women domination

[Brahin]

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Girls you are going to love this.

..according to religion all power has been given to female....if men want money he has to do laxmi pooja if he wants mind he has to do saraswati pooja & if he wants power he has to do durga pooja.

 

[tbs]

You know more than 3/4 world do not have arranged marriage system but they are also happily married.
Having expectations is not a hall mark of a love marriage.Having expectations is a human trait that rears its ugly head when we have motives.
I still say marriage is a marriage and arranged or love makes no differences.

In our Purans most marriages are based on Love that too at 1st sight.What is important in a marriage is Love and that can come from both arranged and love marriages.
Anyway even in arranged marriages there is surely some element of attraction.Thats also some form of "lovvu" isnt it?
Only when we feel that "Kickku" in our heart we will consent to the mappilai/ponnu isnt it?

I only felt that "Kickku" when my hubby came to view me.All other guys I didnt feel anything so I said no to all of them and said yes only to my husband.
So even in arranged marriage there is still Love at first sight.

hi renu,
the real " kickku" is in romantic love before marriage....generally in love.....in arranged marriage" kickku" is much less when compared

to love marriage...becoz LOVE IS BLIND...SO KICKKU IS BLIND TOO....but every கிக்கு has side affects,,,,,

regards
tbs

 

[renuka]

hi renu,
the real " kickku" is in romantic love before marriage....generally in love.....in arranged marriage" kickku" is much less when compared

to love marriage...becoz LOVE IS BLIND...SO KICKKU IS BLIND TOO....but every கிக்கு has side affects,,,,,

regards
tbs

Hey Tbs,

Whatever the Kickku is, Love or Arranged Marriage... Life is the same.
This songs explains well.

ohoho kicku yerudhe
ohoho vetkam ponadhe

uLLukkuley nyaanam oorudhe
uNNmai ellaam solla thonudhe

verum kampangali thinnavanum mannukkuLLa
ada thangapaspam thinnavanum mannukkuLLa

indha vaazhkai vaazha thaan
naam pirakkayil kaiyil enna kondu vandhom kondhu
sella?

(ohoho..)

paNaththai pooti vaithai
vairathai pooti vaithai
uyirai poota edhu pootu?

kuzhandhai nyaani, indha iruvarai thavira
inge sugamaai iruppadhu yaar kaatu

jeevan irukkummattum
vaazhkai namadhumattum
idhudhaan nyaanasidhdhar paatu

indha bhoomi samam namakku
nam theruvukkuL
madasandai jaadhidsandai vambyerdharkku?

(ohoho...)

thaayai therndhekkum
thandhayai therndhekkum
urimai unnidhathil illai

mugaththai therndhekkum
niraththai therndhekkum
urimai unnidhathil illai

pirappai therndhekkum
irappai therndhekkum
urimai unnidhathil illai

eNNi paarkkum vELaiyil
un vaazhkai mattum
undhan kaiyil undu
adhai vendridu!



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[tbs]

hi rekka,
thanks a lot....

regards
tbs

 

[Haridasa Siva]

Renu,

I agree there is love at first sight in arranged marriages too. I myself have experience in this regard. When my Dad referred to me the profiles of about 5-6 girls, I chose one. We went and saw that girl and arranged to fix the marriage. The next week we had our engagement and we are now happily married. Just before girl-seeing, my father proposed two (including my then would-be wife). I was "evaluating" both the proposals and the balance was tilting towards the other girl. But then I sai, "No, Dad. I don't want to miss ....(my wife)" and the rest is history.

Neither did I belittle Love Marriage. As I mentioned, one tries to project a fair image to another and it is over a period of time. There is romance (or "kikku" as you say) and it perhaps blinds one to the faults of another. After marriage, the "noise of brushing the teeth" starts the first irritation. In arranged marriage, you do not know about the other person. So, the same noise would still be irritating but would not come as a shock or disappointment.

I do agree that the whole world is on love marriage but whether they are happy is relative.

Any relationship is good only till one person is a door mat. (It is a saying I read somewhere)

 

[renuka]

Renu,

I agree there is love at first sight in arranged marriages too. I myself have experience in this regard. When my Dad referred to me the profiles of about 5-6 girls, I chose one. We went and saw that girl and arranged to fix the marriage. The next week we had our engagement and we are now happily married. Just before girl-seeing, my father proposed two (including my then would-be wife). I was "evaluating" both the proposals and the balance was tilting towards the other girl. But then I sai, "No, Dad. I don't want to miss ....(my wife)" and the rest is history.

Neither did I belittle Love Marriage. As I mentioned, one tries to project a fair image to another and it is over a period of time. There is romance (or "kikku" as you say) and it perhaps blinds one to the faults of another. After marriage, the "noise of brushing the teeth" starts the first irritation. In arranged marriage, you do not know about the other person. So, the same noise would still be irritating but would not come as a shock or disappointment.

I do agree that the whole world is on love marriage but whether they are happy is relative.

Any relationship is good only till one person is a door mat. (It is a saying I read somewhere)

I get your point.But may be the arranged marriage scenario here is a bit different.Here we are allowed to go out with the prospective bride/groom after the elders have given the nod and date of marriage fixed and engagement taken place and we have say some 6 months sometimes to get to know the prospective spouse.

So that time its like a love marriage only..where we get to go on dates,watch movies,go to the beach and even the guy goes down on one knee and proposes to the girl.Cos in that time gap before we marry there is enough time for Romance.

 

[C RAVI]

First of all, as a Man and as a Woman, have the maturity, courage and acceptance towards own faults and weakness.

Have the attitude to understand partner's "plus" and "minus" and be generous to accept the later.

Give priority to the family values and have some "take it easy policy" to be happy and at peace without compromising with love and care.

Consider your partner as an ordinary human being as oneself with feelings, emotions, strength and weakness.

Have better understanding of human psychology and give space and time to the partner..

Have the attitude and the ability to understand partner's personality. And believe that he/she is not deliberately being wrong.


Believe that certain arguments, disagreements, mood swings etc etc are just spices of life that can further enhance the love towards partner.

Believe that "to make a person trustworthy, trust him".

Believe that "Domination is not the Satisfaction". Believe that "Consultation and evaluation is the Perfection"

If we could achieve the above, a marriage relationship can withstand till the journey is over with peace and love, care and compassion & satisfaction and fulfillment, in both love and arranged marriage, with the great fascinating feel of "Kickcku" and "Jollu", IMO.

 

[nachi naga]

enna pannaradhu, 20 varushathile neraiaya anubavichiruppar ungal wife, so after taking care of you and the children, she must be tired, Why don't you both get away for a week or even a weekend.. just like that.. it might be nice for both of you..

wife is just a legal term.love transcends it.became monogamous after marriage.she is a rare dodo bird.they dont make people like her anymore,bushu.its been over 6 months since we lived under the same roof.my heart aches and pines.i keep my chin up and put an act of soberness while inside my heart is "kodharified".all i want now is to see our kids shape up well become happy forever.i pray every day to the lord within me and outside of me.shivanum shakthiyum onru.

 

[nachi naga]

Girls you are going to love this.

..according to religion all power has been given to female....if men want money he has to do laxmi pooja if he wants mind he has to do saraswati pooja & if he wants power he has to do durga pooja.

and all the three goddesses dereive the power from lord narayanan,lord brahmaa,lord shiva respectively.ardha-nariswarars.

 

[Raji Ram]

Sorry to read your post # 158, NN Sir.

We can only pray for normalcy to return in your home and make you and your children happy, again! :dance:

 

[biswa]

and I understand your point well.. no matter what anyone says Men do have a very big ego, I think it is cultural and the makeup of their being.. I guess, no matter what we will be the nurturers.. but that is ok... in fact I grew up with my Dad, my uncles doting on me and I understand men better sometimes than I do women.

Ma'am I would likely to humbly submit that ego is not the exclusive preserve of men. Remember Indira Gandhi, Margaret Thatcher, even J Jayalalitha? Even in earlier times before the presence of women in the corporate and political world, the ego would take the form of:
"My son says that my sambar is even tastier than his wife's"
or
"My husband thinks I am the prettiest woman in the neighbourhood."

As long as there is aham, there will be ahamkar, male or female.

 

[Raji Ram]

.............
"My son says that my sambar is even tastier than his wife's"...

I have my own doubt whether any son will have the 'courage' to say this!! :blabla:

 

[nachi naga]

cooking women dominate.women do a better in home cooking but in hotels i think men are pro ..

 

[Raji Ram]

Cooking in a hotel is difficult and tiresome. Thats why men do better. But I have heard many cook mamas

in SinArach Chennai (they come forward to give their visiting cards (!) to everyone eating lunch / dinner

in wedding parties) say that they eat ONLY after returning from work, 'maami made' home food.... even if

it is 'vaththak kozhambu' and 'chutta appaLam'!

:hungry:

 

[Raji Ram]

.................Thats also some form of "lovvu" isnt it?
Only when we feel that "Kickku" in our heart we will consent to the mappilai/ponnu isnt it? ................

You are right, Renu! That 'kickku' is felt when the girl meets the right guy for her. It is NOT enough now a days.

He must have lot of 'buckku' in his bank account and then only the girl will give him a 'lookku' and say her 'lovvu'!!

:hug:

 

[amala]

Yes mami because paying the bills, food etc cannot be done with just lovvu, looku and kikku na. Thats why!

 

[Raji Ram]

... because paying the bills, food etc cannot be done with just lovvu, looku and kikku na. ...

Cool, Amala! A down to earth observation!! :spy:

 

[biswa]

I have my own doubt whether any son will have the 'courage' to say this!! :blabla:

That is true. But imagine, if a son did say that, wouldn't it be a nice boost to the ego?

 

[Raji Ram]

That is true. But imagine, if a son did say that, wouldn't it be a nice boost to the ego?

Yes! If and only if!:amen:

 

[Subhalakshmi]

Ma'am I would likely to humbly submit that ego is not the exclusive preserve of men. Remember Indira Gandhi, Margaret Thatcher, even J Jayalalitha? Even in earlier times before the presence of women in the corporate and political world, the ego would take the form of:
"My son says that my sambar is even tastier than his wife's"
or
"My husband thinks I am the prettiest woman in the neighbourhood."

As long as there is aham, there will be ahamkar, male or female.

I do agree on that point, ego is not only for men, but for women too.. in fact, that is what the whole problem is with marriage.. unnecessary ego, standing in the way of happiness.. It is ok to have a little I suppose it is like this " அதிகமானால் அமிர்தமும் விஷம"

About men versus woman cooks, I think again they are equally good.. my son cooks so good so does my new SIL, my daughters are not any less.. My amma, chithi and MIL are great cooks.. In fact my ex and his brothers always praise their mother's cooking in front of their wives and thankfully none of us minded it.. I guess we recognized that the same thing could happen to us.. hehehehee!!!

 

[nachi naga]

Cooking in a hotel is difficult and tiresome. Thats why men do better. But I have heard many cook mamas

in SinArach Chennai (they come forward to give their visiting cards (!) to everyone eating lunch / dinner

in wedding parties) say that they eat ONLY after returning from work, 'maami made' home food.... even if

it is 'vaththak kozhambu' and 'chutta appaLam'!

:hungry:

Going to prepare, 'vaththak kozhambu' and 'chutta appaLam'!

:hungry:.danks for the reminder.

 

[nachi naga]

engay nimmadhi engay nimadhi annggay ennak oru idham vendhum.....i think remaining bachelor is cool no women domination appadha

 

[Subhalakshmi]

engay nimmadhi engay nimadhi annggay ennak oru idham vendhum.....i think remaining bachelor is cool no women domination appadha

)) I suppose in some ways it is fine, but the question is as we get older, we do need someone to be in the same house, just a companion and someone who would care enough to at least give us some headache medicine.. ) Hey it is an individual thing, nobody will force you.. You have to feel it right..

By the way, if men thought you don't need woman to tell you what to do.. I guess there will be family no children, no NOTHING.. It is all in the attitude.. how you take anything.. )

 

[kunjuppu]

Going to prepare, 'vaththak kozhambu' and 'chutta appaLam'!

:hungry:.danks for the reminder.

actually, try paruppu thogayal. it is also a great accompanyment. very very easy.

Kavithavin Kaivannam: Paruppu Thogayal

 

[amala]

By the way, if men thought you don't need woman to tell you what to do.. I guess there will be family no children, no NOTHING.. It is all in the attitude.. how you take anything.. )

What does this mean? To have family and no children no nothing? Not sure i understand this!