)their motto is life is Roti,Kapda aur Ladki!LOL

4)wants a wife who is "brain dead"..that is ...just follow his instructions without any questions.

5)wants a wife who will forget her parents and only care for his parents.

6)wants a wife who will cook for him all dishes his Amma cooked.

7)wants a wife who will dress traditionally but he will keep ogling at Sunny Leone online.

8)wants a wife who has not seen any male besides her father and brother.



So this is the Pudhumai Aan Ashtakam.

P.S will add the Phala Shruti later!

 

[renuka]

(unfortunately or fortunately depending on how you look at it, MILs are family too!)

Dear Amala,

Mostly women do more to please their MIL more than their own Mothers cos with our own Mothers we can fight with them but mostly women try their level best not to fight with their MIL.

 

[sangom]

BTW what about Father In Law- Son In Law relationship?

Deep down inside I think most fathers do not really 100% like their Sons In Laws and neither do Sons In Law 100% like their FIL..it is just that there is seldom a showdown cos men just read newspaper and cover their faces if they can't tolerate each other!LOL

I think at least among tabras, FILs used to have, deep down in their heart, a great amount of gratitude towards the SIL for his having come forward to (what follows is the old-world maxim) take charge of his daughter for life, even though his daughter might have hundred and one deficiencies as a woman and as a wife.

Perhaps, for today's girls (the "pudhumaip penns") this will have to be suitably altered according to individual perception!!

 

[Raji Ram]

I think at least among tabras, FILs used to have, deep down in their heart, a great amount of gratitude towards the FIL for his having come forward to (what follows is the old-world maxim) take charge of his daughter for life, even though his daughter might have hundred and one deficiencies as a woman and as a wife. ............

Dear Sangom Sir,

I read the second F I L as S I L and that is what you meant!
The S I L is supposed to be Maha Vishnu swaroopi! ray2:

Source: groom as mahavishnu swaroopi

 

[C RAVI]

........I do not like the word Women's Lib..it makes it sound as if women were bound and now they are free.

A person is only bound when he/she thinks she is bound.

One does not have to be a Pudhumai Penn to be herself........

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It just doesn't sounds as if women were bound. They were really bound and had to put up with lot against their wishes and comfort.

Fortunately Pudhumai Penns gradually started to emerge and are now bold enough to establish themselves as an individual, in all the spheres of life. This is what is the need for a healthy family and healthy society.

The only problem is when things goes beyond its limit and some women fail to realize and understand what "Pudhumai Penn" really means!!

They need to understand that, by being "Pudhumai Penns" they are not bound to over rule their consciousness and lose their mind from the sensitivities of humans and human life.

 

[C RAVI]

Now lets define a Pudumai Aan.

1)keeps finding fault with all females.

2)wants a door mat as a wife

3)their motto is life is Roti,Kapda aur Ladki!LOL

4)wants a wife who is "brain dead"..that is ...just follow his instructions without any questions.

5)wants a wife who will forget her parents and only care for his parents.

6)wants a wife who will cook for him all dishes his Amma cooked.

7)wants a wife who will dress traditionally but he will keep ogling at Sunny Leone online.

8)wants a wife who has not seen any male besides her father and brother.



So this is the Pudhumai Aan Ashtakam.

P.S will add the Phala Shruti later!

This Aan Ashtakam is not a new found Ashtakam of any Pudhumai Aan. This "was" what the Ashtagam that restricted Pudhumai Penns to emerge.

Pudhumai Aans were those who were against this Aan Ashtakam and jointly helped Pudhumai Penns to emerge.

 

[C RAVI]

The usage of the term "Pudhumai Penn" aptly fits into this Thread topic. Personally I would thank a member (who ever he or she is) to have used such a term.

There is lot to talk about this "Pudhumai Penn" and see how they are supposed to be (as envisioned by Mahakavi Bharthi) and how actually they are turning out to be, in context of this thread topic.

 

[Raji Ram]

These girls are NOT Bharathi's 'pudhumaip peNs'.

Enjoy this bit of the song:

Pappa Pattu Padiya Bharathi

 

[sangom]

Dear Sangom Sir,

I read the second F I L as S I L and that is what you meant!
The S I L is supposed to be Maha Vishnu swaroopi! ray2:

Source: groom as mahavishnu swaroopi

Smt. RR,

You are correct. My typo. Sorry, I have now corrected it.