Women and engineer problem in marriage

[Delhi6]

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To every one on this board, If i have ruffled some feathers I am really sorry. I should not have posted on a thread that deals with a communities marriage but being an ass that I am, I did.

As to whats a Punju doing on a TB forum, please read my intro post as well as my post on whats a TB culture. I have been showered with loads of affection by an Iyengar family so have developed a soft spot for your community.
God bless you guys

 

[Delhi6]

I have not heard this language in last 40 years. It is a hoot.
Thanks for lightning the mood.
Welcome to the site, hope you stick around.

Errr. I will take it as a compliment. I may have been incoherent in my post but I was well meaning.If you felt hurt in anyway or I didn't make sense then my apologies. Anyhow will continue to lurk and will post ONLY on non controversial topics. Or maybe not.

Khota hoon main(I am an ass [ Donkey; rasabha] not the other one)

 

[Delhi6]

One more thing I am going out of station for a few days. Will return on 3rd of June. Should anybody send brickbats my way or demand an apology/explanation, they will have to wait for 3rd June
( unless my last fews posts go through moderation before 3 am , 29/05/2013 and somebody replies to them before that time )

 

[KRS]

Dear Sri Delhi6 Ji,

This Forum is for anyone and everyone, as long as they don't misrepresent themselves. Despite the Forum name, it is not just for the TB community. We welcome your views.

Regards,
KRS

To every one on this board, If i have ruffled some feathers I am really sorry. I should not have posted on a thread that deals with a communities marriage but being an ass that I am, I did.

As to whats a Punju doing on a TB forum, please read my intro post as well as my post on whats a TB culture. I have been showered with loads of affection by an Iyengar family so have developed a soft spot for your community.
God bless you guys

 

[Delhi6]

I have not heard this language in last 40 years. It is a hoot.
Thanks for lightning the mood.
Welcome to the site, hope you stick around.

Prasadji,

Are you 40? Even if so, I shall take your words as a compliment. :biggrin1:

 

[Delhi6]

​Ok paa, Abhisheik!

Raji Ma'am,

What does paa mean?

My Tamil vocabulary is limited to thatha, paathi, chitti, chittappa,periamma,periappa,seri,chumma and parkalam.

PS: I didn't google cos wanted to increase my word count in order to escape tyranny of moderation.

 

[tbs]

hi'


3. Aaj kal ki kudiyaan bhery bhery bad.

haan ji....kisne bola ....jaise punjabi meih kahte hai......JATT JATTNI SE KAHAA....AGAR IS GAAV MEIN RAHNA TOH

UUNTU KO BILLI LE GAYII...HAAN JI .. HAAN JI KAHNA HAI....AAJ KAL MUNDA BHI THEEK NAHI....KUDIYON KA BAATH

CHODO....PIND TO VICH KUSH RAHO BHAI....

 

[Delhi6]

Ravi Praa,

I again looked at your response and my replies to that.
I can assure you the only reason I engaged you was the broad brush with which you were painting(at least that is what I perceived). My response to you was civil as your post didnt have virulence of other posters( Its another thing that I found tone to be increasingly despondent. Maybe its my confusion as you say).

Hopefully no bad blood.

Regards
Abhisheik

 

[Delhi6]

hi'


3. Aaj kal ki kudiyaan bhery bhery bad.

haan ji....kisne bola ....jaise punjabi meih kahte hai......JATT JATTNI SE KAHAA....AGAR IS GAAV MEIN RAHNA TOH

UUNTU KO BILLI LE GAYII...HAAN JI .. HAAN JI KAHNA HAI....AAJ KAL MUNDA BHI THEEK NAHI....KUDIYON KA BAATH

CHODO....PIND TO VICH KUSH RAHO BHAI....

Ok. I got the hint. Will desist from posting in this forum or at best in threads which are not so sensitive in nature. I will merely lurk.

Regards
Abhisheik

 

[prasad1]

Errr. I will take it as a compliment. I may have been incoherent in my post but I was well meaning.If you felt hurt in anyway or I didn't make sense then my apologies. Anyhow will continue to lurk and will post ONLY on non controversial topics. Or maybe not.



Khota hoon main(I am an ass [ Donkey; rasabha] not the other one)

Yes sir it was a compliment. Here in this site everything is controversial, and confrontational. You need to be able to stand your ground, we expect nothing less. But it is all discussion, we do not go beyond that. Then there is a moderator, who keeps the lid down so it never boils over.

So again, welcome to the site.

 

[renuka]

Dear Ravi,


Bhestern influenza: is a Punjabi slang word for Western Influence.

 

[renuka]

Ok. I got the hint. Will desist from posting in this forum or at best in threads which are not so sensitive in nature. I will merely lurk.

Regards
Abhisheik

Dear Abhisheik,

Please continue posting actively after you come back from your trip.

Many of us are enjoying your post...keep up the Punjabi/Hindi words too!

BTW..this forum has many members who are not TBs too ranging from North to South of India and also from other countries and we also have a Causacian member..so please stay on and have fun!

 

[Raji Ram]

Raji Ma'am,

What does paa mean?.........

Oh! It is the way we fondly call the youngsters.

Some of us use 'paa' when talking to ladies our age group too!

Got it paa??

 

[Raji Ram]

Dear Renu,

Ram used to say a famous sentence in Calcutta - now Kolkata:

'BhenkatrAmA, BhenkatrAmA, bhai do you bhAndar in this bherAndA?'

 

[sangom]

Ok. I got the hint. Will desist from posting in this forum or at best in threads which are not so sensitive in nature. I will merely lurk.

Regards
Abhisheik

Shri Abhisheik,

Your posts are very enjoyable. Kindly continue your active participation.

I am waiting for your "one other poster who I am very tempted to toy around with( blame my new age tidsy bidsy time passer wisdom for that)."

 

[C RAVI]

Ravi Bhai,

You find my post irrelevant. So be it. I genuinely meant good for you and as a guy I thought I should express what was coming across as despondency to me.

Also it seems some miscommunication has been there so find my clarifications nested in your reply.

Again this NOT to put you down.



Peace.

Oooyyeee Paape Delhi6,

I see that your are member here only since April, 2013. That is, hardly for a month or two. And I see couple of posts in other threads where you are making hue and cry for not making your post appearing here, being held for moderation. I have not used any Hindi wordings in English for quit a long time, in this forum.

How come you could sense that I know Hindi and passed some of your comments, unsolicited advice, suggestions etc in Hindi to me, in two of your previous posts??

That's why I say, I doubt very much that, you are representing some member and making ridiculous post, addressing me. Some one else is the defacto poster of your posts.

Your's North and South Indian mixed background, your style of writing addressing me and your tone clearly shows me your despondent and desperate state of affair with which you are making all irrelevant posts, addressing me, without understanding what I am saying, without understaind my firm stand on the facts in line with the thread topic etc, on your behalf as well as on some one else behalf.

Don't worry Delhi6 Bhai, I am not considering that you are attempting to put me down. Because, I have found your post as hilariously refreshing.

 

[sangom]

Oooyyeee Paape Delhi6,

I see that your are member here only since April, 2013. That is, hardly for a month or two. And I see couple of posts in other threads where you are making hue and cry for not making your post appearing here, being held for moderation. I have not used any Hindi wordings in English for quit a long time, in this forum.

How come you could sense that I know Hindi and passed some of your comments, unsolicited advice, suggestions etc in Hindi to me, in two of your previous posts??

That's why I say, I doubt very much that, you are representing some member and making ridiculous post, addressing me. Some one else is the defacto poster of your posts.

Guess who?

 

[C RAVI]

Ravi Praa,

Dear Mr.Praveen/Moderator,


Kindly advice this Delhi6 to not to address me with funny punjabi tittles/words along with my name. As well using Oye, that is equal to "Dai" in Tamil. I don't know if this fellow is using a slang Punjabi word that is meant to disrespect and sarcastically calling/addressing me.

Even if he comes up saying what's the meaning of such usage and that it's not wrong, I can not accept this. This is supposed to be a descent TB forum and kindly advice him to address all the members here properly that can be understood by all of us here.

If he is not been advised, considering it's his right and the liberty that this forum offers to all, I know how to give him back in Hindi, using the same liberty that this forum hopefully offers me.

 

[C RAVI]

Guess who?

Shri Sangom,

I am dead sure!!

Just avoiding unnecessary hue and cry in this forum and giving headache to Mr.Praveen and Moderator.

 

[amala]

Ravi it is very very clear that you don't find his post "hilariously refreshing" but in fact quite the opposite. He has got you sooo mad to the max and riled you up bigggg time . Moderators can censor bad/abusive words and all he has done is call you brother and that's bugging you right?! And if you can give him back why don't you instead of creating a scene? He has been quite magnanimous to your rude put downs in fact.

 

[renuka]

Dear Mr.Praveen/Moderator,


Kindly advice this Delhi6 to not to address me with funny punjabi tittles/words along with my name. As well using Oye, that is equal to "Dai" in Tamil. I don't know if this fellow is using a slang Punjabi word that is meant to disrespect and sarcastically calling/addressing me.

Even if he comes up saying what's the meaning of such usage and that it's not wrong, I can not accept this. This is supposed to be a descent TB forum and kindly advice him to address all the members here properly that can be understood by all of us here.

If he is not been advised, considering it's his right and the liberty that this forum offers to all, I know how to give him back in Hindi, using the same liberty that this forum hopefully offers me.

Are yaar,

Delhi6 is just being friendly.

When I was in college....Delhi guys used to address each other as Oye Behen Ch@# at times..really close friends that too.

So compared to that...Delhi6 is so Kosher yaar!

Praa in Punjabi just means Brother!

 

[C RAVI]

Are yaar,

Delhi6 is just being friendly.

When I was in college....Delhi guys used to address each other as Oye Behen Ch@# at times..really close friends that too.

So compared to that...Delhi6 is so Kosher yaar!

Praa in Punjabi just means Brother!

How come Delhi6 become my close friend so soon? When he even dunno me and don't understand my stand in this thread or in any thread for that matter??

Btw, I can understand your position (and that of other member) your are taking for him.


Dear Mr.Praveen/Moderator,

I would like to re-iterate my stand, considering oppositions expressed in post no.595 & 596 to my request.

I am not demanding you to advice Delhi6 to accept my request BUT most importantly to give me the same liberty to give him back in Hindi or in Sindhi (to the extent I could know the meaning of those Hindi and Sindhi terms), as I deem fit

Dear Mr.Praveen/Moderator,


Kindly advice this Delhi6 to not to address me with funny punjabi tittles/words along with my name. As well using Oye, that is equal to "Dai" in Tamil. I don't know if this fellow is using a slang Punjabi word that is meant to disrespect and sarcastically calling/addressing me.

Even if he comes up saying what's the meaning of such usage and that it's not wrong, I can not accept this. This is supposed to be a descent TB forum and kindly advice him to address all the members here properly that can be understood by all of us here.

If he is not been advised, considering it's his right and the liberty that this forum offers to all, I know how to give him back in Hindi, using the same liberty that this forum hopefully offers me.

 

[renuka]

Oooyyeee Paape Delhi6,

Dear Ravi,

When you have called him back

Oooyyeee Paape Delhi6,.

why are you even complaining that he called you Oye?

Some people are friendly by nature..remember there used to be some friendly member before I cant remember his name (may be Ashok) ...he used to ask Why Why Why..and started a thread about what is the benefit of praying to God?

He used to call you Thalaiva within a few post itself...so what say you?

 

[C RAVI]

Dear Ravi,

When you have called him back why are you even complaining that he called you Oye?

I have the right to give him back with "Dai", that doesn't mean that I would like to continue to receive and continue to give in this manner.

Neither I can bear such idiotic behavior (especially when he is just 1 or 2 months old here) nor I have the interest to get to his level

 

[XLR8R]

I think you are quite mature. You should consider marrying somebody 5 years older than you.

But that means you need to start searching now, if you want to marry somebody less than 30!

I really don't mind a 30+ year old either, or a divorcee or any such, because at the end of the day, all physical things, beauty and personal problems aside, the compatibility of mindsets and mutual understanding/agreement are more important than all of these. That being said, I still have a couple years of extra qualification and setting up to do before I look into it. Rushing into things like this will only lead to disappointment

I have only 1 requirement for my future DIL.


1)The moment my son and her get married..move out of the house and stay on their own.
So my advise to them would be that look for a house a few months before [COLOR=#DA7911 !important]marriage[/COLOR]..so the moment they get married they are on their own.

I actually think this is a good idea, because both the newlyweds must learn to be self-sufficient in every possible respect and not influenced/advised in any manner. Living on your own is a good way, of course some things will be more difficult, but then you can form your own experiences and I believe it is better for overall personal growth. Of course, one should be there if one's parents need him/her....

These girls are nuts..they are super rich in India ..when you can be King in your land why go to USA and start from the scratch and not live like a King??

Because in India, they and their kids still have to work hard and struggle to get to a decent position in life, whereas you can make a decent living without as hard a struggle in countries like the USA. The girls in this case look for

a) A status symbol
b) An easy way out ("freedom", like Raji Ram said)
c) Freedom from societal restrictions

Point (c) can be managed quite easily even within India, it's not a huge issue actually. Points (a) and (b) are the major things here.
Point (b) is the "free ticket". A lot of south Indian girls try and look for the free ticket. Can't do on their own effort? Marry a guy who can!

that is they love to stare at girls especially if dress is slightly revealing.

Actually, staring in itself is not a bad thing, but how you stare defines it. I mean, I do give a quick glance to some girls' faces from time to time and generally speaking they are usually staring right back at me
Depends on what you are staring at. I look at the face basically and think she's cute or good looking. Now some people concern themselves with other parts (even women).....

But the Sahasranalocana stare is different...it is not a stare and NOT a glance.

Yes, I know about it and I know how it feels and believe it or not I have had women give me this stare.

By 'FREEDOM', I meant that no elder will be around to control them which often happens, if they live with

the in laws here! Some girls specifically ask for a groom settled in the U S of A with roots in India!

eh, if this is the problem then I guess this isn't a problem I'd be having.... ]

I am very uncomfortable with women wearing a full burkha that even covers their eyes. How then do we know who they are ogling?

By looking at their hand movements. They will reveal themselves to you if they really find you that attractive.

Males somehow are not 100% comfortable with an intelligent female.

So the trick is to make a male believe that he is smarter than a female and let him live in that bliss...(when in reality the female might be smarter).

Not really, smartness is a very attractive trait you know
Smarter than me? Well, why not

If a 6 feet drop dead good looking [COLOR=#DA7911 !important]Greek God[/COLOR] comes down to earth..surely any women will look.

Well, I'm not 6 foot tall but as far as being looked at goes, I do okay

Another thing I dont understand. If Punjabi men are successful in stealing TB gals using their physicality, why are TB guys unsuccessful or unwilling to seduce Punjabi gals using their brain power?

Who says it doesn't happen? One of my nephews is half-Punjabi

Who wants brain power? The guy AND his salary should be handsome!

It's not correct that salary is the only factor. Well, maybe for Tamil girls. I know a lot of girls who appreciate brain power.

Same family, same background, but different outlook?

Or why do TB guys find TB gals to be good looking, but not vice versa? Similar gene pool, ain't it?

Matter of upbringing. I have already touched on this before. I can, however, say that thought I don't have six pack abs, my hands and legs are pretty well built