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Women and engineer problem in marriage

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sadasivam.sridharan said:
Diplomatic DILs who are far off yet quite near their MILs know the trick of the trade.
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LOL!! True..


One of my Uncles used to say - "Never ever believe totally and take for granted any ladies - Mother, Sister, Wife, Daugther, Lady Friend..LOL!!!

For that, my Mother protests at the drop of a Hat, stating - Oh!! As if guys are 100% genuine. You guys only making us tactful..

LOL!!

 
kunjuppu said:
sangom,

there are two topics here.

re the mama left alone, i think,in many cases, the mama does not wish to go to usa. in reality there is nothing there for him, after the first visit. from whence he gets the bragging right. the reality is - boredom, time hanging on one's shoulders, lot of housework, even more if guests come, taking care of children, no friends,TV (though now thanks to the net you can get tamil shows) and above all home bound, due to distances or vagaries of the weather.

in contrast to this, in india, he has a comfortable retired , friends, society, radio, TV, club (!), tasty hotel food, and what not... and even a respite from the nagging mami.

the only situtation that can throw spanner in the works, is illness.

frankly speaking, i know a few of the mamas here. all of them are udavaakkarais - they do nothing except sit in the house and behave as know-alls. they are bored most of the time, which they cannot even confess when they go to india, for it would mean loss of face.

i feel sorry for that generation of parents, who have to leave india, all in the name of old age security. some cruelties are inflicted by the children, but then others, are self inflicted. i think so.

re the mami making money, through parayanams - i think this is to admired. nothing wrong in that. and all the more glory to free enterprise :) these mamis bring unique skillsets - one started a business of batchanams, and every summer, when she departed, she used to pack off also, a handsome bank account :) and no one grudged her for it.
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hi sir,

some of the mamas can enjoy NEEYA NAANA serial without பொண்டாட்டி புடுங்கல் .........means PONDATTI= WIFE = WORRIES

INVITED FOR EVER.....
 
C RAVI said:
LOL!! True..


One of my Uncles used to say - "Never ever believe totally and take for granted any ladies - Mother, Sister, Wife, Daugther, Lady Friend..LOL!!!

For that, my Mother protests at the drop of a Hat, stating - Oh!! As if guys are 100% genuine. You guys only making us tactful..

LOL!!
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hi ravi,

after a long years in this earth....i realised very late.....its true.....kinda tube light in ladies matters....we can see the deep of

the sea....but not the mind of gal/ladies....womanfolks created like that by the god...i remember on doha of sant tulasidas

in sundarakanda of ramayan.....DOLL NARI ....THADANADHIKARI.....means women are equal to drum...
 
C RAVI said:
- "Never ever believe totally and take for granted any ladies - Mother, Sister, Wife, Daugther, Lady Friend..LOL!!!


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LOL! Ha Ha Ha..then how come guys still want to marry girls??

Being gay would be a better option! Ha Ha Ha
 
kunjuppu said:
............. frankly speaking, i know a few of the mamas here. all of them are udavaakkarais - they do nothing except sit in the house and behave as know-alls. they are bored most of the time, which they cannot even confess when they go to india, for it would mean loss of face. ..........
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Dear Kunjuppu Sir,

These mAmAs are the 'illaththarasan' - King of the house! They have been trained by their mothers that they are

far more superior to their sisters and it is a shame to help the ladies in household chores! This mind set makes him

hide his face in a new paper - TOI now in many cases, because it is much cheaper than The Hindu - expect coffee

to be served by wife and sit idle most of the time solving sudoku / reading novels. Some orthodox mAmAs do daily

pooja and think they are next to God and his wife should serve him all the time! These mAmAs continue the same

attitude in the U S of A, except washing the plate after eating - to show to his DIL that he is so considerate! - and go

for walk in the mornings, if weather is good. MAmis are able to adopt better because they have the household chores

which are comparatively easier than doing in India - thanks to the dish washers, running hot water in the kitchen,

swiffer floor cleaners and as the like!

Now an interesting news!! One more way of earning money by a front line lady artist: She sells her once used costly

silk sarees at a discount price to mAmis living in the U S of A. She is happy since she does not wear it again for a concert +

mAmis are happy with the discount! :)
 

When a man is a pedestrian, he always finds fault with the vehicle drivers on the road whereas when he drives

the car, he always finds fault with the pedestrians! Similarly, the parents (esp. the mother) expect the D I L to

do all the household chores even if she has a descent job but wants the S I L to help their daughter in household
chores even if she is just a home maker! :decision:
 
With only sons and no daughters, my mother was quite clever and managed to get the 'kalloral, ammi, ural' jobs done by us brothers. We resented it not because it is lady's job, but interfered with our outside activities.
 

Wow, Sarang Sir! For a change, I assisted my mom while doing all odd jobs like changing the washer of a leaking

pipe, enamel paint for small surfaces, driving a nail in the wall etc! Even now I am the 'engineeri' in my family!

My in-laws often say, 'Call Raji manni! She can do it!' when there is some sort of repair work!

A few years back, I painted all the windows and grills, when our painter absconded after finishing the wall painting!

And, our sweet home has 11 huge + two small windows.

Born with a screw driver or may be a tool kit! :D
 
Raji Ram said:

Wow, Sarang Sir! For a change, I assisted my mom while doing all odd jobs like changing the washer of a leaking

pipe, enamel paint for small surfaces, driving a nail in the wall etc! Even now I am the 'engineeri' in my family!

My in-laws often say, 'Call Raji manni! She can do it!' when there is some sort of repair work!

A few years back, I painted all the windows and grills, when our painter absconded after finishing the wall painting!

And, our sweet home has 11 huge + two small windows.

Born with a screw driver or may be a tool kit! :D
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You are one among many "Pudhumai Penns" in true sense.. :)
 
tbs said:
hi
may be PUDUMAI MAAMUYAAR too....now became a PUDUMAI PAATTI too...lol
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tbs,

i think pudhumai mamiyar and paattis have slipped into our midst without our knowing.

i have a very pretty 50 year old girl cousin, a dancer, who when she became a grandma, none of us could understand appreciate or acknowledge - all in the best sense of the words. because she is so youthful, cheerful, a public figure, an epitome of assertion of life beyond widowhood, a charmer, a caring mother and above all worshipped by her students.

she turns more heads than her daughter or younger women. she to me, ever an admirer, is the epitome of pudhumai paattis..the paatti in her, is only to her grandson. to the rest of the world she is SOMEBODY.

the liberation of women in the past 25 years, has done wonders to our female tambrams. folks like raji, so well endowed, i am quite sure, had she been willling to go out and perform and be a public figure, could have achieved it without any doubt. look at how much visalakshi writes. these are etched in cyber print forever..milleniums will pass, but these will remain, and some day, a sociologist or anthropoligist might make this forum a topic of their study. who knows?

in addition to exultating in this welcome change, we might also want to reflect a few moments - on the potentials of those women, which have been destroyed, over the past milleniums, to be social norms religion manu and such - which deliberately condemned one half of the human race to serfdom of one kind or the other. in our own case, we conveniently sought the wealth of the widows, by shaving their, feeding them leftover and consigning them to the back of the house as ill omen.

in the above context, today's progress, and what we perceive as 'too much freeedom' is nothing but catching up and an momentary chance to bask under the sun, that we call freedom. may it continue, and never never be extinguished.
 

Now see this new problem faced by guys in Sehore district in Madhya Pradesh to get a bride!

TOI reports:

The local administration has made the picture of the groom along with the toilet a mandatory

requirement for getting registered for mass marriage ceremonies and avail benefits under the

Mukhyamantri Kanyadan Yojana (MKY).

Not only does a groom with a toilet in his house get to register for a mass wedding organised

and paid for by the government, the couple also gets Rs 15,000 and other gifts from the govt.


Source: Want a bride in MP? Pose in a toilet!
 
Raji Ram said:

Thank you Kunjuppu Sir for your appreciation to me and my Sis! :)
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raji,

from this distance of time, and space, i would like to imagine, your household was something similar to 'little women' by louisa may alcott.

always loved that story. wanted a large family of older sisters. had none. only one younger sister and that too 8 years younger. lonely and strict childhood.

envy with longing when i hear of large families of siblings. though not always all of them are happy. i have come across a few which are so dysfunctional, that i am happy for me and sis... :) no politics with us. only love.
 

Dear Kunjuppu Sir,

The story 'Little women' - four sisters.

We too were four + a sandwich brother! ;)

I found many common features too!

First one taking care of the younger ones while mom is away!

Second one tomboyish, jolly and at times with hot temper!

Third one shy, gentle and musical!

Fourth one pale, slender and petted by eveyone!
 
No I didn't even know there was a sequel. Meg and Amy are the types I find "ideal". Jo was outrageous although now, today I like her a lot more than I did, I can say that. At that time she was totally not my type at all. Unfortunately I feel I'm more Jo and I don't like that! I want to be Meg/Amy. The other one is a complete wallflower. I don't even remember her. No impression lasting or fleeting. I'd hate to be her though :D
 
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